Codependency - Enablers

Many of us have/had codependent parents, or have struggled in codependent relationships. We may even be in one now. Since there are two unhealthy people in codependent relationships (a narcissist and a co-narcissist/ enabler), this may be tough to hear for some of us, but there is hope - it's in learning to meet our needs instead of trying to meet them in another person.
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[Lore]

Dying inside trying to give life to someone who doesn’t want life. It’s so 💯true. 😢

[KarenDelores]

Truth. This happened to me. I mentally had a breakdown being codependent. I was fulfilling all their needs and wishing that my needs were met. I was exhausted and lost track of reality. God brought me out and showed me how I was loosing my soul to this person.

[Mitzy--]

You don’t realize it until you realize you’re exhausted and don’t know why … 😔

[proverbs]

I was not the main enabler, my mother in law is. Once I understood what a trauma bond and codependency was I immediately started on getting out of it. What happened as a result was severe violence and abuse from my husband. I no longer played the role of his apologist and enabler and he couldn’t stand it. He got arrested many times and his mother would pay attorneys to get ‘em off or plead to a lesser charge and he wouldn’t be in jail long enough for me to do anything fully, except I did get full custody when he was locked up and that was a big win. I should have done more but his mother and sisters and aunts and grandmother were constantly threatening me and harassing me every time he went to jail, even when he went for drugs and drinking. I was in a world in which I was afraid and I didn’t recognize. But I’ve grown so much and I know his family can’t do anything to hurt me and my children. I was taken from my mother at five years old and I couldn’t let anyone do that to my children, but I’m not a disabled gullible woman like my mother was and my father and his family were just as ugly to her because my father is a drunk who likes to hurt people too. So they used that trauma against me and I fell for it for 20 years. Now I know I hold all the cards and there’s nothing they can don to change that. I’m not going to be cocky about it though because it’s not me, but the Lord whom holds all the cards. He gave me everything I have and I’m just turning right when he says and answering that call when he says and so on. God have me life twice and the second time was a straight miracle.

[esterriesparabe]

The codependency starts with feeling compation for your partner. Being an empath atracts narcissist and if you have a genuin loving heart they despise you instead of apreciating. Some people cant bear the light of somebody and try to dim it instead of enjoy it and be iluminated with it...Marìa

[jlouutube]

I was co-dependent but sought God and broke free from that relationship...very painfull but necessary. I then got baptized at 26. I was single 7.5 yrs and then platonically dated. God showed me to keep my distance and cured me of my co-dependance. I am now in a healthy marriage almost 24 yrs. Thank you Jesus!

[kellycurtis]

Thank you. This happened to me. I gave up everything for my partner. I was so sick, but I didn’t realize.

[danitag]

This hits home. I am from a long line of female descendants that were conditioned to believe codependency and being subservient are normalcy.
It's not! Thank you for sharing this content. It brings awareness and encourages change for the chain breakers!

[kayleemic]

I kept doing this until i got scammed by someone with NPD/ASPD. Then i became aware of it. Now i can barely meet up with a new person in case they come to expect something from me which i cannot give. Any kind of expectation upon me now feels like torture or any kind. I had every last breath sucked from my body. Now i have nothing and recognise how protective i must be over what i have. I thought i had nothing and now i realise i do because it was all taken from me therefore i clearly had a lot, he couldnt take something if i never had it

[jeanieshank]

Even if the other person does want life, it still won’t be what they need. I’m so glad I know now and am working to be healed from this.

[esterriesparabe]

The codependency starts with feeling compation for your partner. Being an empath atracts narcissist and if you have a genuin loving heart they despise you instead of apreciating. Some people cant bear the light of somebody and try to dim it instead of enjoy it and be iluminated with it...Marìa❤

[rosemarypetrilli]

This is so distuctive for a person to be born into! I still at 61 don't know how to get my needs met, and I am so isolated because everybody has sickness in the US! It's affected my whole life!

[pameladavis]

YES, FINALLY SOMEONE SAYING THIS OUT LOUD! 🙋🙏🙏🙏🙏

[aquajax]

It literally drove me to a breakdown. Still recovering

[arianebennion]

I became so sick I was dead, literally. I wanted and was trying to die. I gave him everything, he refuses to ever return any kind of love or kindness. Saying the entire time I'm the person who has the problem. He doesn't think cheating for years should be a problem.

[FiberFairy]

Just escaped this toxic cycle and SO TRUE I was literally TRULY bed-ridden depressed for the first time in my life at age 50. At the beginning of my golden years!!!

Thank goodness for wonderful friends old and new who stood by me and walked me into the light ❤❤❤❤❤

[mkoppguidingforcema]

Something I needed to hear...to be told. Thank you, so many things are becoming clearer about how my life has been

[powerpressproductions]

I was in this position before, and the best thing I’ve ever done was leave it.

[gordongraham]

Fuck me 😅 the truth an it’s unbiased strike to the face… truth doesn’t pick sides.

[lexiwest]

This hits. How do we forget about ourselves? Or worse, become belittled when we do want to do something for ourselves.