How to Outsmart Toxic People [ Passive Aggressive Behavior

[fkrbueh]

The moral of the story, do not be around people that make you feel uncomfortable. Especially those that make you feel as if you are walking on eggshells in their presence.

[juneelle]

It’s a really big red flag—one of the biggest—when people can’t stand your happiness or success!!!

[jennie]

I just left a job I absolutely love because the owner of the restaurant is a malignant narcissist. I found out on my last day that she had been going around telling my coworkers and customers that I’m fake and that my happiness is an act! The funny thing....she is really just talking about herself. It hurt me because I am sensitive and kind and a people person naturally but I was able to let it go rather quickly. I saw this woman for who she was and she couldn’t stand it. I have no job now and no prospects but I don’t care. I am free and that is priceless. 🙏🏻🙏🏻💕💕💕

[breakthroughmoment]

Observe don’t absorb is a great technique. It’s the same as being emotionally detached. A lot of people in the comments are referring to it as a “trick.” It’s not a trick or a ploy, it’s a practice one can generally use in life. It simply means you don’t allow yourself to get pulled into someone else’s toxicity.

[bmoremom]

Wear sunglasses or respond while you walk away from them, it does not give them the supply/energy they want to steal from you. I’ve learned this unplanned. I see them squirm or laugh nervously, because they missed their target. If they can’t have eye contact with you, they can’t shoot.

[IAmDasani]

being with a toxic person makes US into a toxic person. the way other people think WE are the toxic one instead of them & how we have to adjust our behavior around them just to get by--appearing and acting toxic ourselves! 😖🥴

[CarmelaBianchi]

OMG! The ignoring scenario! To the 'T'. At one point in my relationship, I naturally did the 'walk away and find something else to do' when I was intentionally ignored, and I later got asked if I felt ignored because I walked away. Inside I was thinking "you conniving brat!" But I replied "oh, not at all I just found something I wanted to check out. I didn't even notice you weren't around". The confused look was amazing! Sad we have to resort to this pretentious behavior though 😔

[piciulnostru]

I found that mirroring is the best tool.. If they cant get a reaction from you, that really sets them off, but they will leave you alone eventually

[JessicaJLandi]

Decades ago I learned that everyone is responsible for their own feelings. Such freedom in walking in this truth. Also, no one is responsible for reading someone else's mind. Communicate your mind if you want someone else to know what you're wanting, thinking, expecting, feeling. Expect others to communicate their mind & heart if they want to as well.

[jennifermonahan]

The toxic person does not deserve our positive attitude. These tactics are good to use while making moves and plans to end the relationship. The toxic relationship is not worth your while. Choose an exit date and commit to it. You will have sufficient time to plan and fortify your positive attitude. These people do not exist in reality. If they were a fly you would have swatted them out of your existence already, not turn it into a pet.

[bmoremom]

Also, THANK them for helping you accomplish do a, b or c and they will stop whatever behavior is irritating you. For example, my father in law would come unannounced to our house to annoy me. So, I thanked him for babysitting, so I could finish packing for a weekend trip we were getting ready for. His face of disgust was awesome. I just smiled in delight. He hasn’t come back unannounced 😀!

[carlspencer]

On the topic of timing, I remember one strategy from the guitarist and improvised music legend Derek Bailey, when 2 other musicians, Han & Evan, arrived to a recording session 1 hour late, as soon they arrived he packed his guitar up and said to them "see you in an hour, i'm having my lunch"

[jeckellstallworth]

This takes so much self-control and endurance, but truly...there is no other way! It takes great mental strength.

[tracy.]

The “acting like you don’t notice it” is so funny because I do this all the time. And it’s so funny hearing that this actually advised to do hahah. Wow.

[writer]

The toxic people I know do all of the above, and I've just learned to ignore them--they don't exist in my view. And in the corner of my eyes I can see them cross their arms, roll their eyes, and storm off. It enrages them to get no response from me, to be ignored, and to not be the center of attention. But oh well, that's exactly what they're doing to me, and I'm just dishing it back.

[jdwright]

You are so right on. Many of us are taught to please others. But, even Jesus often did not act to please others.🙄

[kennah]

Unfortunately, when someone senses a weakness in someone and they’re in a position of authority and power, sometimes they use this as an opportunity to bully someone to makes themselves feels better. I’ve experienced at nearly every job, so this is a great video!

[PromiseFulfillled]

My mom was chronically tardy for every planned event. My hubby and I started telling her the start time was 30mins prior to when it actually was. Over time she realized she was on time and actually asked about it. I laughed and said “well, we’ve noticed you always show up 30mins late, so we give you a time 30mins earlier than everyone else.” At first she started to argue that she wasn’t late, and then realized it was futile. She said “well, you don’t have to do that anymore.” She never apologized or admitted fault, but she was never late again. I now realize she was doing this on purpose in order to make her narcissistic grand entrance.

[freeyourmind]

today I finally had the strength to dump my narcissist girlfriend. going no contact starts now! I have blocked her and deleted on everything. its time to move on with my life. my mind and soul is still very messed up tho, I'm so mentally drained i feel numb. I really need to heal.. if anyone can help me or give me advise I appreciate it, and I'm glad I can be apart of this community. if anyone could comment it would mean the world to me. I hope everyone has a good day, remember to love yourself

[marinaa]

It’s easier to just purge toxic people out of your life, problem us there are so many. Good advice though if you’re stuck with them