The avoidant ex can appear unaffected by the breakup

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[tanishamatthews]

This is a really painful experience. I swear, once I am over this hurt, I will never go back. When he does this, it literally makes my stomach hurt, and I get the worst anxiety ever. Anxiety and stomach pains together are no joke. I have done a lot of research and now understand what an avoidant is. I will be staying away from him an any avoidant. This is too much for me when I'm a good woman.

[TheHighwinder]

Im an SA who gives the avoidants exactly what they want once I identify them as avoidants (especialyl DAs). I dump them and never look back. And the last thing I'm ever going to do is pine away for them. Knowing that I meant nothing to them is what makes it so easy to never look back. Remember - you're not in love with the avoidant - you're in love with what you originally thought the avoidant was until you found out the hard way that they never were that person. THIS is the secret to getting over an avoidant overnight. Well, ok, that and a motorcycle.

[tredd]

There's no reasoning or repairing these weirdos (I'm being NICE). They know EXACTLY what they're doing. 1st red flag, run. RUN!

[rubytruly]

To everyone in here: if your attachment style is ANYTHING other than secure, focus on forming a secure attachment. That is the KEY to setting up relationships for success. We CAN heal our attachment styles. ❤❤❤

[ErmiyaShotorbani]

Just broke up with an avoidant and God...first days I was just blaming myself and then I knew that I did everything right...not to blame myself and just let this toxic person go...

[kbfamilyp]

Cool video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her

[Lucida]

I have had two avoidant situations that’s what I call them. Yes despite the fact we went our separate ways they seem to appear out of the blue at different stages over the years. They never managed to get close to me again and they never will.

I have grown and become resilient emotionally and have healed immensely.

We are not in the same ball park right now, I do believe they may have grown a little perhaps and realised what they lost.

I’m at peace with that. They are not the men I want in my life that’s undeniably clear.

[fitnessmusic]

You 're literally saving my life... THANK YOU

[BruceJC]

If she wants to cater to abusive ex husband, that is 100% not my problem. I don’t want it to be that way and I offered to support her in therapy, but she refused.

[PremaGaia]

This was a beautifully articulate explanation of this situation. Thank you so much for this video! ✨🌷🙏

[melissalavrisa]

After 2 years, he says i was not his girlfriend, and i invited myself over to his house? Wth? We did trips, cooked, not stayed at his everyday i work, am a nurse. This blew me out if the water. Told me to get out.... im hurt, and feel maybe he just needs toxic eimen which im not.

[noah]

i wish i watched this a week ago. i should have been better to him. but i was bad to him and he left, right when i realized what i needed to do to treat him right.

[miami]

Yep my ex walked literaly past me on the street in my neighborhood like he never knew me after 4 years. I even had heart attack ans surgery last year yet he walked away leaving me to fend for myself mowing my lawn caring for a house. Because his fears triggered. No other reason

[cantrellbarney]

It's been 3 months and it hurts. It seems like he's having fun..Not sure if he's seeing someone but I'm pretty sure he is. Seen him at a couple events but we just said hey to each other and that's it. I hate we can't be friends after knowing each other for 4 years . He blocked my fake profile and my best friend profile on fb. Not sure why but he did and she has nothing to do with us at all but he didn't block my number so instead I blocked him and threw his clothes away is my first step. I broke up with him. But I wish we could be friends. I'm trying to move on but can't and don't know why.

[TurbulantSynider]

Yes... That's the joy they are showing of letting you down by cheating on someone else. But you guess with time ....remorse will get then. SO NOT ENGAGE WITH THEM JN ANY WAY. ANY WAY... AT COSTS.. DO NOT. THEY WILLLL TRY TO REACH TO YOU. YOU WILL NEVER KNOW HOW MAYBE.. BUT THEY WILL.. THROUGH THIRD PERSON OR ANY WAY ELSE. TO CLEAN UP THERE ACT OR SOMETHING ELSE. ITS ALL THEM

[ColleenDickey-wt]

He says he didn't mean for it to happen (the new girl he's talking to) it just happened 😢 that's way worse. Now he's telling me to move on. Which I'm trying to, it doesn't help, I still live here. Hopefully🤞I'll have my new place by September, October at the latest

[vixter]

I didn’t even get an explanation why he got angry & broke up with me
😢💔 wtf !
He’s an alcoholic too so he won’t FEEL anything! Yup
I’m so angry & hurt!!
Good I hope he’s hurt !

[KateStocks]

Is it normal for avoidants to take six months of no contact before they start letting up from their deactivating.

[rose-of-theoasis]

My ex is only afraid of rejection and abandonment; no engulfment fears.. He didn’t give me bs excuses or anything. He just ghosted me

[fightingmonk]

I am crushed. She giggled with her sister's husband who lives in the same home. I am in a world of pain. Did she cheat on me?