How To Set Healthy Boundaries

The problem with saying “No” is that we find it difficult to say it firmly. Sometimes, even if we say “No”, people don’t believe us because of how we say it. So, here are 5 steps you can take for your “Nos” to be seen as real boundaries. Has there been a time when you said no and your boundaries were not respected?

Writer: Mirzi Coleen Fuentes
Script Editor: Caitlin McColl
Script Manager: Kelly Soong
Voice: Drew Baillie
Animator: Mico Flores
YouTube Manager: Cindy Cheong

References

Covey, S. (1989). The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People. Simon & Schuster.

[Psychgo]

Comment a "NO" below and you will get a heart.

[goo]

0:13 . check in with yourself
0:39 . believe in your skill and capacity
1:06 . set boundaries fairly (a no is a no)
1:31 . offer alternatives
1:50 . just do it

NO!

[gooddaysinmymind]

When you say yes to everything for others, you actually saying NO to all of your other opportunities and feelings.

[illymns]

It's important to remember that saying "NO" doesn't make you selfish. If you have a lot of stuff to worry about (which most people do), then you can explain that. Otherwise, you can easily run out of energy and start to hate yourself despite being kind / empathetic <3

[namethestars]

I actually, recently, finally told my dad no more due to the emotional manipulation he'd been subjecting me to. I always strived to keep the peace but I finally found my voice and have been no contact since. Hardest thing I've ever had to do but I refuse to entertain his toxic behaviour any longer.

[rainvxmoon]

as someone who went from a "yes" person and literally say yes to everything & was people pleaser to "no" person who says no without fear or guilty and having boundaries is the best thing I ever did and honestly saying no feel better than saying yes.

little reminder even tho when you say no for trying to take care of yourself or setting boundaries some ppl would call you selfish and rude but you should know that you are not cuz you have the right to say no and taking care of yourself isn't selfish at all cuz you are human being <3

[SuperShana]

Honestly say “No” is difficult sometimes because you’re so afraid what people would react or don’t want people to be disappointed. But at the same time, if you need to say no, then say no because you have to watch out your well-being and your safety too. Also, people still respect your boundaries because they understand.

[Gamer-jvzg]

“No!”

I seriously need to learn this! I’m too kind and don’t know how to say no! I need to seriously learn this I’ve always said yes, there have been a few things I’ve said no, but they were for super minor things, but 99% of my life so far has just been, “yes”, this has been bothering me, thanks to this video I can have a great understanding of saying no when I need to or wanna say the word and that I shouldn’t be scared to say “No”

[khalilahd.]

This was one of the HARDEST lessons I had to learn but after getting stepped all over so many times you naturally begin to care more about your feelings than people pleasing. It’s not easy but you have to love yourself enough to set healthy boundaries and “no” is a big part of that ❤

[iamgoddessoflove]

If you often have a hard time saying “no” to people who you care about or you find yourself saying “yes” to people just to make them happy, it won’t help you to know where to draw the line so that you won’t get walked all over by others.
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[A_B-dmrg]

OMG The Ancient Magus Brideee! I loved that anime so much!

[randomprettysecret]

“Sometimes saying no is the best yes you can give yourself”

Those words struck deep. 😮

[PearlRose]

This is good for me as people pleaser😌 I'm learning how to say 'NO' with confidence and no doubt instead of fear of losing people.

You can be nice but don't forget about urself. We didn't know people out there are sincerely accept us or use you and ghosting afterwards.

[aiswaryak]

I used to say 'yes' to people always 'cause i dont want to disappoint them which detoriated my mental health almost lead to depression. Bt now i learnt to say NO when i wanted to. Now iam strong enough to face the consequences of my NOs, no matter what 'cause i prefer peace over love

[hoi]

“No.” Something I am not allowed to say. My family never allows me to say no, even if it makes me uncomfortable. I don’t feel like they do it to hurt me. I believe that they never intend to make me feel bad. Or maybe I’m rationalizing. I wanna work on being that person with firm boundaries.

[Movedchannels]

It’s hard for me to say no a lot. Literally to the point ppl push me around or has the ability to push me around. My biggest struggle is setting boundaries tho. I always have a hard time with that, bc I feel like if I come off too strong, I’ll get in trouble. Which is why I’m hoping to move out in a year or 2 so I wouldn’t have to feel like my boundaries aren’t valid

[psychgomandarin]

0:00 intro
0:12 1、check in with yourself
0:38 2、believe in your skill and capacity
1:06 3、set boundaries fairly (a no is a no)
1:32 4、offer alternatives
1:50 5、 just do it
2:43 outro

[Jemmitza]

This was released at the perfect time. I really needed this.

[danoncho]

2:13 Lol this really is how some people react on your no's at the beginning... If you will be really true to your boundaries, your social circle can change too... It will! Because some people will go, but new people will appear, those who really like the fact that you love yourself! You will feel a lot better in general, more confident and free! So I wish good luck to everyone with your self care! It definitely worth it :)

[YasminYoruba]

With family this is hard because they’re use to you saying yes and pulling the family card. The best thing I could have done is move and heal. I’ll check in to see how things are going but until they have learnt to respect me and my boundaries I’m doing me