The Simple Way to NEVER Obsess Over a Man

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[catche]

This has popped up as I'm lying in bed obsessing and wishing I didn't

[pppy]

the moment a girl clicked on this video is a fact that she is currently obsessed with someone in a bad way which she hoped not to. i wish everyone of you can surpass this challenge ❤🍀

[Blondiee]

When you're authentic and happy in your own life (not perfect, but happy) you will naturally never obsess over anyone. Prioritize being happy where you live (What do you need to live in a place that suits you? A better job? Qualifications? A side Hussle for extra cash? Sort these out first.) Hobbies, friends and keeping yourself fit and healthy. Romantic partners will fall into place once you're content in these other areas of your life first. TRUST ME.

[adrianarenteria]

I was getting ready obsess over someone, who just ghosted me… But I stopped myself and said he does not deserve you and life is too short to waste time on someone who does not want you.
So now I am taking care of me and now I am ghosting him.😊

[ninajones]

This is so true!! I obsessed about a guy in 2020 who just stopped contact after I asked for a break as I was having a hard time. It absolutely broke me for a long time and did everything that you shouldn't, chasing him constantly and basing my worth on his opinion. I was mad!! Looking back he was never good enough in the first place but as I was feeling down on myself it got to me so bad I ended up seeing a psychologist. Now, a year on I am so happy with a wonderful man who makes me feel amazing. He loves me and he constantly shows it. I will NEVER obsess again as there is slways someone out there that will love you for who you are 💕

[jennhawkins]

Dopamine is a rough ride, man! Whether you want it or not, whether you’re married or not, you can catch feelings and have thoughts because dopamine feels good…and we want more of what feels good. Some men make us feel fantastic and we want to be near them and other times I think as women, our desire to be loved and us seeing a man’s interest perks our hopes up. It can be very, very rough sometimes.

[LoloBTiger]

Some good points - however the tendency toward obsessive thinking is often not a choice. CPTSD is often the real cause of limerence. The brain is actually wired for intermittent connection as was modeled in a person's primary care relationships from childhood and those mixed messages are then mislabeled as love. The brains job is to solve things. So as a coping mechanism the person compartmentalizes the experiences and their brain relies on limerence to fill the void. Often fixating on the person or the relationship that hurts them the most and placing their person on a pedestal in order to reconcile their attachment and feelings for them. Love is not surviving someone. Obsessive thinking involved in limerence has also been associated with low levels of serotonin and elevated levels of dopamine and norepinephrine - which is quite common in persons who have adrenal exhaustion from the trauma they survived.

[averagejane]

The scarcity mindset....yes....that sabotages us everytime. Thanks for reminding us that on a very populated planet, scarcity is not an issue. Being treated badly is.

[poycicle]

i hate that i start to obsess someone who gives me the slightest bit of attention. i end up hurting myself in the end. but for some reason i can't let go. i still a think about him everyday and romanticize

[longhairivonne]

Needed this did the worse mistake by running back to an asshole who will never value/ respect me and I’m still there asking for his attention the more I do it the more he takes advantage

[kirannwazir]

Oh my God it's like I'm having a personal counselling session everything I need to hear.

[poetrymysterybox]

We don't obsess and overthink when everything is great and awesome.
Thanks Brian Nox for sharing all your knowledge. You are so brilliant and kind. 🙏🏻🐦

[brendahughes]

I needed this message more than you know. I have obsessed over the last guy I dated after my divorce. It is just so hard at my age because I hate being alone

[rozellafitella]

I'm obsessed with a relationship that doesn't exist

[waxfrias]

This almost made me cry. It’s a solid reminder on what I am and who I am currently and how I can slowly shift focus and love myself more and see my self-worth.

[originalgoldengoddess]

I think it’s better to genuinely not care instead of pretending to not care. After everything that’s happened not caring has come so naturally to me.

[bibilym]

You are so right! I often find myself thinking that I’ll never like someone as much as I like him. But I will, one day

[tuchus]

It's different when older. The chances of love coming by again are slim to none. Obsessive thinking mixed with hurt feelings, is overwhelming

[cheekymonkeygirl]

You are so funny. You said, “I'm sure even your dog and cat know that he is not the right person for you.” 😂

[terit]

Thank you for such a timely reminder!
It is lighthearted, funny, easy to listen to yet something I really really need. Obsession is not healthy and certainly limiting to the capacity to self love. Thank you !