7 Signs That A Narcissist Is Done With You

Over time, you can become so disillusioned with a narcissist that you decide it is no longer viable to continue. But true to the narcissists' tendency to protect their fragile egos, they try to get ahead of the posse by being the one who conveys how they need to discard you. Dr. Les Carter identifies 7 ways they try to control the narrative, then offers thoughts about how you can move forward toward normalcy.

It also is available on Google, Apple, Spotify, and Amazon.

Sign up for Dr. Carter's course: Ready, Set, Connect
Get 20% off when you use the coupon code: rsc20youtube

Dr. Les Carter is a best selling author and therapist who has semi-retired to Waco, TX. In the past 40+ years he has conducted more than 65,000 counseling sessions and many workshops and seminars. He specializes in anger management and narcissistic personality disorder.

We receive commissions on referrals to BetterHelp. We only recommend services that we trust.

You can follow Surviving Narcissism on:
Twitter: @SNarcissism101
Instagram: @survivingnarcissism101
Facebook: @survivingnarcissism101

Dr. Carter has two other courses that you may find to be useful:

[observationsincars]

A narcissist's discard is always a blessing in disguise. Consider yourself lucky, some never want to let you go.

[jenniestilgoe]

I hate the fact that you love them so much. But they destroy you.

[Unebellecreole]

When a narcissist discards you, thank them.

[beornthebear.]

They're like vampires. If they can keep you unhappy and doubting yourself, They feed on this.

[adventureswitharizonaart]

She overheard me watching these videos and silently packed her bags and left.
I guess she wasn't ready to see herself for who she is.

[roth]

I just left my fiancé who has done all of this. It’s been the hardest thing I’ve ever done. I love her, but I couldn’t take it anymore. When you looked at the camera and said, “you’re free” I burst into tears.
Thank you for all your videos. You’ve truly helped me escape.

[realhealing]

I felt like a slave in my toxic family system. Narcissists need you to serve them constantly. It's a never ending cycle of abuse. No contact was the only way I could get my freedom. No one deserves enslavement.

[spacegirl]

I am free. Yeah, these wasted years, broken promises and dreams, constant belittling, neglect and mistreatment are hard to come to terms with. But I am indeed free.

A discard is the nicest gift a narc will ever give you.

Thanks, Dr. C.

[AlwaysStampinVideos]

1. Deeper discard
2. Bigger blame game
3. Tighter triangulation
4. Smear campaign with closest
5. Victim by day/villain by night
6. Impressing others becomes the focus
7. The bomb of “seemingly” changed behavior is right around the corner

They’re never really done with you. Even if and when you’re done with them, they will wear the experience with you like a badge on their arm to continue living the victim role with others or you will forever be a trophy on their shelf to brag about how crazy they make you out to be so that their crazy is less seen.

[flightydancer]

"you don't have to be held in anyone's cage" really spoke to me. wow!

[SM_]

I find their behavior oddly fascinating. Am I the only one? It’s so weird and disturbing that people are able to be this way.

[sandramynard]

Jealousy is their issue, when you don’t want them and don’t see how special they think they are and you have more than them, look out, they will destroy you if they can

[sand]

Free at last, free at last, my god almighty, I'm finally free at last!

[sarahchan]

“ I have been trying to exploit you and it has been not going well” I like this description 😂😂😂

[missrose]

Yep. This is exactly how they act.
After all is said and done, you can throw away all those anti depressant pills because they are the reason you needed them to begin with.

[AdairCty]

Freedom is the only good thing that came from my awful situation. Lost my home, new life in a small town, and a planned future. I wouldn’t wish a narcissist on my worst enemy. No one deserves their evil.

[mjlovett]

I herd my narc say I’m done with you but then narcy came back to try to befriend me I ingored 🎉

[higuoy]

He quickly remarried, and I can't help but feel sorry for the new supply.

[christinebailey]

in a longtime marriage with a narc substance abuser, i didn't know how to end it with a child, so instead of doing something brave and helpful, I hunkered down and laid low and waited it out, but I couldn't keep up with the pretense of still being in love. after years of abuse i had no respect left for him and became emotionally detached. once that happened - once i stopped reacting, that's when he realized my well had run dry and he initiated the divorce. i am happy now, at peace. no drama, no fear. i wish i had done it so much sooner. so much wasted time with someone that didn't actually love me, but was using me for my empathy, sympathy, service and joy. I'm trying to build it back now. It's a process.

[iamgoddessoflove]

Narcissists are excellent at acting. They get people by their charm and performance. It can leave you confused because they are so innocent in playing victim and pointing you as the abuser. Don't fall for it!💙YouTuber That Helps People Overcome Toxic Relationships