Phil In The Blanks | Covert Narcissist Intro

Gaslighting And The Covert Narcissist Pt2

Dr. Phil continues discussing narcissism and focuses on covert narcissism, which is more subtle than classic narcissism. Narcissists have a false sense of superiority and lack empathy. Covert narcissists have the same traits as classic narcissists but express them in more subtle ways. They manipulate and gaslight their partners, are judgmental, and envious. Dr. Phil emphasizes the importance of setting boundaries and not trying to fix narcissists. The series aims to provide insight and help people manage or protect themselves from narcissistic individuals.

[ZOEYANDFRIENDS]

this is the most difficult. they pretend to be "nice" and then the confusion begins. Overts are easier to spot on.

[lanacain]

The most dangerous is the covert because he hides his true behind love and sweetness.😤❤️

[izawaniek]

You have nailed it. Thank you for this Spot on description of a covert narcisist. I think they are the most dangerous of them all. They are snakes and chameleons and will drain the life force energy from you slowly but surely.

[SylisDaGoldenPeach]

I dealt with a narcissist for years, they can never see there wrong all they can see is everyone else wrong ! I’ve learned to just block them cuz they will never learn

[maggie]

At the age of 63 I was offered a job at my grandsons school. I’d had no training in education but had volunteered for a year at that point in the year 1 class. So I was really chuffed.
My husband was the last person I told because I KNEW he was going to make every effort to burst my bubble. But even knowing him as I do, I wasn’t prepared for the remark - WHO’D OFFER YOU A JOB? Followed by did they offer it to 300 other people first and nobody wanted it. When I said I don’t care if they offered it to 3000 other people first and they all said no. I’ve told him I’d take it. And then he said WHAT! You accepted it. I said yes and he said. I’d have thought you’d at least have said you needed to talk it over with your husband first.

His jealousy really showed through that day. And it was a good thing. Because all those individual put downs over the years were all just knocking a little bit of the love I felt for him out of me one by one, bit by bit. See when they destroy that last tiny bit of love for them out of you it’s amazing. As that love flies out, it leaves an empty space for you to start filling it with love and respect for ourselves.

[afol]

THEY ARE ALL BAD. But The Coverts are the most damaging. Insults, Lies, Invalidating, Bullies, NO COMPASSION, . NO EMOTIONS, CONSTANT CRITICISM, CERTAINLY NO LEVITY OR SMILES, DEMONS. BUT NEVER IF THERE'S A WITNESS! YES, "SULLEN." ALSO. DANGEROUS TO YOUR WELL BEING. NOT HUMAN.

[evereddin]

Thank you.
I lived with my ex for 29 years. First he “love bombed” me. But as soon as we married he began to belittle, diminish or erase every single good thing about me. It was so subtle - i knew something was terribly wrong but could never put my finger on it. It got worse and worse, and after the kids group and left it got sinister. The gaslighting was constant, I thought I was going crazy. He isolated me, He even failed to get me medical help when I was having a stroke (because he had a golf tournament to attend) and by the time he returned (three days later) I had lost most of my vision and it could not be recovered. Every time I tried to leave something catastrophic happened. Eventually when he learned I was actually planning on cleaving, he tried to kill me. I left with nothing but the clothes on my back and my dog.
I went through hell, but I survived. Years of intensive therapy,
I wish i had a way of letting people know in case seeing what happened to me helped them get out safely.
Dr. Phil, your shows and books were my lifeline. Every show taught me something important.
Thank you. From the bottom of my heart, thank you.

[pattiowen]

I was raised by a covert narcissistic mother. As a pre-teen/teen, I thought I was losing my mind!! It took till my mother died to start researching what had gone wrong. I couldn't even make myself feel sad that she was dead. All I felt was relief that the relationship was over! I cried to know I wasn't crazy or insensitive. She was the master of her game!

[DarkerSideOfDawn]

Watch out for the prearranged argument set up to trip you into believing it’s your fault…

[danitajminer]

"That never happened." Their all time favorite.

[alyssamoore]

Hubby is a covert narcissist. Ever since I figured him out, I've been having fun. When he tells me obvious lies, it's like listening to a kid whose face is smeared w cake frosting denying they had cake. I can't help but laugh, which makes him SO angry and hurt. I do what makes me happy, and I enjoy the sweet moments as they come.

[ladyvirgo]

Ive been married to this trickster for 12 years, it took his brutal discard for me to realize exactly the demon he is😈 The divorce process from a covert coward is beyond another level nightmare.

God be with us & strengthen us all who have been through this abuse

[Jinger]

The “covert” narcissists NEVER does anything wrong . The “world” does it to them. They are the victims and the second You realize they created the “drama” You become the next victim. They are charming, sweet and play upon Your insecurities.

[matthiaslangbart]

When I passed my exam with flying colors, my mother said: "Congratulations. Wouldn't have been possible for me. In my days exam standards were way more demanding!" She was stabbing my heart again with a very, very fine needle. And she did it on purpose!

[mokyan]

OMG. These exact gaslighting phrases were just used on me the past few days. And before that. Berate, scold, shame, criticism, etc.

Also, the times I make the mistake of saying how I feel, I am attacked, invalidated, then told I “feel” a certain way because I’m crazy and my brain is irrational, ridiculous, messed up… and on it goes

[teresasmith]

Thank you, Dr Phil. My dad was a covert narcissist and my mother a malignant one. I truly believed my purpose in life was to please them. I felt so guilty when I doubted this. Long story and I’m sure you’ve already heard it a thousand times. At almost 70, I’m just now figuring out it’s ok if I have feelings of my own.

[JP-zpve]

Yes! I didn’t realize till after the discard what I was with. God delivered me. You’re right! they are on a relentless pursuit down the river of deceit with the next person and the next. I had no idea that people like this even existed. The Lord taught me a lot!

[heartofpuregold]

Dr Phil Im not your dad but every dad would be proud to have such a great and wise man as a son. Sometimes our parents make big mistakes. I was blessed to have an elder brother who encouraged me while he was on this earth. I think God always takes care of us and we are truly blessed when somebody cares for us. Many children dont have parents. Your proof that when God has a plan for somebody life He will step in and lead that person if they trust Him and are willing to be led by truth. Thank you for the program. Your work as a paychologist has helped many people, God bless you

[afol]

Vicious Insults, Extreme Invalidation, Liars and/or Deception, Future Faking, No Human Emotions, Never a Smile Ever

[AudraGibson]

One of the better overviews of covert narcissistic personality traits I’ve heard.