Personal Boundaries Explained - Setting The Emotional Boundaries You Need | BetterHelp

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When you hear the word “boundary,” you may imagine a physical line or barrier. However, when it comes to emotions, boundaries have a different meaning. Personal boundaries matter in significant relationships. Some individuals attempt to manipulate us or take advantage of our kind nature.

One of the critical components of being able to establish personal boundaries is a confident self-image. Developing self-confidence takes time, effort and emotional insight. People who struggle with boundaries often have a difficult time seeing their internal value. They may prioritize others over themselves. The most common example of lacking the ability to respect oneself is having trouble saying “no” to others, whether those people are close to you or even strangers. Saying “no” can be challenging, but once you’re able to do this, you will likely start to feel good about yourself and begin to establish healthy boundaries.

Sometimes people with particular mental illnesses struggle with boundaries. For example, those with Borderline Personality Disorder have difficulty establishing limits because they don’t have a clear sense of self. That’s not to say that they cannot develop this sense of who they are, but having a lack of understanding of who you are versus who the other person is can be a symptom of BPD.

You don’t have to have a mental illness to struggle with boundaries. Some people have trouble developing their limits with others. If you find you struggle with limitations, you can discuss this with a therapist whether that’s with an online counselor or a therapist in your area. Boundaries are a crucial part of healthy relationships, and if you’re having trouble with them, a therapist can help.

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[nicolemartin]

thank you for this helpful video! I always have a problem telling people "no", but then I end up being frustrated, angry or resentful later. I'm really going to try to change this going forward. I like how you said in the video that you need to have self-respect and act with integrity above all.

[ismailshaikh]

Thank you for this. Honestly I always think there is something wrong with me when I have people treat me like shit. I wish I found this video before because I am very passive cause I am afraid of hurting people. This provided me with great assurance.

[jameswilliamjacob]

Useful and effective explanation on settling emotional boundaries..Thank you BetterHelp.

[mikeshargent]

I really like your videos, the information is very helpful, as far as i know, Personal boundaries are guidelines, rules or limits that a person creates to identify reasonable, safe and permissible ways for other people to behave towards them and how they will respond when someone passes those limits.

[kumarlavanyam]

Excellent explanation about personal boundaries. Especially, I accept the point that we are responsible for the way that we will allow other people to treat us. Thanks for sharing.

[sentfrom]

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[marijapetrovic]

I love this video. I have such a problem with this, I was surrounded by people who I called my personal, energy draining vampires... It is so easier when you just say no and put yourself first

[bananapovallibia]

Thank you for this video, I tend to be alone because I am not comfortable in facing other people. This video explained to me what I am going into.

[anferneepuerronelli]

Thank you very much for the video, the therapist is very well explained, I understood her, she talks about how we should feel at the level of feelings, she gives advice and very positive recommendations, more people should see this kind of videos especially if they seek help from this kind.

[Chabanga]

Although short, this vid is highly insightful. I have learned a lot about a range of emotional issues and the possibilities improving my perception of the outside world. I am off to apply what I've just learned in practice.

[AartiKumari-ifog]

Very effectively explained about Personal Boundaries. It directly touch my hearts. Thanks

[quotebro]

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[younesbouhlal]

Clear and simple about setting boundaries in daily life. Better help i love your videos, straight to the point without making the video longer, thanks .

[robertkipkemboi]

thank you for sharing the tips in setting emotional boundaries. this is helping indeed

[saaajanps]

I am really happy to watch this and I believe I got the best video.Thanks for your valuable words and this is helpful to improve healthy personal boundaries.Well explained video.

[k.r.prabagarank.r.prabagar]

Really your step by step explanation is very easy to understand. its very useful for all of us. thanks.

[alexvidu]

Where were you when I was 18 and getting hammered at home and at school, self-esteem in the double negative, suicidal thoughts? I am now 55 and just beginning to get a grip. Thanks for the video, excellent work!

[abdullahnasser]

very useful in understanding and appreciating others emotions

[vesnastankovic]

Helpful,   thank you. Some of these are my issues.

[Axel-ibms]

Setting emotional Boundaries is hard. I suffer from depression since I was 15.