How to Deal with Passive Aggressive Behaviors and Comments

How to Deal with Passive Aggressive Behaviors and Comments

We have all had to deal with some form of passive aggressive behavior or comments in our relationships.
But what exactly is passive aggressive behavior and how do we deal with it?

In this video we will be reviewing what aggressive behavior is, where it comes from, and how to address it in your relationships.

Be sure to watch until the end for all of our tips and feel free to comment below with any questions or scenarios that you would like help on how to address.

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[soaringfamiliescounseling]

Comment below with any questions on dealing with passive aggressive behavior or any situations you would like to review. :)

[jaywilliams]

As someone who is used being around aggressive and assertive ppl I find that passive agressive ppl make me uncomfortable so I create a distance between me and them . And im much happier that way

[petalsjones]

This is good for mild, passive-aggressive individuals, but for experienced and cruel individuals, you need to walk away, no run. They are vindictive and evil and can make your life a living hell.

[sexygirl]

I can’t stand this behavior so many people are like this. I stay far away.

[mimibee]

Passive aggressive people say things to be digging and offensive in a backhanded way. It's that simple

[TheSnorlax]

My boss would always end on an "Okay..." under her breath every time I spoke. Like I was tiresome to listen to... Really irritating.

[vanessarodrigues]

I agree with you, however people that make passive agressive remarks just make me want to snap😢

[chrisd]

It has been my experience, especially with coworkers, that passive aggressive behavior is a way for some to shutdown communication. You can ask them what is wrong and get " nothing is wrong" or " calm down I'm not trying to take your job" as a response. They often won't even acknowledge their behavior and then make you feel like you're the one with the problem. I leave them alone.

[willardtheband]

Confront them directly and when they lie to you, they'll villainize you and tell themselves they had to in order to be safe. However that's how everyone justifies their lies and hypocrisy. Do as I say and not as I do.

[nateiverson]

What's helped me is working on my own passive aggressive tendencies.

Being passive aggressive back usually ends poorly.

And if someone is being passive aggressive, I notice they tend to be passive aggressive toward many people.

[UnderTheSameSun]

I grew up in a very assertive family. That are very direct with their aggression. If they don't like you, you will know.

I have more respect for people who are direct with their aggression, than those who try to smile in your face but loathe you.

Its two faced and cowardice.

I respect you a lot more if you tell me to my face how you feel.

Im in the era of my life where passive aggressive people are getting cut out of my life.

Or Ill pull an uno reverse and start being passive aggressive back. If you respond with hostility towards them, they can twist your reaction into portraying you as the aggressor.

[bestill]

I am a recovering passive aggressive person and I saw what I was doing and wanted to change. I'm doing better and trying hard to be direct and kind.

[Blobbert_]

That’s a really good question to ask when ppl are passive aggressive. Oftentimes they really are expressing their needs….but usually we think they just want to take a dig at others

[scottslattery]

Confront these people logically with no emotion and challenge their statement. Through time they’ll learn you’re not an easy victim because you are calm and have control over your emotions

[zxerzsqr]

My flatmate has been behaving that way.. sometimes i forgot to clean a spoon or a dish in the kitchen, he put them on my table, instead of telling me to clean or putting it in the dish-washer. Today I put a box folded next to the front door, so I can throw it out tomorrow morning, but it seems like it bothered him(because it was covering the door of storage room which we don’t use so often) - and when I came out from my room, i saw the box was set dirtily in the middle of the hallway..😥 Every time this happens, it really makes me feel displeasure. Few times I asked him directly what that kind of behavior means, but he even avoided to answer clearly.. I really don‘t know how to react to him. My idea right now is to ignore till he gets really desperate and tells me finally what he wants. And I’ll tell him that I’ve been waiting till he tells me clearly, so he would tell me directly next time(hopefully). But I’m afraid if he never tells me and just behaves even worse. Honestly I also want to know WHY he does like that.

+even funnier thing is that he is not a clean person at all. He never cleans so well by himself(I swear i clean the house much more often than him), but he only knows to complain in passive aggressive way…

[Corythehausbaus]

what about when other guys try to establish their 'dominance' by being condescending and disrespectful in a very subtle way, it's not enough for me to get mad and create a reaction, at the same time, you dont want to look like a push over

[kirillispolnov]

When you ask about it directly, don't people usually think you may be getting aggressive yourself and might escalate to violence? Because not everybody will assume that you're being empathetic and wanting to help...

[Jess-zmxt]

I have a problem with someone sometimes making comments or jokes about me or laughing when I make a mistake kind of. Also getting kind of aggravated when I don’t understand what they mean. They’re very reactive and idk how to approach or be around people like that

[Ddeath.Eaterr]

Can you do a video on the passive aggressive behaviors? Like silent treatment, ignoring you, leaving you on read, being short n dry w you, etc

[Jaykilla]

I have a coworker who I told I did not want to speak to because of a nasty clip he text me. He currently finds many ways to make annoying noises in our lobby where we work. He then tries to start conversation which I avoid. Every Saturday I'm stuck with his cacophony of noises like tapping on everything like a child.