Narcissism | 7 Traits

Spotting a narcissist is easy… but only when you understand the signs. MedCircle expert and licensed clinical psychologist, Dr. Ramani, and MedCircle host, Kyle Kittleson, walk through the 7 traits of narcissistic personality disorder aka NPD.

00:00 Intro
00:13 1. Lack of empathy
00:29 2. Entitlement
00:46 3. Grandiosity
01:17 4. Superficiality
01:51 5. Chronic seeking of admiration & validation
02:29 6. Tendency to "rage"
02:59 7. Arrogance
03:19 Are there more than 7 characteristics?
04:44 Kyle's favorite takeaways
04:56 How quickly can someone spot a narcissist?
06:28 Questions to ask a potential narcissist
07:58 Social anxiety vs. narcissism
08:47 How to handle a relationship with a narcissist

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[Shakespearelover]

I was married to a narcissist. If you run into one, run as fast as you can away from them!!!

[Sunshine-bipm]

1. Lack of empathy
2. Entitlement
3. Grandiosity
4. Superficiality
5. Chronic seeking of admiration
6. Tendency to "rage"
7. Arrogance

[DonteRicardo]

“Getting pleasure out of somebody else’s misery.” That is literally most of the world.

[yukio_saito]

04:02 "That never happened."

This is one of the top gaslighting phrases.

[basilofgoodwishes]

So basically to be a Narcissist, you have to care only about your own desires at the expense of others and wanting only the facade of a good person while doing nothing for them. You as a narc never apologize for mistakes, get always angry at the slightest irritation, even if all someone did was setting boundaries. Expect others to obey the pecking order where you stand at the top and be condescending towards those who suffer. Be arrogant and think you are better than others while you have a lot less on the table as a person.

It seems to me that Narcs confuse control and manipulation with love and trust, which is why they get angry when you try to do things your own way or something they don't like. They might be able to love other people, but only if they can be the one who control everything and are the ones responsible for the well-being of others, which is not how relationships should work.

Honestly, sincerely, kindness, empathy, compassion and love should characterise our relationships, not blind rage, arrogannce, contempt, superficialty, bullying, abuse and control.

[trajanuslarocque]

Trait of a narcissist is also unable to accept any sort of criticism, even if it is very light non-personal criticism. They will tend to call people "haters" after being criticized.

[nickixxxx]

This is so on point narcs never take responsibility and they just blame everyone for their own problems, they put people down to make themselves feel better and it’s all mental abuse, and when you confront them about it they either get pissed or laugh, they never want a real relationship they just want someone to take care of them financially while they go and do what they want I got away from my narcissistic ex 4 years ago and I’m still healing

[nahomymalu]

1.) Lack of empathy - defining characteristic of narcissism

2.) Entitlement - deserves special treatment

3.) Grandiosity - unrealistic version of the world

4.) Superficiality - concerned about appearances

5.) Chronic seeking of validation - constant need for praise

6.) Tendency to rage - uncontrolled rage, no tolerance for when things don't go their way

7.) Arrogance - "I'm better than you"

Narcissist will engage in projection, make their faults and flaws yours, and will make you question your reality.

[brittanymercier]

It's exhausting in general. I am so completely drained from narcissist behavior

[janeenmpellicane]

They are sneaky, selfish people. Took me a long time to accept this as true. Ty Dr Ramani .. namaste 🙏

[jlongino]

I’m divorcing one and we were married less than 6 months. It’s exhausting. It made me sick. I’m 5 months post living together and almost divorced. Lost everything. It almost killed me. 100% lost myself and wanted to. Addict. Abusive. Felon. No empathy because he’s a diagnosed sociopath with a lot of dark empathy traits.

Whew.

[joywalker]

Some narcissist also tell you that you did something you DID NOT do, or ultimately take it out of context and rage at you. The sick part is it's not consistent its like a pattern. Once a month, Four times a year, Two times every three months, (just speculation). So it becomes confusing to your spirit because half the time they are treating you with respect. Then there is the RAGE that comes out over the littlest things, and you are left feeling like what just happened!!!! It is invalidation, after invalidation, after invalidation. You defend yourself verbally, but eventually you become sick and tired.

[Bettyboop]

-lack of empathy (defining characteristics)
-Entitlement (special)
-grandiosity/grandiose plans
-superficiality
-chronic seeking admiration (needing constant praise and admiration)
- rage (poor command of other emotions and handling frustrations, no tolerance)
-arrogance (I’m better than you, snobby, devaluation of others as less than)

[vincesoliz]

Another trait is they dont take accountability in their faults and never apologize

[karensheldon]

She’s so right. Took me so long to figure him out. Thankfully my kids were teenagers and the fight wasn’t long and they are with me protected from him.

[chrisr.]

What I don't like about the term narcissist is that everybody calls everybody else that. so these videos really help.

[selinabegum]

I just got out of a very emotionally abusive narcissistic relationship. Tbh the whole year it was on and off and I felt miserable. So many things you guys touched on, the fact he was so materialistic, hyper critical of what I wore, where I went, constantly criticising and nit picking over every little thing, it’s exhausting! I don’t know if I trauma bonded but he reminds me of a close family member, which is one of the reasons I’m struggling to let the relationship go. I could see it was toxic a mile away, he wanted me to basically change myself and would say things like why can’t I be more homely (and how I would abandon my future kids) I tried to uphold my boundaries but when the narcissist gets under your skin it’s really hard. Also when they explode it’s scary but they counteract this with (empty) apologies and seemingly moments of empathy. The narcissist I’m talking about lacked compassion majority of the time and kept saying it’s my fault he’s angry and living in a state of anger, as he doesn’t explode at anyone else. I may even have mentioned that he is a narcissist and advised him to go therapy but he didn’t. He would blame everything on me, and it’s ironic that he ended the relationship though it was more or less mutual. He probably thinks I made him toxic but he never took proper accountability. It was always pointing the blame at me. These people are so deluded it’s unreal. There was so much gaslighting going on, and I read a lot about it, just couldn’t leave the relationship. And the thing is he is apparently socially awkward though I’ve seen him charm others. They don’t know the real him, I do. He always shuts me down, hangs up the phone when things don’t go his way, it’s pretty much all about him and how he wants me to be this perfect idealised version. 😢

[priscillawilliams]

OMG, Dr. Ramani you blow my mind, you describe my Husband to a T. Unbelievable
You Dicrubbed 30 reasons, you got everyone of them. Now I know why, I doubt myself much
I never had a clue that he was a narcissist. I felt
He had a chemical imbalance or a brain injury.
My son and I were talking about you, trying to understand why my husband does this behavior.
You have put the pieces together.
Thank you, I felt so crazy.

[mirrorball_]

This channel provides me with knowledge, help and calmness at the same time😌✨

[brigitte]

That word, charming really triggers other narcissists. I also avoid the charmers. Narcissist can’t wrap their head around charming being a negative trait.