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[rebeccaf]

Yes! A thousand times, yes! All of this, yes! If I ever said ANYTHING about ANY of it, the problem was NOT his behavior, but my lack of confidence and excessive sensitivity. The thing is, I entered the relationship with a lot of confidence. I left the relationship a shell of who I was.

I’m getting that confidence back.

[mrgurwitz]

After you get discarded there's only two options, become a member of their harem or walk away and never look back.

[ronaldlaboy]

You're Right. My Narc Ex Girlfriend actually had the nerve to tell me to my face that there's a lot of men wishing they could replace me in her life. I looked her dead in her eyes and told her CHOOSE ONE OF THEM and moved out and left her high n dry 24 hours later.

[SanNik]

Yes! They'll treat you like an option and a pain in the butt until you're not interested anymore. Suddenly you're everything they could hope for again. They're exhausting. 🙄

[ravenwhimsy]

This is exactly how my ex was!!! Everyone else was so shiny to him and he treated me like I was dull.

[ankomahose]

You're always left feeling like you are not good enough. The narcissist always has someone else they're being inappropriate with and it leaves you constantly feeling anxious.

[beausexon]

This triangulation was the hallmark of my relationship. Continuous attempts to make me jealous, then gaslight in to telling me I was jealous.

[John-eedh]

After a relationship with a narcissist never be friends with them

[sage]

This is an all too familiar experience - my nex introduced insecurities in me that were never there because of their constant comparison and inappropriate attention to people that shouldn’t matter.

[KoolT]

There's always someone ELSE. THEY PLAY THEIR OWN CHILDREN back and forth.

[ShadowKing]

They always have supplies on the side. Not worth being in a competition for an unloving, toxic individual

[josephrego]

Narcissists are people who want their cake and to eat it too. They must be surrounded by adoring fans and lovers who are needed to prop up their fragile egos. Neither you nor anyone else will ever be enough for them. For they are abysmally lacking in self-worth. They are insecure, needy, crippled beings with neither love for themselves nor anyone else. We have little choice but to forgive them, work on healing ourselves and making ourselves whole.

[Captjensmith]

I watch your videos every single day to educate myself and to keep on reminding myself that it’s not worth it to go back. Thank you!

[gameofjack]

its insane how they have to have this chaos, in almost all their relationships.

[salomeclaire]

This was the worst part of the "relationship" for me, the constant triangulation and throwing me off balance. It started from day 1 really. Constantly showing me pictures of other women "look, this is who I'm going to start to work for" or "look, this is my female co-worker", or "look, this is the girl I met the other day, she messaged me at 3 in the morning", and then towards the end he'd constantly talk about his female co-worker, referring to her as his best friend, whom he would go out clubbing with (he never went out clubbing with me). And when I found a picture on her social media taken at his house and confronted him, he said "well, yes, she did sleep in the bed with me, we've done that quite a few times, but nothing ever happened". That was the end for me. OVER and OUT! 3 months NO CONTACT. No more mind fu**ery.

[charmee]

Every time we went to a social gathering he would let me know someone had come on to him. Once he told me the hostess slipped him the tongue on the greet kiss at the door. Flirted with every waitress we ever had. I never took the bait in 5 years and got jealous at all, that infuriated him. So proud of myself.I believe they are, he always talked about other woman, constantly. I don't think its ever two people, your replacement is picked the minute your relationship starts, he is looking over your shoulder at the next one.

[sunlitmist]

“There is always someone else for a narcissist “ can’t agree you more!!

[l.t.]

He says he is just being nice and friendly when he is always touching other women's shoulders. He really turns on the charm and laughs in such a delightful manner.

[kathytruitt]

Yeah, it’s like being in a relationship with Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde you never know which one you’re gonna get

[robineddy]

This is spot on, shame it took me 25 years to understand why I was so miserable... If anyone says they are staying for the sake of the children I'll tell them to stop sleepwalking into more misery.