7 Signs They're NOT The One

Is it the highs of the honeymoon period wearing off? When the realization that you don’t have a future together sets in, it is all the more important to make the right decision. To help you with that, here are a few signs they're NOT the one.

DISCLAIMER: this is for educational purposes and is not a substitute for professional advice. If you can relate to any of these signs, please know this feedback is not meant to discredit anyone. It is meant to be a self-improvement guide for those of you who have been feeling a little stuck. We advise you to always listen to your intuition and always do what is right for you.

Writer: Rida Batool
Script Manager: Kelly Soong
Animator: Celia Sánchez (new animator) @celiasanchezarte
YouTube Manager: Cindy Cheong

References

[khalilahd.]

“You can be the ripest, juiciest peach in the world and there’s still going to be someone who hates peaches” 🧡

[SarcasticPixie]

Took me 38 years to find the one. Stop trying to make each person “the one” and be ok with the wait. I promise, it’s worth it. I’m happy in ways now that I never felt were possible. I literally feel like I’m having a sleepover with my best friend every night of my life. You deserve, and you will find this.

[NathalieLazo]

“Stop trying to find the right person; be the right person. Instead of being with someone who makes you happy, first be someone who makes you happy.” – Jay Shetty 💛

[Raghav-txym]

0:50 They want to change you.
1:28 You can’t count on them.
2:00 You have different values.
2:48 They can hear, but not listen.
3:36 Your intuition.
4:10 They are fond of ‘You’ Statements.
5:05 Your close ones can tell.

[highliving-animatedvideos]

It’s ok if some people don’t like you. Not everyone has good taste ❤️

[UwemAkpanTV]

This part: COMMUNICATION IS TO A RELATIONSHIP WHAT SUNSHINE IS TO A FLOWER! So good

[PsychologyRefresh]

One of the biggest red flags is when they talk bad about ALL the exes. If your new spouse constantly criticizes all of their "crazy" ex-lovers, it's a solid indication that they are the issue.

[victorialee]

My ex used to block me out whenever I try to explain my perspective and he would always ask me back “Why should I understand you? It’s not like anything will change.” I also couldn’t share any of my bad days with him because he’ll get upset that I “ruined his day”. Looking back there were so many red flags that I chose to not see and I’m so glad I gathered up my courage to leave him.

[Faildude]

I watched this video because I was scared I was blind to see what was to come, but I love how my partner and I watched this and paused to make sure these weren't issues. We talked for hours just watching this video and I feel so much stronger in my relationship and I can't thank you enough

[noellejane]

The worst part is when you feel like you are out of breath when trying to tell them anything because you know they aren’t listening.

[Cece]

I have to say I thought about breaking up with my boyfriend a few times when we first started dating, I'd say 70% of it was my attachment issues and anxiety about healthy relationships. The other 30% was just us being different personalities and struggling to become accustomed to each other and communicate in a way both of us understood. I don't have those thoughts anymore and I'm very glad I stuck it out, we're at 1.5 years and planning on having our families meet soon. If you have thoughts about breaking up every time you get uncomfortable or argue and you aren't in a toxic relationship, then it might be on you and your issues and not them and the relationship. Being uncomfortable is necessary for change and growth and if you have a good person than it's worth it to push through, communicate that you are struggling but trying to adapt and a good partner will help you through it.

[samantharose]

It's hard when you go from being SO convinced that you've found your person, only for you two to grow apart rather than grow together. 💔 We just couldn't get passed our mistakes & heal. I still miss him every single day.

[maryanneevans]

There is no such thing as the one. There is compatibility and communication, and a willingness to nurture your and your partner's thoughts, feelings, and desires through the years.

[rarimanegg]

When this came out, it helped solidify my decision to leave my fiancé. 5 months later and I have no regrets.

[frantcOne]

Funny, I had a relationship fail because 1) we respected each other and encouraged each other to obtain our goals, 2) we communicated well, and would talk about where we stand and how we feel, 3) we were tolerant of each other's bad days.

The reason it didn't work was because we both recognized from all this healthy work that we couldn't be together as we were. Our futures were too different and we couldn't figure out how to combine our lives. We are still good friends, and sometimes one or both of us want to get back together. Until we have the same path, we just can't do it

[ComicalRealm]

"The heart knows when the search is over" - Kermit

[TakeBackYourMind]

They don't want to be with you. Sounds stupid but a lot of us chase people we think are the one, but who don't feel the same about us. The right relationship is reciprocal. We all deserve to be loved fully, and the world is an abundant place. If this 'the one' doesn't reciprocate your love, there are other 'the ones' out there for you that will, and those are the relationships that really thrive.

[nordistl]

being with the wrong person is so traumatic... I hate relationships because they hurt so much

[love_bug.]

there was someone who said you can love someone but it's harder to find someone who will love you back

[el-hplj]

There is a big difference in trying to change someone to become what you want and trying to uplift someone to become an even better person for themselves. This can get crossed up easily and make it seem like you are unhappy with the real them, when in reality you love them but would love to see them become even better and know they can do it. Personally I like when my partner pushes me to become something more. It keeps me from getting to comfortable and stagnant. On the flip side, others felt like I was pressuring them to push themselves and change. Change can be great even necessary but it depends on how we look at it.