How to STOP Obsessing Over Someone and START Letting Go (Best Relationship Advice)

Understand that when you’re OVER attached to anything, your results are worse, not better. Especially with love and relationships. This video is for those of you who want to manifest love or relationship into your life.

BIG IDEAS:

1. Most people’s view on “love” or “relationships” is dependent or codependent love
2. Your need for FREEDOM is higher than you’re need for love.
3. Any time you’re not ‘free’ you will grow to resent that person.
4. Therefore the solution to love is to let go more and relax so you can tap into the power of interdependent relationships.

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[scottdunn]

If you don't love you... you'll always be chasing people who don't love you either.

[vegasredhead]

In a relationship, the person with the least amount of interest has the most control. That realization taught me a lot about learning to let go of what was not going to work out even if it was something that I was putting everything into...

[jsalhia]

IF YOU TREAT SOMEONE LIKE A CELEBRITY, THEY WILL TREAT YOU LIKE A FAN.

[kyoshiro]

"Attachment is the root of all suffering"
- Buddha

[themaldi]

"If you're offering something and it's not taken then perhaps you should be offering it somewhere else" - Jordan B. Peterson

[norsolehamohddali]

I totally agree with you. My own experience being obsessed on someone didn't give me any good result. Instead, I became more anxious, overthinking, over analyzed, needy. So now I am working on focusing on myself. It is better to focus on myself, self love, self care, change the story inside me.

[tiffknox]

I try to just let things be what they are. Worrying about being hurt won’t keep it from happening, it just steals your joy in the moment. You don’t need to worry if they’re going to leave or hurt you, you just need to know that you’ll be okay if they do. Concentrate on what you can control and let go of everything else. If it’s meant for you it won’t need you to hold on so tight

[memelordyeyu]

"When you don't care, that indifference makes you attractive."

-George Costanza

[steve]

You must love in such a way that the person you love feels free.

[kiptepetuk]

If you let go, it comes to you.
Even applicable in Laws of Attraction

[drapered]

When you are dating and thinking of getting into a relationship with someone, always guard your heart and be willing to walk away from it.

[Hedgehog]

This is what i needed. I became too needy lately and i need to work on that. It's mostly coming from my own loneliness and wanting someone to occupy my loneliness. But i shouldn't need someone to occupy my loneliness. I just need to be more comfortable in that loneliness and turn into a comfortable solitude. It's also coming from the fact that im 28 and a lot of people my age are getting married and lovely families. I need to improve on myself and then attract the people i want in my life. Thank you.

[SummerFox]

its annoying because I know how true all of this is yet I am still obsessed with the idea of co-dependant love

[m.jalene]

For me, it’s when the other person stops doing what they used to do when they were trying to pursue you once they’ve got you.

[tinat]

this is the best relationship advice video on youtube; relationships should only ADD to your life, not feel like a full-time job or be ALL of your life. The best thing you can do for EVERYONE you love is love yourself first, so you're able to sufficiently love them.

[Monatio]

You attract what you are, not what you want.
Powerful words. Focus on yourself and how you can lead your own fulfilling life, and everything else will eventually fall into place.

[tjshaa]

"freedom is a higher need than love" wow 🤯

[ErickaWilliamsCC]

Disney messed up a lot of folks. Thanks for the deep dig conversation.

[anjelocarey]

You sound like a REAL friend trying to snap me back to reality. I needed this! I am prone to being obsessed with a crush or boyfriend. Im here because I want to change for the better. I know that being obsessed is never healthy. I want to just like or love someone CALMLY and not end up being obsessed over them. Thank you my man!!!

[camillewilliams]

This was the best video. I took a break from this guy I was involved with because I was too needy and it would cause me depression. He is emotionally independent. He is affectionate and attentive but not over bearing . He is the healthy kind where as I was not. I had this warped idea of what 'love is' or how a person who likes you would behave without realizing that it was all a lie. The way he treats me is what a relationship should be like. Although we weren't in a relationship so of course that made my neediness even worse because I was afraid to lose him. Anyway, I made the decision to take a break from speaking to him to manage my depression and work on myself. This video really help me understand more of why I am so needy. I definitely mistook that for love. I don't know what love is as ive never experienced healthy love. He definitely loves his freedom. This video helped me realized that I am not okay. I need to fix within. I want to be interdependent. That will be what I work on. Thank you.