The MANY ways people get BLAMED in narcissistic relationships

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[NarcSurvivor]

Narcissists will blame you for EVERYTHING and take accountability for NOTHING. Everything will always be YOUR FAULT.

[pinkmeadows]

When I would stand in my reality or stand up for myself I would be called crazy, drama queen or told I was exaggerating, liar, etc. It all made me sick to my stomach.😢 I slowly started distancing myself and became more clear headed and worked on my mind, health, and overall sanity.

[joannapowell]

“How/why would you leave that beautiful house?” Yes it was beautiful, and I was unhappy every. single. day.

[kirstenagarward]

The irony is that it’s the light, the good qualities in the victim, which attracts the narcissist

[nooname]

Blame the victim but not the narcissist, that's the kind of mind twisted society we may all had experienced.

[DDB]

You just described my life for the last 40 years always wondering what the Hell. Doing the right thing but being blamed for everything, always wrong, devalued, undermine, lied about, lied to, it just never ends. Constant blow ups, no back up, no support, no loyalty and it's always my fault.

[lisabernardo]

The worst is when they ask you why you stayed so long. 😢

[Naomi-vstl]

One friend told me maybe I was projecting; I stopped talking to her about this stuff. My therapist told me I was overly critical and had to be treated a certain way. I stopped therapy. I no longer try to talk to anyone about this stuff except a couple of friends who've been through it, too.

[lisas]

“What have you got to be depressed about?” “If I ever had a problem I would talk to [your husband]. He’s so kind and compassionate.”

[LindaHenderson-lp]

My pastor and his wife asked me to meet with them about the breakdown of the marriage. They told me it was all in confidence. They told my soon to be ex everything I said. I had to pack an emergency bag and hide out because of the possible wrath. My heart was broken. A betrayal like that is horrible.

[FiiireLight]

Newsflash! There are actually people who have not done a thing to anyone, who are being tormented!!!

[denises]

Divorced this year after a 30 year marriage to a covert narcissist person. I’ve heard “you two were the perfect couple, what happened?”
I can’t even explain it in a way they would understand. 😢

[polarjeez]

The last time I spoke to my grandmother about my mother I told her "I can't keep accommodating my mother and putting her before myself." she laughed and said "Why not?" In that moment I knew I didn't want anything to do with either of them and there was no use trying or explaining anymore.

[IanM-idor]

DON'T tolerate the enablers. Get them out of your life - they are every bit as bad as the narcissist themselves

[joycecathey]

My husband recently asked to share locations. I had no problem with it. A week later he accused me of being jealous. When I said “well, you’re the one who wanted to share locations”, he said “my memory is that you are the one who asked to share locations”!!!
He will continue to deny that asked first! It suits his narrative. It’s so crazy to be treated like that! 😅

[par]

Enablers are much worse than narcissists themselves.

[brwinter]

Pathologizing and blaming the confused target of a narcissist can result in suicide.

[DelorisWarren-jkqw]

"You just need to be the bigger person--just deal with it". This was said to me one too many times...ugh.

[asunnywebb]

"Empathy is the one gift that fits every time."

Perfect.

[jeannie]

The most disturbing comment I got from someone I decided to tell about to leave the dysfunctional marriage: “I can’t believe your are deserting him after all these years”. I was in shock and could barely talk.