Stop obsessing 🛑😍 over someone - 3 powerful psychological techniques

[R_Karri]

1: You're not obsessing over them but an idea.
2: Realise what this person means to you.
3:realise that you don't have a self center that holds you together.

[CyrilJanDacasin]

We suffer more in imagination than reality. - Marcus Aurelius

[hongchingwong]

This video is a wake-up call for me. This explained why I kept chasing wrong people’s tails

[SarkasticProjects]

"You want a person who wont give you what u want". Brilliant ❤

[COSTAYT]

Just coming here in the comments to tell you guys my experience in the past times with this obssessing thing. I used to be a guy that fell in love really easily and got obssesed really easily as well, however, 11 months ago (im 19 btw) I've decided that I wanted to dedicate my time to grow as a person and to have goals or a good self esteem. And I did this. My life got way better, I never had the same issue of obsessing over someone because I knew MY value, I knew what I wanted but I was racional about that situation.
Good luck to y'all trying to get over obsession.
Find your value :)

[swedishgirl]

I feel like you explained my whole life in 6:19 seconds

[evap.]

She's so spot on. Luckily I learned this on my own in my 20s. To understand this you have to actually apply it to your life. If you don't you will continue to make the same mistakes over and over well into your 40s

[dreamysoupcan]

The video I wish I was brave enough to hear earlier. It's so healing

[cvang_el]

Eye-opener.

Thank you Francessca.

I’ve always been obssessing over boys; unrequited, one-sided love gives me so much fantasy, dopamine all that space except actually being with them.

Hits spot-on, on all of the 3 main points you presented.
I keep looking for that father figure, someone who will protect me, care for me emotionally and never leave me.

And it’s even harder to take in the final point: my self centre isnt that strong yet.

I thought that i have developed proper confidence, like actual liking and loving my self, but im not.
And, it is indeed a very fascinating, fancy idea to be related, to be of “possession” of some high-profile, important people.

“It will make me more valuable, desirable,

lovable”

Thank you. I open my eyes, one more time ❤

[nishanthbaskaran]

It’s not about being obsessed. Some of us are just chasing the wrong ones. But this advice is 💯 true. Works

[FithriyaaniRashidi]

you are obsessing over the idea of someone or as a perfect partner, and not seeing them for who they are : by observing them, spending time with them. Start humanizing them.

Understand what this person triggers you.

When u put them on a pedestal, you are not having a self-centre. You need to trust yourself, have high confidence in yourself, develop obsessions of your life. Like yourself, feel complete and fulfilled with yourself. It is not impossible to build a more stable self-identity.

Have a skill you have to develop. Start developing that independence.

[kejsida]

Since I’m emotionally unavailable I tend to obsess over people a lot because I can just easily make up a version of them without having to actually be with them. It’s like I spend time with them in my head even tho I know it’s not the real person but an idea I’ve created of them. I also have OCD which definitely makes my obsessions more intense

[Kamehameha-hjhw]

the moment she said "they fart and poop aswell" I just farted.

[gauravmalik]

What i like about you is you talk with practicality
No non sense nothing
You just hand over the solution
Thank you ❤

[manvichanchalsoni]

soooo right....i mean seriously....the falling out of love thing happens....and I've experiences it....and yeaa....you're fab..!❤❤❤
I regularly watch your videos and they're really helpful...I hope you keep growin..❤
Edit: I really needed a video on something called celebrity I'm not wrong....like yk people get obsessed with celebrities and fall for them when they don't actually know the person for who they are...they jus look at the character the play in a particular movie or series or maybe however they display themselves in interviews or social media....and this is growing really fast...mostly teenagers are facing this...they jus can't get over them...i face it too sometimes...i try to make myself understand all this but it kinda doesn't works...

[Unknown-zmff]

I want to say my experience about this. I'm a girl who has been obsessing over people for so long and so easily. It got more and more draining to obsess over every single person that I found attractive and gave me a spark of attention. I've been lost on this issue for so long, but I'm eventually finding out it's root. I wanna say that I'm so happy to see this video and see people with similar issues because it was so hard for me to find people who understand this or videos who explain this, and I used to feel like there was something wrong with me

[Inspiriments]

You did a beautiful job of describing the key traits of narcissist behavior aka C-ptsd traits in a light that is calm and constructive vs damning and fixed. The pedestalisation/devaluing stage aka love bombing then dissociation phase is rampant when limerence is high due to low concept of self and child hood trauma.

You are a bright light in the psyche space. Thanks for the positive take.

[akilahfromGod]

i came to this realization today.. it's so hard when we have these ideas of the people in our lives. we see them as perfect, as people that would complete us but we don't understand that if we don't see ourselves as complete without them, that's a major problem. even if we are to get with these people, they'll evidently disappoint us because the idea that we have if them will disappear and the real them will surface and it wont be at all what we imagined or anticipated. the key is to focus on yourself and Jesus. we won't find ourselves in people and its a dangerous illusion that will leave us more detrimental than before..

[KINGSUU]

You’ll be alright it’s just emotions. Tame the mind 💯

[SS-ints]

I’m alone too much to enjoy my alone time and independence. I always felt secure in relationships until I got cheated on twice and ever since then I’ve been anxious.