6 Signs An Avoidant Partner Loves You

Do you ever find yourself wondering if your avoidant partner truly loves you? It seems like they’re just distant and uninterested. But the real problem is understanding their unique ways of showing love.

See, recognizing love from an avoidant partner doesn’t look like grand romantic gestures. It looks like breaking their own rules, making small but significant compromises, and letting you into their carefully guarded world.

I see so many people struggle with this because they expect traditional signs of affection. And it makes sense. You’ve been taught that love means constant physical touch, endless words of affirmation, and frequent togetherness.

So instead of waiting for grand gestures, try noticing the subtle signs of love that are unique to avoidant partners.

These gestures will relate to:

✅ Breaking their own rules
✅ How they express sexual Intentions
✅ Signs of trust
✅ The way they approach travel
✅ Acts of inclusion or exclusion
✅ Acts of Service

Remember: The goal of recognizing these signs isn’t to change them but to understand their unique expressions of love.

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Falling in love can sometimes be like listening to a symphony in a foreign language for an avoidant partner – the melody is understood, but the lyrics are interpreted in their own way.

If you’re involved with an avoidant partner, their expressions of love might not be the grand gestures you see in movies. Instead, they may be more understated, yet equally meaningful.

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[pdubs]

Most fucked up part is receiving most of these signs/ experiences and still getting discarded. Gut wrenching

[CSG]

I would rather just attract a healthy and stable connection.

The avoidant gets depressed after their partner leaves. Their partner gets depressed during the relationship.

[Kattykat]

Relationships are hard enough with day to day living, but to have to be thinking about what or how they'll react or not react at all, is incredibly draining. Trying to get them to open up and share their thoughts and feelings is like trying to open a can of soup with your teeth!

[SamuelLee-kcrh]

Exciting video, A year ago i took the no contact route, well i wouldn't say it didn't go well, but i missed her and sometimes you have to leave your comfort zone and go for what you want, Without knowing and having a huge ego, we might actually miss out on our soul mate all in the name of not settling for less, I know who i am, and at the same time i know what i want for me, so i did all i could to get her back, and I must say, it was the best decision i have ever made, we have been together again for over 7 months, yes marriage isn't always Rosey, but i am lucky to have her, just as she is, to have me, we compliment each other

[thepuzzlemaker]

Just walk away. There''s not enough life and mental sanity to stay and try to decipher every looney out there.

[VivaCohen]

Yeah, well I've been loved by a few avoidants and what I've learned after years of this and some therapy is that being loved by someone is not enough. And loving them is not enough. We're so preoccupied with worrying whether they love us. So what if they love you? There are a lot of people who would love you. The real question is, can they meet your needs? Can they express that love? Can they connect securely? Can they show you with their actions and words? And DAs usually can't because they haven't done the work on themselves yet. This is true for every insecure attachment type. And if you stay in a relationship with a DA who isn't working on their attachment style, you're going to sacrifice a lot. Your needs most likely won't be met. You might end up with a wrecked nervous system. The relationship will be one-sided. And they won't prioritize you because that's too risky for them. You won't have real intimacy and often-times not much clarity. It's easy to think that its worth it for love, but then consider the fact that there are people out there who are secure who would love you and who CAN give you all of these things.

[ggrace]

Run as fast as you can from an avoidant! Serious as a heart attack—RUN! Unless you’re an avoidant too. All others, read my virtual lips…do not get involved with an avoidant. The hurt, loneliness, unmet emotional connection, and misery never ends. Plus, you’ll always be to blame.

[Louise-uw]

... why should I.
I want to be his girlfriend, not therapist.
He should work on his issues, I am not wasting my time running after someone who does not really want a relationship.

[anamuraro]

So funny how someone can deceive themselves to think that there's love in a "relationship" with someone who actually avoids love. You should learn with them and avoid their very type. I don't spend my empathy with unempathic people.

[MM-pbik]

I’m so glad I found you. If I listen to all these random who say “how to know if a guy is interested in you or not” I’d be alone instead of enjoying my partner.

[crystalperez]

Quality time and words of affirmation are a part of loving someone. Everyone deserves to recieve all the "love languages" in a healthy relationship
no should wait or hold out for these adult children in hopes that these adults will grow up and learn compassion and empathy support and nurturing. Its humaning 101.

[petitcoeur-qr]

Good to know - my avoidant doesn’t really love me. They never let me stay over (always an excuse at the last minute), never met their family. I now realise I’m just a short term fling and meant nothing to them. I guess I was only good when the pandemic was around and he was feeling bored and didn’t feel great about his appearance (he was obese) and now that is over and he’s lost a huge amount of weight, suddenly I’m no longer important to him anymore (he discarded me) and I’m not good enough for him anymore and wants to continue his life as if I never meant anything to them or existed. I’m trying to detaching myself from them. It’s hard and painful to do so. I need to let hope die. I will need to cut them out of my life forever and never let them back in whatsoever. I shouldn’t have been naive but it got the best of me.

[vick]

If you avoid me, you do not love me. And that is fine, I do not need love, but you should work on it only because being in a relationship because you need one but without actually wanting one denotes internal conflict, and THAT is a problem. Specially when you involve other people in it and refuse to acknowledge you have a problem nobody has the responsibility to fix, you but imply that you feel entitled to understanding and external psychological and emotional management from life partners when this is not their function at all, and when this is a too heavy load to place on their shoulders, and you know it since you would not have it on yours.

[Dreamplandoradij]

We live together for 10 years now, i still cannot understand if he loves me . Rarely say anything about his feelings for me, rarely hugs, rarely intimate. Sometimes i feel like furniture

[Eyedocsri]

Soo much of decoding and micromanagemebt to get what should be natural between two partners, when you want quality time or physical touch just ask it straight and you shoudl get it and if the partner wants us to pick up the trash just ask or wants to ve eoft alone just say it.
Making it work with an avoidant partner drains you off your energy and destroys all other aspects of life like career, personal health, social life coz it takes too much to get them to meet your needs its like being with robot than nevers learns and you have to keep training it 😅

[saralynn]

Your videos have been eye opening! For example, this weekend all I said to my partner (avoidant…I’m anxious lol) is “let me know how if I can help you babe”
That very simple statement changed everything!!! Within 30 seconds he was asking my opionon.

[M.M-tu]

Why waste your precious love on someone who makes you feel like garbage and puts you on a never ending emotional rollercoaster??? Heal and remove yourself from egocentric vampires. It's not your responsibility to learn how to deal with their BS and waste your time with analysing their shitty behaviour. You deserve someone who makes your life easy and peaceful and not a living hell!!!

[msscorpio]

We were in a long distance relationship. We only traveled once for his bday. I never met his mother. He would take his phone everywhere. He always had an excuse for not being sexually intimate. We did move together. I moved out a month later.

[tracyonyenwe]

Wow, Avoidant is the new term for players 😂. Okay good luck to anyone trying to wait around to see if they love you. Love is actions, not words. If someone says all the right things but consistently doesn't do all those things, they aren't serious.

[Kinteresting]

Don’t hate on avoidants everyone.. we are people too. And sometimes even we get screwed over by other avoidants! So, welcome everyone.