How to stop 🛑 obsessing over someone

[realmeee]

• Create polarity between feminine and masculine energy
• Switch from a dopamine system to a serotonin oxytocin system
• Practice gratefulness for what you have
• Take action towards the person you're obsessed with
• Kill the hope that something will happen between you two
• See the person for who they truly are
• Write down what you're obsessed about
• Build your life in a way that integrates the qualities you appreciate in the person you're obsessed with
• Make your life more interesting by saying yes to opportunities, going to courses, and attending camps

[devious]

My obsession stems from a lack of attention and insecurity. When I get attention from someone, I want them to be obsessed with me. When they pull back, I wonder why and I push forward. I am able to speak with virtually anyone but I am unable to create meaningful relationships.

I love the distractions, not the person.

If you time, I would love to have a conversation about this. I need to break this. My purpose and life is worth too much.

[AutumnRainWish]

You're on point. I was obsessed with someone for almost 2 years. And slowly I realized, I was obsessed with their life and what they do. I ended up getting all the skills listed on their LinkedIn profile and got the same job and have almost the same lifestyle now :D And I am no longer obsessed with them.

[tapestrygirl]

Seeing her talking about her experience sounds so much like my own struggles and experiences. Thanks for sharing your story.

[hamimkabir]

Hands down one of the best videos on psych/obsession I’ve ever seen. You kept my attention the entire time. And you are incredibly charismatic ❤

[Risingnewman]

I am someone with ADHD, I still have this problem of being obsessed with someone irrespective of their interests in me. This video is so useful, Thanks for sharing Francesca

[claire-uipu]

You put out new information your channel is really helpful, I am a sufferer of obsession maybe partly it begins with my introvert and imaginative nature, but now living in a poor situation with 3 children. I’m finding myself falling for many people and over thinking and over fantasising them but you said in another video was escapism. I am trying to escape but since you have hit that nail on its head now I don’t want to escape through love obsession now I want to work on my financial situation to get out of love obsession.
You are very intelligent because you have a way of putting it into words that’s helping me to breakaway from this pattern it’s a very very unhealthy pattern for me. Lately I fell for a guy I made music with turns out he had a wife and she phoned me. Sadly I’m
Not over him because our music was so good but I don’t think it will ever work out good because I was at one point obsessed with him. I need to make friends ina. Group but as an introvert that’s hard for me.

[babyboasty]

That was the advice that I needed Francesca " Kill the hope" well said!!

[kslucki]

My dear Francesca, I so needed this message at this moment. You cannot even imagine. Thank you so much xx

[dfateekh]

The most useful part if this video for me, when she was sharing her obsession experience. I feel so much appreciation for this, that I'm not alone😘💖💖💖

[tomprice]

I agree with these sharp and well-earned insights, Francesca, with one qualification: they apply in cases where the "obsessed object" is not the one for you, but is rather a "lightning rod" for all the emotions you describe, and so can be a means for you to try to incorporate the other's good qualities for your own personal growth. Also, I don't think that you will necessarily be disillusioned with the admired person the closer you get; in fact, I often am charmed by the flaws of the other; their humanity. But you are certainly spot on: the pedestal effect is not healthy and
has to be torn down! :)

[shadowsdawn]

now i don't know if this channel is targeted towards men or women but as a guy i took more away from this video than many others. the obsession being with what the person has or represents instead of the person themself is not something i have heard before and honestly a great help for the suffocating obsessions i often find myself faced with. it's a real thing and the fact it's something universal makes it that much more realistic to handle

[yenyenfontejon]

I like it when you said that making my inner child safe, nurturing myself.

[davisky]

Very good analyse and understanding of how we behave as a human being. Really liked…

[temilolaololade]

Everything just resonated as if you're talking to me directly. Notes taken, thanks and keep up the good work

[Turteng]

You've brought so much clarity to my life in this video! Thank you so much!

[mickygee]

Well, this completely makes sense. Something I’ve been struggling with for two years. You’ve cleared it up for me in 17 minutes.❤

[oscarmeza]

My problem is that I’m obsessed with my girlfriend. And she loves me a lot too, but I feel like I’m obsessed w her. I try to hide it as much as possible. Not sure she even knows how strong I feel for her. But she is in my head 24/7. I love her sooo much that it kinda feels more like an obsession.

Although what I like that you shared is changing from dopamine to serotonin. I’m going to practice gratitude

[teronman]

I absolutely love your videos. Informative . Well presented and of course beautiful. Thank you very much

[rajmondahotti]

I am forever thankful to you you have helped a lot