The Moment An Avoidant Realizes They Lost You (THIS Will Happen)

Today we're going to dive in to the psychology of an avoidant. Specifically as it relates to the exact moment they feel like they've lost you.

Relevant Quotes From The Video:

“Avoidants often wake up long after a relationship has gone stale, having forgotten all those negative things that annoyed them about their partner. They wonder what went wrong and reminisce longingly about their long-lost love.”

“Avoidants often convince themselves that they have a true longing from someone from their past or that the right person is just around the corner. They embrace the notion of a “perfect partner” this constant need for a perfect partner leads to this ideal of a “phantom ex.”

[grifonPK]

What really helped move on from my avoidant ex just after 2 months of no contact is the realization that I did my best during the relationship. I have grown as a man and undertstood so much about myself and I am proud of the man who I was in the time when we were together. The fact that they don't appreciate you is not your fault. Be a better version of yourself and most importantly find the moments that make your proud. After a little bit of time you lose the care about if they will come back or not.

[salisasmeditation]

I’ve noticed that avoidants have a lot short term relationships and high body count from constantly moving on to the next. Anxious people have relationships where they stay too long dealing with disrespect and inconsistencies.

[chantelnicole]

80% Because avoidants don’t watch or engage with relationship content. They’re avoidant. Anxious attachment people are the ones scouring the internet for relationship information.

[TheGalilee]

Give Avoidants space, space and more space by walking away. Your sanity will thank you

[ewoman]

I'll just add, any of us over 35 and dating, the pool is filled with avoidants!

[Seraphina]

My dad is avoidant so let me tell u:
They end up alone.
No worries. ❤

[aodh]

I think avoidant people see you as an object on the shelf, they want you to be there when it suits them

[nacho]

I have told my ex avoidant not to write me again even as friends. No one has ever emotionally saturated me this way, or made me feel like her. It’s absurd how much they can hurt you with their ghosting, lack of empathy, rudeness, etc.
The lack of communication is something I didn’t know was possible

[HealerSoul]

Yes and after they contact you again and try to bond again if you say yes sooner or later, the toxic pattern comes back and here you are crying again because they break you by leaving you and pulling away. So my best advice is to not get attached to avoidant people until they heal themselves and it’s their responsibility to do so. So heal yourself, don’t heal this person and move on with your life where you’ll find someone secure who will love you and who will not be afraid to show you how much they love you

[kagoyasi]

The point is, avoidants are people who "avoid". Why invite someone who's entire personality is designed to avoid you. Leave them the f*** alone. And for avoidants who think they still deserve love while avoiding love, bro do you not see the problem here? You may move on from your ex by doing rebound and shit but you ain't moving on from yourself unless you heal. All you are doing is hurting others and yourself. Get a therapy and heal whatever core wounds y'all carrying and stop traumatizing normal people.

[Itsmeashp]

I’ve never felt more understood than I do in this comment section right now… it devastates me that complete emotional destruction from loving an avoidant type is the link that bonds us but realizing we are NOT ALONE, and that others share, not the misery, but the need to connect with a partner. Don’t let their inability to bond and their defensive attack cloud you with self doubt. You are closer to normal than you were made to feel.

[Goodwillwinoverevil]

It's sad. Everyone is so selfish. I don't know I want to play anymore honestly.

[thevikingbeard]

It's really called figure your sh!t out and communicate. You want companionship and love and trust then you must be willing to give it as well.

[fantazm]

It really angers me how some people are more sympathetic towards avoidants than they are to their victims. Avoidants are emotionally abusive relationship partners.

[MS-nski]

Avoidant men love me because I have a always been miss independent due to being traumatized from an avoidant. Stay away from them. It’s a game.

[samsunggalaxytaba]

for anyone reading this... an avoidant should be avoided.. stop wishing for them back. the story wont be different next time.. they are not for you. accept it and move on.. life is too short to waste on people that avoid you.. 🙏

[robertldavisjr]

Avoidants avoid. Give them what they want. Leave them alone. Restrict their access to you. You’ll be better because you did.

[nickf]

You call them call them relationship vagabonds. They wonder from relationship, to relationship, never finding a home. They leave a lot of damaged people in their wake. Virtually the same as narcissists. Always make it a point to avoid an avoidant.

[sharonc]

Excellent video and great comments. I feel vindicated. "Don't blame the clown for being a clown.. ask yourself why you keep going to the circus".

[lilywashere_]

He ended it by saying ”let’s take one day at a time, I can’t give you what you need right now, I’m broken etc. and we can still be friends”. Kept me on social media but we haven’t spoken a word since. It’s been 7 weeks. I’ve gone radio silent and he’s in a rebound since 4 weeks with the first best thing - his neighbor. This is one of the most painful and confusing experiences I’ve ever had.