What to do when your avoidant partner pulls away

Here’s what you should do when the avoidant pulls away #relationship #avoidantattachment #breakup #dating #heartbroken #relationshipcoach #nocontact #relationshipadvice

[NDN_FTR]

Good luck having a mature conversation about healthy boundaries, expectations, and needs with an avoidant.

[canis]

Maaan, it's so disturbing my nervous system. This vicious cycle. I want something stable, not waiting for another shoe to drop. Been in this for 1.5 years and definitely made me more anxious and take away my self esteem

[jeremyreese]

When someone pulls away you pull away and keep it pushing with your life and find someone else who doesn’t have all these insecurities.

[Jeff-kqvg]

They want space? Give'em the universe 👋🏻

[bencefedorko]

I understand what you say. You give her space and time. she disappears for 2 months and doesn't even look for you, no interest.
Is that a normal, healthy relationship?
Not to mention the sex...

You can't give that much patience to anyone and get nothing in return but humiliation.
Not to mention that she'll push you away again... Do you always play this game with her?

It's a toxic thing, as much as it hurts, you give up on yourself..

[lifeofmike]

Avoidant’s put forth zero effort. They always play victim. They are lazy lovers. Lazy people in general. They put everything else over their partner. Even other people over you. Let’s take away the name ( avoidant ) they are simply toxic people which trauma that are not ready to be dated. Even if they come back, you need to remember they already left you, when you didn’t leave them. If you do take her back, be extremely reserved and allow her to put in effort. But remember you risk getting left again.

[malaprop]

Rather than tiptoeing around them and hoping for a connection, which has every chance of emotionally devastating you again, you could just leave. You could try to find someone who will match your energy & effort, who will be your safe space, offering you stability & support, instead of the emotional rolleroaster nightmare avoidants pull you into.

[canis]

Also I think as a secure being with unsecure, it's gonna make you more unsecure as well, no other way around

[Cambs]

The morale of the story here is don't chase, attract. Work on yourself. Transform that anxious attachment style into a secure one. Let them come to you. Let them initiate contact. Let them be themselves while you grow, only then will you be able to make the right decison. Always remember, whats meant to be will be.

[walkertranger]

Anxious - I disagree.
It’s normal to have open communication and transparency and convey feelings and talk through things when in a relationship.
Yes you are right
She literally told me on many occasions that she felt inadequate and unworthy of my love .

[marvinsulzer]

Here is the best advice that none of these YouTubers will give but is the best advice. If you’re dating a DA… dump them, file for divorce or just leave them. They are damaged and will never fix themselves as long as you’re enabling them by staying. If you are interested in a dismissive avoidant. RUN!

[MrT]

Damn, makes sense. Only realising now that I've been dealing with an avoidant. I apologized for my mistakes and gave her space when she started pulling back.

[nineangels]

I'm secure. I took several tests. He's an avoidant & I'm learning out to understand & deal with him. It's worth it to me. I love this video, it's crystal clear. Thank you.

[petitcoeur-qr]

You know what? I realised I am anxiously attached and the avoidant just made those tendencies worse. Near the end of the second connection/discard I expressed how I felt. Genuine feelings. And yes it drove them away but by then I was at my wits end. I stopped reaching out to them. Now a few weeks later they started crumbing. it’s not them approaching me with genuine interest to try again - they just want validation to see if I’ll still be around. I don’t want that anymore. I’ve started therapy on my own issues to heal. Regardless avoidants damage anxious and secure attached people.

[Sonika]

Thank you for coming to you tube channel ! Your videos are so helpful ! and also your voice carries a calming way of explaining things that helps with my present anxiety..Thank your healing words, soft voice and trying to make us understand this complex attachment ❤ He went from great communication, to having anxious behavior to leaving for a job and stop all communication, ghosted me and blocked me ...😢 I havent reach to him and I wont .. One part still in love with the man we spent timeless hours together and getting along great ( besides all our issues ) to being a stranger and never reaching out ...He split my heart in half and crushed me ...I am listening with my brain, but my heart❤ wonders ... I keep working in my healing everyday...I know it takes time ...😢 Thank you for being in You tube !! Sending light to those who are going through painful moments ..❤

[MG-gqrs]

Oh man!!! You just explained my situation perfectly coach!!! 😢

I realised that I am have anxious attachment style but only because I didn’t understand his seeming lack of response.

[Kykashi]

I found you on tik tok, your videos help me in my current situation with a friend, so I’m learning everything I can to better understand our attachment styles and it has helped tremendously. Thanks brotha

[anandanabila]

When he pulls away leave him forever ❤

[Blackeyemofo]

Anxious there’s room for self reflection. Avoidants seem terrified of self reflection

[rizoo]

You just gained another subscriber! Wow. This video was eye-opening for me. Thank you.