Do Avoidants Care When You're Gone?

Do Avoidants Care When You're Gone? Curious about avoidant attachment styles? Watch this video to find out if avoidants care when you're gone. Dive deep into the psychology of attachment and relationships in this insightful video!

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[RayLiotaToyota]

The push/pull, silent treatment, unable to show feelings, unkept promises.
My self care is most important now.

[kenmansilla]

I was dumped from my first "real" relationship which turns out was with an avoidant. I had no idea about attachment styles until after the breakup and when I found Coach Craig's videos (thank you Coach). Thankfully, I did not reach out to her at all after the breakup so I did not risk pushing her further away but somehow I feel like she continues to distance herself from me even with me leaving her alone. It's been 4+ months and while I do miss her and wish to talk, the way she discarded me with her breakup message, feels so disrespectful and sorry to say, cowardly, especially when all I ever gave her was my love and never-ending support.

[cspacenz]

How to express love to an avoidant….
Zero tolerance for emotional unavailability, strong boundaries and as soon as possible, ditch their sorry arses and never go back allowing them to experience real-life consequences for their bad behaviour in the relationship. It’s called tough love !
Unfortunately these people do not face up to themselves, take personal responsibility or ‘do the work’ like the rest of us do.
So love the avoidant by leaving the avoidant as soon as you’re clear enough and strong enough to do so. Unless of course you’re addicted to struggle and misery in which case they’re your perfect match !!

[maryh_]

A former love of mine told me how he put people into boxes and didn't think about them any longer. When he decided we were over, he sure was gone for good and there was nothing I could do about it. He was such a textbook case of an avoidant, only I didn't know anything about it back then so I was only swept away in all the love, never realizing there'd be a box for me in the end

[tonibanks]

I was previously in a relationship with a Narcissist and it was extremely painful. But I healed through participating in group sessions on line. Just ended a long distance relationship with an avoidant. I went no contact for three weeks. I broke no contact and basically told him his heart and emotions were buried and he needed to allow himself to heal. Going from woman to woman will only hurt more people. He received my advice and said he will seek help. And that’s all folks. I wish him all the best on his healing journey.

[glynnellis]

Thank you Craig and Victoria, for sharing so much knowledge and wisdom. It builds so much confidence in me, to keep pressing forward...

[ChadEAult]

They don’t. They always had options when with you. They have zero morals or boundaries. They can jump into bed with someone the same day they discard you. That’s someone that never respected you or loved you. Toxic. They fooled you. I think they are also very narcissistic. Just heal, leave, never look back. They will never self reflect.

[azazel]

Thank you for being honest. I have always wondered if they think about me while in no contact. I have my answer now.

[upperiscopeUK]

Invaluable insights. I’ve listened to them all, I think, but greatly appreciate this nuanced reinforcement, which is a considerable support.

[marialerma]

Lost his mother at 7, moved out at 15. This video explains avoident perfectly. Ty

[carlfreiermuth]

they care? they obviously don't care enough to meet the needs of any sort of healthy relationship, they sure don't care enough to even reach out. if you are interested in having a healthy relationship, then you might as well forget about people that have avoidant attachment styles

[basicinfo]

He blocks me on everything everytime we have a phone argument. I blocked him back on everything again. 5 weeks of no contact so far. I dont want him back because i realize and accept that hes highly narcissistic.

[NongSekLoso]

Hi Craig, in your videos about attachment styles I hear you talking either it's avoidant or anxious. But what about people with an combined attachment style ?
Would be great to see a video on that topic

[clara]

My avoidant ex just reach out after months of me leaving him. He reach out in an indirect way. I thought I would never hear from him after I ended it with him

[DaveSustain]

The hard truth is nobody cares, nobody. Not even your friends and family. You are on your own, you need to care for and love yourself. No one's coming to save you.

[vasilisvks]

we broke up 1 month ago. i went straight to no contact after the first week. on week 3 she reached out to tell me to give her a book. she is for sure avoidant and really that book was nothing significant...it costs like 10 bucks and was political nothing of sentimental value i mean come on. when i got there i was very friendly/smiling and polite but formal. she seemed like she didn't want to talk and ran back inside her house. i struggle to believe that she really wanted the book i do not know. now its been a week (it feels like 2 months) and we haven't spoken since... our relationship lasted for 4 months so i do not know what to do... we were great together and only fought in the end(when the break up happened). she really seemed to care but i do not know if no contact holds the same value as in a longer relationship :/ . i want her back i am already trying to move on from my mothers and my dogs death. i can not do that too at this point in life..

[onajimidori]

They are bad people, they're just unaware of it.

[artfuladjunct]

Yeah, I am in my 50s and experienced intense love bombing (by a therapist, btw) ending with him saying I was wonderful but he has a fear of intimacy. I could not imagine going through this in another ten or twenty years. Everyone is so messed up nowadays, I just don't think it is worth the risk of getting involved with anyone. I have my friends and family. They will do. I am now a solo act. Peace!

[ChuckyWhisky]

Do avoidants breadcrumb in passive aggressive ways?

For example - deleting your Netflix profile but not changing the password and only changing the password 30 days later?

Removing their credit card from shared apps sporadically rather than all at once?

[hurricane]

It’s been 4 months of NC w a DA. Fair to say she’s not coming back