5 ways to heal from codependency #codependency #relationship #relationships

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[sockpuppet]

To stop being codependent, you need to Change Your Role in Relationships.
The people you are currently in relationship with want you to play your role because they are benefiting from your services. They will resist your attempts to change the rules of the game.
I told them to “stop doing that” the way they were treating me. They are not only unaware of what they are doing, they have no incentive/do not want to change.
The only thing that worked for me was going no contact and ending the many relationships.
Then remaining alone, working on myself, and changing my behaviors.
Three years later I have so much more peace in my life.

[benedixtify]

I made a startling realization this week:
I'm subconsciously strongly attracted to women who are vulnerable, anxious, depressed, or see themselves as damaged in some way. I end up playing out a caretaker role, in reality with people in my life, or even in my head with people I don't know personally.
This has caused me a lot of detrimental self-sacrificing.

I'm still processing what to do with this.

[Fitzroyfallz]

Thank you Kati, I didn’t actually have the word to describe what’s going on with me and my mother’s relationship, but now I know. I’m working on trying to be my own person and realising that no matter how hard I try I won’t make her a better person, and it’s exhausting trying to when they don’t want to help themselves.

[amandateixeira]

i am codependent with literally everyone that i love in my life. i just cant deal well being alone

[megansleeman]

It’s scary to think about if you’re not in a relationship with anyone. Makes me scared to get into another one. But I’ll make myself be prepared on what to do if I start having codependency again.

[WisconsinWanderer]

Sometimes I have to teach others how I want to be treated, and yes I’ve had to walk away from “friends “and family. Thank you Katie 😊

[seekinghappy]

I DEFINITELY need more codependency content! ❤

[katiestadler]

Love these types of videos! Short, informative, and well said. Thank you!

[mikaya]

I need advice: I am completely codependent to my friend. They are really nice and all, and I think they also were codependent with me for a long time. Now, we are both yound adults, and I can see them changing and starting to open themself to other people. I tought it would be great. But as soon as things changed (us going to more social events and having more friends) I got very anxious and stressed about the fact that maybe I would lose them. When they announced that they found someone they loved, it was like a shock, and I didn't think I would react this way. I was completely terrified of what I would become when they decided to go away, with someone new. And I understand that it's not their fault, the problem comes from me. Sure they talk frankly to me sometimes, but they are never mean. We are friends, and I just realized that I was only seeing my worth through them. If they don't think much of me anymore, then I'm not worth anything anymore.

I want and need to change, but I don't want to hurt my friend by telling them what is happening. Do you have any advices ?

[alokm]

Hi Katie, Please make an elaborate video on co-dependency. Thank you!

[melissasmuse]

1st tip wouldn’t work if you’re in an abusive relationship. Which many co dependents are.

[rhonmc]

I now see I have co-dependency but after 45 yrs, my husband and I have finally separated for good. However, with co-dependency so strong, at 70 with treatment resistant MDD and now no husband, family or friends, I am doomed. No hope for life😢

[reinhardtnilsson]

I have adhd and co dependency issues and that’s exactly why I have NO partner .. I’m 49 years old and a male.. I seem to scare woman away with my overly “ nice “people pleasing way.. I want a partner so I can share and talk with ..if I had a partner I wouldn’t be listening to this advise

[samiyakhan]

I always want my husband to be happy and caring. And if he is not that i become sad. Its like i am emotionally dependent on him. He says he wants to eat something good. I happily make it. But I sacrifice myself alot. I am thinking about him in every single thing.

[johnmarkhatfield]

interesting. this describes my ex wife to a t. she’s finding herself now. we didn’t fight, but she left me after my phone broke and brakes blew out on my truck. she had a lot of internal stuff going on that she didn’t want to bring up to me. in the pandemic i lost my job and was injured and continued to struggle with depression. she wanted to fix me,

[StarSnow]

lol, the first point is heavily leveraged on good willed people around us.

[justmeliving]

What is the difference between a ultimatum and a boundary? Because when I would tell my husband if he didn’t stop doing a certain abusive thing or cheating thing he would say I’m giving him a ultimatum and would guilt me for wanting to not be cheated on or lied to.

[missylovesdogs]

Hi katie, i love your content could you please put subtitles on your shorts. Thanks

[marjoriemartinez]

Acing boundaries has taken thi relationships to separation

[GypsyFeet]

Love that shirt on you
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