HOW TO COPE WITH AN AVOIDANT PARTNER: 5 VULNERABILITIES

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This video breaks down and explains the 5 main vulnerabilities for those with an Avoidant Attachment Style, and how to cope with your partner if they have Avoidant Attachment.

Next, we explore the steps needed to best heal and cope, alongside your Avoidant partner, also focusing on your vulnerabilities in your Attachment Style.

If you would like a list to access questions to ask yourself and your partner about their childhood to help understand their vulnerabilities, please see the link below:)

Link to PDF "Partner Questions: Attachment Edition

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[stormvet]

I am a secure, confident woman and a few years with a DA reduced me to a sniveling heap. Never ever ever again.

[iCarryBoatsAndTheLogs]

My girlfriend is avoidant and she’s taking closer steps towards me (anxious style) and yes she falls back into a avoidant position but all in all she’s definitely sending more heartfelt messages and trying

[dancorson]

You telling them your needs is “attacking them.”

[coyotefeather]

I have recently discovered that I myself am an avoidant. I want so, so desperately to change. Like literally will do whatever it takes, let go of whatever I need to let go of, push myself in whatever uncomfortable situation I need to...literally whatever it takes. And I really hope I can do it

[ruggedlifejewelry]

Even if you began secure...having a DA partner will create an anxious partner as they cannot get their needs met

[stormvet]

Their need for space will always come first. It will drive the direction of the whole relationship. Be prepared for your needs to not be met while all the focus is on not being too intrusive. Good luck 🍀

[stormvet]

They should come with a label: “Do not try this at home”

[bienfaitmboni]

You describing my partner like exactly how they are. I am getting so tired as much as I love them, I am mentally exhausted

[DJ_Kruz]

I let my "Avoidant Wife" avoid it all, I walked away so now she can avoid everything !

[gavinmcfarlane]

I have been married to an avoidant for 43 years. I knew she was very “shy” when we met, but very beautiful and very sweet and nice (people pleaser). Intimacy….she would fall asleep every night at 8 pm, including our wedding night..should have gotten an annulment! Years of lack of intimacy except when she wanted kids, we had three, then life was completely about them, went years without sexual intimacy, dove into work and became highly successful, but still nothing. Later, years of therapy, thousands and thousands of $$ worth…determined she is an Adult Child of an Alcoholic…now she is a victim and has no time for anything with us…sabotages everything. I am 65 and finally leaving her as I can’t stand who I have become in all of this mess. Don’t ever stay for the children when you are miserable, as you all suffer!

[renohk]

How to cope with an avoidant partner. DON'T! Let them cope with them selves. Being exposed to their behavior is very damaging and should only be delt with by professionals. We all deserve a partner that can love and choose us fully, who's genuine and honest. Stay safe everyone. 🤗❤️

[josepablolunasanchez]

The best is to avoid the avoidant. Everyone is happy.

[evaollie]

Have you noticed that the avoidants can retraumatize people who have had difficult childhoods?

[smokingcrab]

How to cope with avoidants:

You dump their avoidant ass and find someone who actually knows what a relationship is 🤷‍♂️

[chandellschofield]

These people are too hard. Walk and find some one that is not going to destroy you. It’s all about their needs their avoidance not one thought about you have needs. We all have baggage somewhere but we all have a responsibility that it does consume us and destroy people around us. Do we let a person get away with it if they hit you ? No ! This emotional abuse from them is worse and needs be treated so rather than justified.

[ashelisaa]

my partner doesnt avoid me completely, but he avoids any emotional connection / deep feelings / conversations that illicit emotional reactions from either myself or him- and I think that's worse than him being completely silent from me as I don't know how to not want him to speak to me with care and compassion and show an interest in my feelings. he doesn't like it when I want things he feels like he cannot provide, but he doesn't explicitly tell me he doesn't want to provide them, so I'm just left feeling horribly alone and ashamed for wanting the things that I feel like I deserve...

[thepuffin-ssln]

I am 53 yr old guy and was just ghosted after 5 yr relationship with a dismissive avoidant woman. I never understood why she was so cold and non warm of a person. I even expressed this a couple times. Add about the 3 1/2 yr mark the mask got dropped and everything changed. These people are not able to express themselves like an adult. They come off as cold, aloof and obtuse. I didnt know what a DA was until after but after learning about it, she hit every check mark. Sad part is i really loved this person and i was a good dude to her. Not overly needy. She was always talking about what her "needs and wants" but to this day she never clarified what they were. As i started to point stuff out, things got more and more distant. And then POOF! . Gone like a fart in the wind and by TEXT no less. Ive had breakups and dissapointments before but this one hurt. No wonder her ex husband of 20 yrs cheated on her with multiple women. He was looking for something he wasnt getting at home.

[laurabeigh]

Understand that when a person gets into a relationship with an avoidant, he/she will become insecure. However, he/she will eventually leave.

[sage]

I dealt with this for five months. I gave a ton of patience and felt breadcrummed with my own needs most of the time. I was always the one to have the heart to hearts and always online in texts. She made promises at my request she never worked on fulfilling. Simple things like going on cute dates with me that I would take her on and pay for. So many assurances she would step out of her own way. By month five nothing was changing and every week there was another excuse. She told me her aunt died and I told her I'd be there if she needed comfort or anything. No response. Day six my dad goes to the hospital and we think he is about to die. I wanted to talk to her and be comforted by her but she was peaced out. Day seven, I hit block and blocked her from being able to message me. I hated feeding into her abandonment issues but I had to prioritize myself and I realized no healthy or mostly healthy person with intimacy should pursue or be involved with an avoidant. They need to go to therapy and deal with the roadblocks that prevent them from real connection. I couldn't have given more over the months. I always had thoughtful gifts and the focus was always on her. Finally I had enough. I also had to step back and look at why I would accept so little from someone I was so deeply wanting to connect with. It's very painful and sad. If you don't have to be in such a relationship, get out and run. It may hurt at first but it hurts more getting scraps when we deserve so much more.

[jooliagoolia]

28 years married and finally realize my partner is an avoidant....
It all makes sense and breaks my heart. The truth is the truth...
I've done everything possible to help.
It's up to him now.
🌈 💜 🌈