Why Are Some People Passive Aggressive?

Have you ever met someone who was so passive-aggressive, that you couldn’t call them out? They seemingly said nothing wrong, but the tone they used implied something else… Passive-aggressive people just have a sneaky way of using aggression, so they aren’t flat-out caught with ill intentions. Passive-aggressive behavior is characterized by indirect resistance to the demands of others, and avoidance of direct confrontation - often by pouting, procrastination, or misplacing important materials. So, why do people use this type of behavior?

Disclaimer: If you can relate to any of these signs, please do not take this feedback as an attack on your character. This video was meant to be a self-improvement guide for those of you who have been feeling a little stuck.

Writer: Michal Mitchell
Script Editor & Manager: Kelly Soong
VO: Amanda Silvera
Animator: AwesomeKicks
YouTube Manager: Cindy Cheong

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[Psychgo]

Have you met someone who is unintentionally passive-aggressive?

[enigmatic]

I started feeling passive aggresive when people started teeling me "I'm being too angry for everything". With all my anger bottled up, and me being passive-aggresive, I started talking less. Because if I did, I may go a bit too far with the tone and the words. And when I do talk, I try so hard to not sound offensive, yet they never see it.

[anuka]

Society is so lost lately that everyone is passive-agressive nowadays. Everyone is angry, most people feel depressed, it is hard to be nice and ever harder to find someone who is kind.

[secretxo]

Alternative title: Why everyone is passive agressive

[ZackWilliams_TheProducer]

It is your responsibility as an adult to grow and strengthen yourself and to understand yourself more. It's your responsibility to develop courage and learn how to stand against people that are using you to boost their own power. This is the adult world we live in and no, it is not fair. But nobody can help you but yourself. It is a difficult and often painful process (growth) but this is your only life and should be your top priority, because the older you get without figuring these things out, the worse it can get. I spend a lot of my life being a naive people pleaser. It led me to deep depression and social anxiety, self hatred, and resentment. Absolute hell. Now I am very keen at reading people, I know how to navigate social situations and deal with manipulative/passive aggressive people to the point where they go from trying to tear me down to respecting me. It takes time but you can move forward a little bit every day. It's really important to give up any bad habits and addictions you have because they rob you of your focus and make it difficult to move forward.

[Jobe-]

I always thought it to be because some people are afraid to admit to themselves and let others know that they’re upset about something.

[linnycrocus]

I'm so angry and resentful at the way I've been treated and just how unfair society is in general. Yet I'm terrified of people at the same time

[C_______a-]

Once someone was being passive aggressive to me and kept saying the same thing so I called them out(it was just us both) and they awkwardly laughed it off while changing the subject, they never done it again.

[DixiNormous]

Some of my most disappointing moments I’ve had with myself is when I thought it was so “smart” or “sharp” to say something that quietly stabs at the parts of people that the empath in me, knows would hurt the most.

[dauntinglie]

My mom would always insult me whenever I wanted to talk instead of addressing it angrily, but other siblings were always allowed to throw tantrums but I would get a good scolding, it got to a point where I would get massive headaches and then tears would flow out. This video described me perfectly.

[midnightdeluxegaming]

Why are Some Ppl "Passive Aggressive?"


1. They have "Passive Aggressive Personality" disorder.

2. It's easier than being assertive.

3. They desire revenge.

4. Anger is not viewed as "Socially Normal."

5. Hostility w/ a smile is less often called out.

6. They developed the behavior in childhood.


*_You're Welcome in advance._*

[asn]

when you mentioned parents helping children to deal with their feelings it made me realize what a great thing we had in Mr. Rogers. he did just that, and much more.

[kaymuldoon]

I didn’t know passive aggressive personality disorder was a thing.

[aetherebus]

thank you for this. i noticed that i've been being passive-aggressive whenever i express my anger without giving myself some time to process it. and uh, yeah, i think what you've delivered really helps in some ways. and i'll try to pull myself back to reality and take some time before acting.
much love, keep up the good contents <3

[Drea_The_Noodle]

I was pretty much a scapegoat of a family, so being passive-aggressive became my way of rebellion without openly rebel.
Now people just say I'm being petty af

[mrboots]

I remember that i used to be really expresive with what i felt and always make a drama about it. Then my parents told me i had to be more respectful to adults, so i started to do everything they told me to, but not in the best way i could. Thanks for the vid, i really want to improve now in that aspect.

[rubygloom]

Bruh, why is no one commenting that they called Jean and Diluc the parents of Klee LMAO I approve of the shipper

[chaoticfroggo]

Im this way because I used to act out so much on my little sister and instead of my therapists and parents telling me how to control my anger and manage through it calmly, i was instead hit, told to oppress my emotions, and yelled at for the behavior. And somehow I was the problem 😃

[zleepy_zig]

Is everybody gonna ignore the sleeping bunny on the couch at 2:46 ? It’s so cute! 🥺

[kyoutenkujo]

Growing up in a emotionally toxic environment I adapted a passive aggressive attitude to deal with toxic people in my life who I unfortunately can't cut out (my parents and some of my distanced family members) and its now how I deal with my frustration or anger, not mention the fact I suffer from anxiety disorder that was developed in the early stages of my teen years when I was left alone with my mom and dad without anyone else to protect me from their toxic behaviour for a sold 6 years (till I went to college)