'Am I a Narcissist?' How to Assess Yourself | DIANA DIAMOND

Ever wonder if you're a narcissist? There are ways to self-assess.

From online inventories (the Pathological Narcissism Inventory, the Narcissistic Personality Inventory...) to writing self-descriptions, there are lots of ways to become more aware of your own narcissistic traits and how you experience yourself and other people.

We interviewed Diana Diamond about narcissism and its prevalence in our society today, all the way from healthy traits to Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD).

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Diana Diamond is an expert clinician who makes use of Transference-Focused Psychotherapy in her practice treating NPD and BPD (Borderline Personality Disorder).

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[ann_]

No one wants to be a narcissist but everyone is quick to point one out

[kristoferleobaisac]

Thank you, I’m now even more confused if I’m a narcissist.

[laonza]

I used to be a narcissist but now I'm perfect.

[tahwsisiht]

This needs self honesty and a willingness to face our own shortcomings. That in itself an unlikely scenario for a narcissist.

[haruki.setshedi]

I think narcissistics have a bad rep. We've all been there before self reflection so seeing this video means you're on the right path. ❤

[danpatrick]

I watch her videos and pretend she’s my mentor/professor. 😊

[geico]

OMG! The writing assignments is freaking awesome! A description of myself strikes me as difficult, much more difficult than describing a significant other in my life. MAN! Sometimes I think I have some narcissism, other times I'm not sure maybe it's more paranoia. I have a very difficult time thinking of myself as a "bad/evil person" but is that because of how my society defines and talks about narcissus people? I guess a better question for me is, are all narcissus people bad or can one be a narcissus without hurting others?

[billyblim]

Sometimes I think that I am the only actual person and that everybody else is just a facet of my personality projected into my sensory field and that the different and contradictory facets (other people) struggle for influence over me in order to settle my soul or decide who I am, but it really doesn't matter who I am because there is not really anybody else to be affected by it. The universe is just an infinite hall of mirrors: my imagination. That sounds pretty narcissistic, but maybe it isn't, because I don't want all that to be true, and besides I try to be an alright guy in case other people do exist. I try to be nice to them and consider them and stuff, though sure I can be pretty selfish sometimes. OK, thanks.

[komunikolog]

I have simple diagnostic tool to check whether I'm dealing with a narcissist: I ask myself: do I remember that person saying sorry honestly (to me or someone else)? I would love to consult that intuition with an expert :)

[eddierayvanlynch]

In five decades, I've had just one entirely rational conversation with our family narc that didn't degenerate into a screaming match.
The narc was genuinely confused that some long-time friends had stopped coming around, and would only communicate through Facebook.
When I respectfully stated that that had been happening since retirement two decades ago because nobody wanted to be around the drama and unhappiness, the narc burst into grieving tears, saying, "I AM happy. Why can't anybody see that?"
I realized then that the clinical psychologist who gave the diagnosis was honest and correct; it would not get better, it would get worse, and I couldn't fix it.
That said, while there are tests that can accurately assess narcissism, getting the narc to fully accept the results is a profoundly monumental task.
In hindsight, I realize I should have taken the Dr's advice and moved far away.
Loving someone is a complete thing; you're either in or out. I get that. But noone should try to love a wall.

Stay Strong. ❤

[editpending]

im worried i may be a narcissist, but i also have a very low opinion of myself. yet i cant seem to keep friendships ( i dont date so relationships are irrelevant) going. i really like my alone time, and find it a chore to keep in touch with people at times. ugh, i hate stuff. im probably a narcissist.

[siblinginchrist]

at a certain point one becomes so painfully aware of their inability to love genuinely and to even see people and not yourself in their eyes
it's so sickening and exhausting and I've made no progress mimicking how a normal person would act cuz I don't actually feel that way

As for the task, it's equally hard to describe myself and other people, though one of the reasons for that besides npd is that I can never be sure with my assessments, somehow they always end up being proven wrong reeeal quick

Conclusion I wish I could love lol

[StarOnTheWater]

I can read my description easily under a narcissistic viewpoint. It's so hard to tell.
Eg I have always had this desire to be seen and I feel an extreme amount of shame about it. But then again I never showed myself and I was never seen so how do I know that it is not just a normal human desire to be normally seen?

[dearthofdoohickeys]

I think I’m a narcissist. I feel like I’m better and smarter than most people. I know I’m not perfect, but I feel like I could be if I really applied myself, and that I’m unique in that way. Even when I admit my flaws it’s usually false-modesty to fish for sympathy. This comment I’m writing right now is an example. I also lie a lot, usually lies of omission or keeping secrets: I pretend I don’t know something that I do. I like the feeling that people are underestimating me, and that I’m smarter than they think I am. Makes me feel superior.

[DemocratsRPedos]

Found out, I have both, sociopathic and narcissistic personality traits, I’m aware of it. And it explains a lot about my personality, not a bad person, just calls into question a lot of my behavior. Interesting stuff.

[hobohistorian]

Im not a narcissist. Im just here to be the best source of narcissistic supply I can be ! Shortage of good obedient blind supply out there from what I hear.

[larpinglife]

Im either a narcissist or got gaslighted into believing I'm one

[fie]

This is interesting. By studying their self assessment you could make somewhat of an assessment of them as an external reference in regards to their narcissism. But would this work on covert narcissists?

[billysmith]

I call people out on their bs. If they say something but they really mean somthing different i can tell. Then i start thinking why are they being like that. Then i think their just trying to one up me. I clearly just heard what i heard so what are they trying to accomplish. Then i think how do they think they will accomplish this. Then i get paronoid. What are they about to do and what am i going to do to. Then i get mad at them say what ever i feel like i need to say then cut them out of my life. I feel like everybody thinks like that right. Dont start nothing their want be nothing. Or why is it ok for you to say somthing but not for me. Apparently i have Cluster A PPD and im bipolar.

[AstrologyBae]

I think I have positive and negative traits. Came I stop worrying about being a narc ☹️