How To Handle Passive Aggressive People

Don't Forget to SUBSCRIBE!

One of those difficult and unhealthy or toxic behaviors that many of us have to deal with is passive aggressive behavior. This behavior is often referred to as covert aggression. It's one of those behaviors that we need to be aware of because it can be sneaky and really leave us feeling confused, angry or frustrated when someone is passive aggressive with us. Today, we are going to talk about the harm it can have on our important relationships, and how to deal with passive aggressive behavior.

____________

_____________

Stay Connected with Me:

[juliakristinamah]

What kind of passive aggressive behaviour do you have to deal with most?

[achromatic]

I notice when you call someone out, they'll just say they were joking...quite common in bullying, too

[SR]

It's annoying. They're weak in communication, mean spirited, somevare envious, but not brave enough to be direct. Immature and difficult people. 😒🤦🏽‍♀️

[cherigreen]

I think it is also jealousy and a way to insult and hurt someone they feel threatened by.

[p.g.u.d]

I actually believe that being straight forward is the very best way to connect.

[ilovehouse]

Another reason why it’s so hard to deal with passive aggressive people is that they can be counter punchers. When you point out their behavior that bothers you they will simply point out something about you they don’t like either. So nothing really gets solved because they will not allow you to isolate the main issue. The best way to win is not to play and avoid these toxic people.

[johanluzi]

I set boundaries; I go No Contact; I´ll go Grey Rock. Period.

[DanaeLaurenTolbert]

Passive aggressive behavior can get physical too. For instance, when a person walks by you and there's plenty of room to walk by you and they "accidentally" brush against you.

[m-bronte]

These people who use these behaviors are in my opinion....unhappy, insecure, jealous and finally need that ego boost to feel better, it's really just sad. Usually I don't respond, walk away or down right pretend I didn't hear them. Silence is golden sometimes, I also pray for them. :-)

[caracarolina]

That’s an illusion to believe passive aggressive people will learn or change for you! They never do!

[suep]

NO!!!! The reason we have to deal with so much passive aggressive behaviour is because its TOLERATED. Its easier to tell the victims they got it wrong, or they're too sensitive- than punish the passive aggressive behaviour which is actually then being rewarded.

[stephencirving]

What they want is you to get angry. So get angry. That’s what I’ve learnt. The sooner you get angry at them and tell them off the sooner it stops and doesn’t escalate. Just don’t feel bad about it at all. If it becomes too annoying cut them.

[NatasjavanDijknah]

Most of these ppl will not change so be very very careful with being vulnerable with them. Certainly don't expect, or maybe even hope, that they will pick up / learn from you, that makes you even more vulnerable to their needs.

[abeat]

This is enlightening. I thought I am with a relationship with someone who is passive- aggressive, only to realized I am the passive- aggressor- pointing out all the classic characteristic of it; avoiding conflicts, silent treatment, even gaslighting. Thanks for this video- I’m glad to know I need to work on myself....👍

[jennifer]

Passive aggressive perpetrator: "Congratulations on the new job. How did you manage that?"
Me: "I worked my ass off. You should try it some time." (Then smile and walk away.)

If they say they were just joking or didn't mean to insult you, smile and reply in kind, "Oh, I was just joking, too."

They'll think twice before insulting you again.

[jboquiren]

Passive aggressiveness is a chickensh*t way of expressing one's true feelings. The culture I grew up in are masters at this kind of behavior.

[cocoann]

My whole life I was around passive aggressive people. I don’t like being around them too much anymore

[mymonahalkhalaf]

I always deal with passive aggressive by being aggressive and ask them immediately to explain what they meant by what they just said, most of the time they become afraid and say they don’t mean anything or they deny that their words have bad intentions so I respond if your words are meaningless then don’t say them! I hate to be mean but I think this is the only way to shut them and make them never doing it again with me

[peepsicle]

I recognize that passive aggressive behavior usually comes from a place of the person feeling threatened. It’s difficult to deal with people who are so unaware of their own feelings that every interaction they have with everyone in their lives is motivated by jealousy and cowardice. But just knowing that someone is having such low self esteem that they refuse to address people directly doesn’t fix it. I can feel empathy towards someone and yet still know that they’re toxic. The best way to deal with passive aggressive people: Don’t.

[ZhannurAndirova]

Ugh, I just hate passive-aggressive people. I've been living with the one for four years now and at this point, I can't stand her. Even her presence is irritating. She uses all the techniques you mentioned. She used to insult my style, my appearance, and my social skills. And she always laughs and turns it into a "joke". I honestly developed so many insecurities about myself that I didn't have before. She also ignores me often times when I ask her to clean the room or wash dishes. Or she comes up with tons of excuses for not doing the chores that I just don't know what to answer anymore. My life with passive-aggressive roommate became such a hell that I decided to move out next semester. I'm done. These people never change. Next time I meet someone passive-aggressive, I'm gonna be just "no, not this shit again".