How Narcissists Determine if You're Good Supply

How Narcissists Determine if You're Good Supply. Will You Pass the Litmus Test? Make sure to watch out for these 5 sure signs you're being analyzed as a potential supply source.

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[SensitiveRevolution]

If you're an Empath or still healing from a relationship with an emotionally abusive individual, you need to watch this!

[bobsidog]

0:15 ... The narcissist is testing how much of your kindness can be taken for weakness.

[shirleyakpelu]

I am an empath. I was played like a violin.

[kolyah]

Not calling can also mean they just aren't into you. The true test of narcissism, is whether they try to keep you when you walk away. If they appear not to care but don't want you to leave them then ding ding ding, you've got yourself a narcissist!

[VickiNikolaidis]

She is so good at pointing out the key issues. Trauma- bonding I've learned is a red flag for me, because people who immediately take a victim stance make me feel sorry for them. Also the you give but they don't . . . So important to run from that person.

[angelanicholson]

This is really good advice. Empathic natures or very sensitive types that have been abused from young often by many, are often reactive types, as narcs and bullies have been a real problem, esp when you've grown up not being valued, protected and taught how to be a wise empath or sensitive type for your own good with boundaries. And narcs love reactive types, because of the fear of upsetting someone and being easilly positioned for the narc games. It's incredibly hard not to be reactive, but be mindful. Unfortunately, some never have the right support to end this cycle, but take it from me, younger people, listen to this advice on this video and you'll have a chance at finding the right people in your life. Being "easy going" has been abused by so many, so drop it and be aware of self-preservation. You be your guide and support to protect yourself.

[harleyquinn]

This is also good advise for us survivors of Narcs who are on the Autism spectrum. We are certainly an abuse toy delicacy to various kinds of toxic people because our capacity for too much honesty and neediness to establish that long desired emotional connection with another person comes back to bite us in the butt.

[jensbasement]

Boundaries are like walls. Even if you have a crack in that wall, enemies will chip away at it, until they have completely violated you

[bonkahermitakaintjudge]

Very important information since manipulative people can be so hard to detect because of their ability to blend into their surroundings so well. Thanks again for your presentation.

[demigaines]

Thank You For Sharing
Boundaries Are So Important In
Setting With The Narcissists.They Test
You Jus To See How Much They Can Get Away
With. Narcissists Are Very Disrespectful &
Not Setting Boundaries Gives Them The Opportunity
To Continue The Abuse..

[shantidierauer]

Yes, exactly what he did:
Targeting my childhood trauma, gaslighting, isolation, criticizing/comparing me and others, most bad insult, (sometimes kids were with us), smear campaign, jealousy, manipulating, coercive control, not warmhearted, damaged my kids life, he's petending to be the victim, that I'm the crazy 1 who's lost.
So glad for my kids and myself, that he finally moved out !!!

[jolly]

As always, Kim, your content makes great sense. Many of us start out as good supply, but after learning about NPD, we finally become bad supply on purpose, having established clear boundaries -- a direct path to a happy life. Thanks for driving this point home.

[lightinthedark]

Wow.. every example you've described is what I've went through with my narcissist. 😶 I got away early enough before I was too deep in the relationship. Thank God!! 🙏 My intuition was screaming the whole time I was going through this.

[caliblu]

My Narc tested my boundaries. During the love bombing, I kept thinking, "why am I doing this?" Right before his disappearing acts (to go to one of his other women he had on rotation), he'd always leave his personal belongings at my home so he'd always have an excuse to come back. Whenever I'd try to break things off or I'd ask for space, he'd immediately disregard my boundary by showing up at my home unexpectedly.

[Ambergris]

You make really accurate points on traits these toxic people have! !!!! I dont want to go out with someone ever again that turns a date into a therapy session! And Im not in that field of work! And if you feel like you need to investigate someone especially early on Omg ! And someone constantly trying to figure out everything for you as if you are a child!! So annoying !!

[pegasus]

Never confront a narcissist!! Just end the relationship and go no contact. They want you to be reactive because this is how they get supply. Never argue, reason, bargain or confront them because they will just turn it into a game and get supply out of you. They don't want to resolve anything because keeping you stressed out and confused gives them Supply.
Any reaction you give the narcissist will be used against you. They always work against you!

[Andypandieful]

Great advice. I am guilty of saying “ I hate confrontation “, “ I dislike telling others what to do”... massive target on my back.

[mmm-komy]

Setting boundaries is good advice. But when you set them since the beginning of the relationship the covert type fill find other ways to bypass your boundaries. It's like a challenge for narcissists, they'll come up with some new leverage stuff, they want to prove themselves to be very skilled and feed their ego. A target may declare certain boundaries and keep other boundaries undeclared to observe the narcissist's natural spontaneous behavior. I find it exhausting anyway. Maybe I'm too lazy.

[harleyquinn]

A Narcissist will want you to change your behavior. Mine wanted me to not speak my mind as often or carry myself with my back straight and chest out. He wanted my body language pulled in toward my center, head down, and not talking first.

[shirleyakpelu]

Been there. Done that. Got a nice tight t-shirt.