how to set boundaries & stop people pleasing | stop feeling guilty & be respected *with examples*

This is how you set boundaries WIHTOUT BEING RUDE! So many people fear setting boundaries and that they will push people away in the process but this is not true. its time to take your power back, get what you want in life, raise your standards and stop being a people pleaser. You got this x

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[tamkaur]

16:15 - learning this was such a game changer for me when dating! 🤭 ALSO WE HIT 100K SUBSCRIBERS TODAY I'M SO GRATEFUL FOR EACH AND EVERY ONE OF YOU! Thank you for all of the support and love, it warms my heart everyday. I'll do a proper post talking about this very soon though 🥰 p.s. shoutout to the real ones who already watched me screaming on my IG stories today when I found out 🤣

[lowkeychillionaire]

This girl is helping all the eldest daughters of the world 🌍

[Maomaomahu]

“You are not a nice person” I’ve needed to hear that. I always feel like I do everything for everyone but no one likes me… it’s cuz I’m not authentic I’m just something to be used, not someone to be loved. I need to be a person in my own right and not just a manifestation of whatever people need.

[shilparani]

Notes for myself:
1. Stop Predicting everyone's needs. Be comfortable with just existing. It's other people's responsibility to convey their needs to you.
2. Acknowledge that you deserve to be seen, heard and express yourself fully and what you say, matters. Show up, be yourself.
3. Practice the art of self-validation.
4. Spend a day counting how many times you say sorry.
5. Start by committing to one thing a week that would not be compromised by anybody.

[kaiipop]

as someone who finds it hard to say no to people, thank you for this!! <3

[shainoorshaikh]

It's really hard to keep boundaries especially in Asian household, my mum makes me feel guilty for not talking to relatives even though they're toxic.

[rog]

I always feel like my boundaries are not valid like I’m making too much drama or being too sensitive

[ed]

"I appreciate the reassurance but I don't have the capacity to do that " ~~ I will carry this with me all the time.

[taslucky]

it's extremely difficult to set boundaries between family members... so many parents take it as if you're being disrespectful towards them or trying to dictate how they can behave. It's so exhausting cause they don't feel the need to respect my boundaries since we are "family"

[baibby]

She's the older sister we all needed

[Blue.clouds]

I am such a people pleaser. I am nice to EVERYONE and just get walked on over. But the thing is I don't want validation. I'm just trying to live my life to the point where I no longer need to change.

[mrmrshudson]

my dad always said that if you were on a plane you would put your oxgen mask on first so you should apply the same logic to life and now i finally get it

[sofeaadleen]

" when you set boundaries, it results in you having fewer friends, But if that is actually the case, those people were never your friends in the first place "

THIS hit me hard enough to stop being delusional !!

[idkme]

Being a 17 year old girl, having no friends since childhood, always been cornered by my classmates or other people to facing humiliation for nothing made me a people pleaser thinking maybe people will like me if I prioritize them more than I do. But they started to take me for granted. They hated me when I prioritised myself and now ignore or use or make fun of me and my kindness. You and wizardliz are the only people who made me realise that I am not the one who is wrong whereas it is them. I promise you girl, the way your words empowered me, I am gonna be the best of all. You don't know me and I also don't know you. But still I want to thank you and wanna say I love you. ❤❤😊. I also want to say everyone reading this who is facing emotional and mental stress and has faced people who has been mean to them and emotionally bullied them, YOU ARE THE BEST, BETTER THAN YOU DREAM TO BE. ❤💕🥰

[hs-pjho]

I've blocked some of my siblings as they have no respect or boundaries for my personal space I've given them so many chances but they continued to disrespect me & my personal space & I sent an email, told them exactly how badly they behave then blocked them on email too as they are extremely toxic people & now they are trying to guiltrip me for blocking them & this is the very reason why they are blocked for life they have no respect for my needs & never take any accountability for their bad behaviours

[oualidbo]

You can help people 999 times, they will make you feel guilty when you say no 1 time.

[melissacarreno]

I have been watching your videos and they have been so helpful. I'm trying to break away from being a people pleaser. I really hope in overtime I have self-love for myself and my real supporters are going to know the real me :) Thank you, Tam Kaur. I also appreciate and love your confidence and authenticity ❤💕

[angelface]

“negative energy” as a consequence of a boundary is so interesting! i have to use it more often when setting boundaries, bc often times that IS the main consequence of not respecting boundaries 💗💕✨

and yes! setting boundaries shows respect for you, the other person, and the relationship! great detailed video as always 💕💕💕

[monclubdamour]

You are going to change so many lives, including mine! Thank you so so much for these beautiful videos I learn so much that I can apply to in my everyday

[imfiy_]

"you are not a nice person"
I am a nice person
"you are a people pleaser"
isn't that nice?
"there's a difference"
oh.

proceeds filling my mind with the most powerful words.