7 Signs of Codependency, not Authentic Love

Is codependency genuine love? When you love someone, you love them for who they are, and not because of one or more personal needs. These needs could include the need for emotional support, physical intimacy, or even financial. When you are codependent, you depend on the other person without relying on yourself. This codependent dynamic can come from past traumas, attachment styles, or even narcissistic abuse. Becoming self-aware of where your codependency comes from can help you be a better partner.

Writer: Jade Hamilton
Script Editor: Caitlin McColl
Script Manager: Kelly Soong
Animator: ayacchiart
YouTube Manager: Cindy Cheong

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[laratheplanespotter]

I’ve come to realise that a relationship isn’t made from 50% of one person and 50% of another; but rather 100% x2 and you compliment each other not needing each other to complete you.

[PinkWytchBytch]

It feels important to point out that a neglectful partner can end up causing the other one to develope codependent tendencies because they feel like they’re scrambling to beg for the affection they rightfully deserve and then the neglectful partner tends to blame everything in the partner they put in this position in the first place. Grey area situations like this pop up

[sfaexox_]

This is not making fun of you, this is for making you know the reason.

[Aan]

Timestamps
1). Choice 0:28
2). Dependence 1:40
3). Communication 2:25
4). Support 3:09
5). Boundaries 3:56
6). Control 4:44
7). Self worth 5:24

Hope this helps you and hope you has a good day. 💙💙💙💙💙💙

[maitrikarna]

Don't go breaking up with your S/O just because you fit the descriptions in this video. You can become codependent with someone you're actually in love with.

Codependency is just a toxic state of a romantic relationship, friendship, and sometimes a familial relationship.

It's not healthy, but it doesn't necessarily mean you're not in love, just that you have a lot of work to do and could use a lot of space. Potentially.

I've been in codependent relationships where the love was gone, and others where the love was there but the healthy habits and boundaries were not.

[TheSoundofTanay]

*me going through my day trying to be normal*
Psych2Go: “here’s a reality truth bomb you needed”

[piegirl]

As someone in a codependent friendship for most of my childhood it sucks for both parties. Even if you love them if it turns toxic you need to cut them out of your life if nothing changes

[serif_]

It's actually possible to fix a codependent relationship. It's a bit difficult, It needs a lot of effort and patience, but most importantly, it's only possible if both parties are on it and agree to work together to improve their relationship.

My partner and I used to have a codependent relationship. We've been working together in order to fix it, and now things are better.

We still have some minor issues to fix, but I known we can handle it together. I think we are a great team.

[vesselling]

I really love the references you add, these drawings are so adorable.
From what I gather, it's having no choice and no identity of your own versus choosing and maintaining your decisions and identity. Interesting video, Psych2Go, I enjoyed it a lot!
I was especially happy to see the SpyXFamily art, too. Keep it up!

[swordsnorchids]

I think we should not confuse having a lot of care and love to give and share with codependency which I
kinda sense tends to happen a lot nowadays even though it's unjustified.
People do need love and connection, loneliness isn't good or healthy either so it's about balance
but important to be aware of.

[kyanolotl]

This made me realize that a previous relationship that I had was codependent. We had to distance ourselves from each other a month ago(we broke up around seven months ago but we were still friends) and I've been in a different romantic relationship for around three months and this one is a lot more healthy than the previous relationship.
It hasn't been that long since me and the persin in my past relationship stopped talking but I feel a lot more confident and at ease with the person I'm in a relationship with now. Probably because I actually set my boundaries at the beginning of the relationship instead of just not talking about them at all.

[WhiteFox]

I recognised yor and loid, nagisa and his mom, Anya and Damian, dazai and akutagawa…
Don’t know the rest of the references but I think that adding references made it easier to understand the concepts : )

[evaha]

1:49 that's Rosa and Artem from Tears of Themis, right ?!💕🙈
I can't be that addicted to the game to see them everywhere...😭
Also the choice of characters is on point! Especially Nagisa, or Yuno/Yuki or the couple in Itazura no Kiss

Edit : It's definitely them, she proposed to help him with a case later in the video. And there's Luke and Vyn too !

[Wind_Cursed]

Anxiety makes things difficult but that's alright, I try to get better at controlling my anxiety each and every day. I'm trying not to let it control me. One day I'll be ready for a relationship. Even if that day comes after death. One day...

[UndercoverTherapist]

There is barely anything as beautiful a genuine love when it comes from both parties in the relationship. I hope everyone can experience this kind of love.

[flamegamer]

This is why I’m ready for a relationship. Because I’ve been hearing stories about other peoples’ relationships and these sign were brought up. Now that I know, I’m aware of them when I’m ready.

[gloomy_shroom]

I really needed this video, thank you so much! I heard literally the example of a codependent relationship at the start and thought “oh no… I was right…”

[octane]

The control part is a very important part to check in relationships because it can also lead to a toxic relationship, manipulation, etc...

[DK]

Communication is definetely a problem in my life. I often want people to realize, there is something wrong with me, based on my expression. I'm a highly sensitive person and I can see, if people aren't feeling good, at the same time I wrongfully expect other people to notice, when there is something wrong with me.

[sshaeya_]

OH MY GOD PSYCH2GO & TEARS OF THEMIS?! I LOVE YALL SM 😭😭🛐