Shame and Complex Trauma - Part 6/6 - Healing

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“Am I ever going to heal from my shame?” Tim talks about how to go about the lifelong journey of healing from shame.

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[jennypitts]

The first counselor I ever saw at age 12 told me to stand at the mirror and repeat positive things about myself. It made me feel worse - especially because it didn’t work and reinforced that something was “wrong with me”. Thank you for validating that affirmations are not the antidote to shame.

[RPJacob]

One note: grieving is before acceptance.

[kathy]

I can't say enough how helpful these videos are for me. Tim has such depth and understanding of everything he talks about. God Bess you Tim for sharing and helping me.

[MaryAnnFriesen]

This has been a huge help and understanding...Thankyou so much!

[jamsey]

Thank you so much for helping us realize how to change bad habits and grow into a better person. Now I can show this to my kids who need it. Please keep going you are amazing. Thank you for helping us all again

[petervisen]

Tim you are angel . God has given you to us with PTSD .

[QuackTube]

Cannot thank you enough for being God’s mouthpiece! God bless you 🙏😇

[Lezlee-abcxyz]

My mom died from alcohol and Demerol addiction when I was 30, she was 56. A long slow painful death .. I never got to reconcile with her. But I did help my dad take care of her until he died when I was 45

[shereepfeiffer]

ironically i used studying my triggers and asking myself where they were coming from like this bloke suggests. it has really helped a lot. Also getting hubby to look at triggers. both needed healing. I was doing it more because in disabilities we used to look at triggers and see what we could do to minimize them.

[voyowee]

Shame is such a corrosive, destructive force. My soul is a sail, and thanks to shame, it is irreparably torn.

[mercyhouse]

I love my parents but my mom passed and my dad in a mental hospital. Im 60 and can now say no to things.

[dakine]

I've realized I don't have good friends or connections in life. Recently a long term friend really disappointed me and it seemed like she was envious of me. I'm not good at conflict resolution any advice?

[melonhead]

Tim fletcher, you’re invited to the barbecue

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[christinakaramboulas]

This person is an amazing speaker. Every single thing he shares is to the point and there is no nonsense. He doesn't sugarcoat anything - I respect that. He talks about talks are so valuable to many many people as our culture has been heavily shame-based. Thank you so much for sharing your knowledge.

[joflynn]

May 2024. I just found Tim a few weeks ago. Very traumatic childhood with both parents being disabled. I was picked as head of house. It was awful. Needed but abused until I left home at 16. I bore 8 kids and failed miserably. They got counseling and so did I with no breakthrough. Until.... I discovered Tim Fletcher. I'm now 60 and for the first time in my life feel seen and heard! I'm not crazy!
I find it ironic when he mentions the example about being "in service." 30 years I owned a company and what happened? It was service oriented and my clients just used me for what they could get from me. I never formed any real connections. I'm retiring in the next 2 months and closing my business. I cannot wait to see the new job that awaits! I'm steering clear of the service industry. I'm grateful for Tim's videos! I never thought of grieving my childhood. I need to. God bless all of you.
One day at a time and keep moving.
I'm so excited about life now. ♡

[dodybillideau]

I have an adopted son from China that is now 17 and has carried this trauma and shame his whole life from his abandonment and living in an orphanage. We have done therapy but nothing has come even close to the understanding that this guy shares. I have looked for years to find the answers he gives here. I am hoping my son will listen and his perceptions about himself will begin to change and heal. And the Bible studies at the end are amazing!

[dianeclayton]

The most comprehensive information on shame, addiction, codependency and healing. Bravo!! Finally noticing past triggers arent triggering me now. 2 1/2 years sober...you tube has taught me so much. I am the sole survivor of my core family...siblings died from addictions...wish they knew this stuff, had the help like this they needed. I will not go out that way. This toxic shit stops with me. Healing myself and my adult children and grand daughter. 💞 Thanks Again.

[lydiahill]

My body completely shut down as I watched these series, unbelievable how deeply rooted this is. I am so grateful for the generous and heart felt sharings of Tim. Next level healing, excited about the journey forward.

[Oaktreealley]

My husband instinctively told me one time after I was beating myself up over all my maladaptive responses to life, He said, You can hate those things you struggle with but I think you have to also be thankful to them because they helped you survive when you were a kid. It sent a shock through me like ‘WOAH I’d never considered that’. Afterwards I did start to see myself a little more with gentleness, I guess you could say. But I still need reminding from time to time.
I just love and really appreciate all these videos. Thank you.