How Covert Narcissist Use The Kids To Hoover You

Hoovering you becomes a little easier for the covert narcissist to do when you share children, as always the children become tools for them to use.

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[hijabithrives]

Narc favorite pick up line "for the best interest of the kids" 😭😭😭Great video again!

[Pinkdiamond]

It's crazy when they pretend they care about the kids education or well being. When they never cared before. I heard many times "that's your job". But then later on in family court he claimed that I never included him in the kids activities or appts.

[dawnserrano]

My children are grown, I've been done, bled every way..every now and again..my kids will sleep info..I stay quiet, and positive, change subject, but always being the better person. Teaching them..not to hate, hold grudges, etc..its hard but I'm going always to be the better person, Gods been good to me, and i choose to believe not being angry is best..i dont talk, or interact with him..but if kids wanna do his bday... or holidays, I'm a humble christ like person, but still do not interact with him..7yrs now

[tru]

Sometimes, after u have taken the kids from the narc. The narc will try to use the kids and ur simpathy for the kids to get u into trouble. NEVER MEET THE NARCISSIST, IN A PLACE, WHERE THE NARCISSIST HAS THE ADVANTAGE. Don’t put urself into a troublesome situation with the narc or u may regret it.

[procurementqueen]

You are spot on again, I experienced this.

[hearme]

My ex narcissistic showed up at my children school yesterday (valentines day) to see my kids. Have asked him several times to get on a schedule with seeing the kids. He refuses but wants to randomly pop up. He didn’t have not one gift in hand. The school called me because they are aware of how shady things have been. I get there and the new supply and her babies are sitting in the car and he in the school looking like a fool. Why are you here sir? Did you get the kids a gift or something? No! It’s Valentine’s Day. That should be spent with your gf it’s 12 o’clock noon and you at the school with your almost 1 year old and 2 month old baby. To see my boys for Valentine’s Day? I walked him in with my children and I left. I’m not going to keep participating in the circus. Come on!

[JyeLittlejohn]

I haven’t talked to mines and months. Our kids are grown and actually my kids reached out to my son on Father’s Day. Telling him to enjoy the time with me on Father’s Day. Even though he actually hasn’t talked to her in a week his self. We have a daughter and she didn’t say anything to her about spending time with me on Father’s Day. Me and my kids thinks she was just fishing for information since I’ve haven’t talked to her in months

[lisakaler]

I love how you call it the hoovering program! And GET A HOLD OF YOUR MIND! Thank you for all you do, it's really helping me get a hold of my mind. 😘

[sashab]

My narc tries to use the kids to do the exact same thing you are saying. He always telling the kids to request me to take him back and he wants to be with them and me meanwhile he has new supply. They are so wicked and messed up so badly.

[bellamorenita]

Ugh I feel he does this so his victim sees that he's a "dad" and cares. He will text me at 7:00 pm or later to ask about the baby. Ask for pictures ECT. When can I see the baby? Ill say weekend is best but he won't ask what day or time then won't text until months later. I think he wants me to say no u can't see her so he can show people that I am being difficult dude u haven't checked on her in months

[JessicaRamirez]

Haven't heard from him in 6wks. Not a word. All the sudden text me tonight wanting to see our son. He did that in the past and hoovered me back. Im hoping this time he just really wants to see our son and its not a hoover...

[safehaven]

Yeah my Nex tried all of these. Nope nope and NOOOPPEEE

[tblannon]

My Narc just up and left me & our children for new supply. She's been a neglectful mother for the most part. All of a sudden she wants to call them all the time. I went no contact. Are these hoover tactics?

[tricem.]

My ex didn't call or reach out to me to communicate with my kids for a year. Now all of a sudden he text me on my son birthday and ask if he can call to wish him a happy birthday. Mind you, he didn't call or text him on his last birthday, for Christmas or any holiday. But Now he wants to call? I told him to call at 6pm to say happy birthday, when i get home from work. But He calls at 9PM when my son is already asleep. That's how i knew that this was definitely a heat check and a hoover FOR ME. He don't give two shi** abt these kids. He didn't attempt to communicate with them in a year. He just wants to see how I'm feeling and if he can weasel his way back in with me. Sorry a** loser!