How Covert Narcissists Use 7 Stages of Gaslighting Cycle #gaslighting #emotionalabuse

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[gwendolynwehage]

The covert narcissist also validates your enemies. They will claim they didn't see what that other narcissist did or that they didn't mean it the way we took it. The covert narcissists defend the people who are rude and mean to us. This defense of the enemies is to cause us to believe that we were the crazy ones.

[ML]

I don’t know you and you don’t know me yet, somehow, you’re the only person that understands me. You are a gift to those of us that are trying to comprehend and put words to our feelings and experiences. Thank you, Michele.

[sleepmutterer]

Mine would go completely silent on me, leaving me alone with my spiralling thoughts and wouldn't reassure me or tell me what I had done wrong, or how to put it right - I was totally dependent on his version of events and validation. He was in total control. Not a good place to be.

[Seraphim]

Wow. I Knew Stage 5 was Manipulation.
God Always Shows you who they are.

[courtneyyoungmusic]

Recently moved to live on the same property with covert narc mother and have spent thousands throughout my adult life on breaking the trauma bond, healing, researching this and empowering myself (being a mother myself obviously propelled this).. do not trust her ‘niceness’ and even feel like vomiting when she touches me.. do not have any hope that she will change.. I have mastered the grey rock technique and have no fear anymore in telling peeps that my mum is a diagnosed (not to her face) covert narcissist… she literally had a heart attack last week whilst I was doing a cord cutting meditation..

[nancytwigg]

The DISCARD from my covert narcissist, although shocking, traumatic, and outright cruel, was the best damn thing that could have happened to me. I found knowledge, strength, and inner guidance. I will never allow anyone to make attempts at stealing my soul. Upgrade yourself!!!! And be grateful for this difficult time. Steel becomes stronger with the forging process. "No Contact" over 1 year now, getting stronger every day.

[cfrmom]

I can (very unfortunately) relate to these. Now that I know the 7 stages, I can recall each one as they happened. "Really nice is just a letup of abuse." -- I used to put post it notes in the kitchen where I mainly was that said, "NEVER FORGET, " to remind myself that the second I got too comfortable with the 'letup of abuse, ' things would get explosive/bad/scary. And "healing is about doing the very things that your body recognizes as danger." I really like that and am going to work on it! Thank you so much this video!

[stacielivinthedream]

Oh geez, that happened to me once! He kept telling me others 9:30 were saying bad things about me, and it was all lies!
And my coworker is the same way, cycling constantly every couple of weeks!

[Shadowman...]

The saddest part about damn narcissists is trying to convince naive people that there that bad. Thank GOD for KARMA

[ladennayoung]

Yes. My mother will act kind at times only because she is hoping or looking for something in return. I noticed a few days ago she was acting very friendly towards me. I wondered why and I came to the conclusion that she probably remembered that Mother's day was coming up and expecting a gift. I have something going on and wasn't really able to participate and honestly didn't feel like celebrating it. I was honestly depressed and didn't feel well. I didn't even acknowledge it and she basically started an argument than turned around and said oh, I, know what you were saying. I was just making a comment. I really can't communicate with her and her sisters because they are unhealthy individuals and refuse to acknowledge it or get better.

[loveyourneighbor]

Listening to this is making me shaky inside I’m trying too learn what my body is telling me I’m just realizing what I’ve been living for 23 years 😢

[JamesNGames]

It is with a heavy heart that I share my recent experience with my narcissistic mother. The revelation that she had wished me dead as a baby is a truth that has left me reeling with disbelief. The level of cruelty and lack of empathy exhibited by her is deeply disturbing and has led me to the conclusion that no contact is essential for my own well-being.

Despite the initial shock and pain, I have found a sense of liberation in hearing her confession. It has lifted the guilt and burden that I had been carrying for so long, and I am now able to fully recognize the toxic nature of our relationship.

It is a sad realization that I had natural haters from the moment of my birth, but it is also a testament to the strength of my own light and resilience. I refuse to allow someone with such low empathy and compassion to have any power over me. The decision to cut ties with her is one that I have made with a heavy heart, but one that is necessary for my own mental and emotional health.

[GeorgeWelch]

I had really bad cardiac effects from covid and ultimately needed heart surgery. As soon as they called about the surgery, everything got much worse. She got drunk and punched me in the face that night. Endless threats after that, with zero regard for causing a stroke or heart attack. When I started recovering then I was worthy again. It was so transparently bad that I couldn't pretend anymore.

[TreeBeother]

Absolute gold..this is so encouraging on a deep level. The analogy with the magnet and compass really helped me visualize my own disoriented path while thinking I'm oriented to true north. What you said about feeling safer in the narcissist's reality and dangerous to live my truth really explains the self imploding feelings I had before I hit critical mass and went full NC.
Thanks for your continual compassion to explain a difficult and invisible topic to most. The healing from that validation alone is life saving. Best to you! Everyone who is here trying to reorient TO themselves and their truths I see you. I love you and you got this. ❤

[paulasussman]

You are so right Michele! It’s such a long healing process

[ThingsILike]

I didn’t get to resignation with mom. I left and ran to a male covert for almost 30 years. Healing is hard, but it’s worth it. It’s many steps forward and back, but progress is possible.

[gangGreenthumb]

Spot on! The cycle continued for years until I eventually asked her to leave.

[Shanchelle]

This is the best video on narcissism traits that I’ve seen! The examples really helped me to recognize and understand the patterns and difference in covert verses overt traits. Thank you so much for this material. 💛

[Shadowman...]

I've been subscribed watching this channel for a while now and I have to say that Michele's info is the most informative and accurate out of all the channels doing this. She deserves way more views than what she gets, but you-tubes stupid evil algorithm works against it.

[GeorgeWelch]

You're the best of these channels. It must have been terrible to get to this point, but your insight is saving a lot of people. It really is almost like a theater performance being played out in the same way with different people.