What is 'manipulation'? (Glossary of Narcissistic Relationships)

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[HeatherDMorris]

I noticed when I am being manipulated my anxiety gets so high I feel like vomiting. You body let's you know something is not right!

[ddseir]

And, of course, if you try to discuss this, you ‘ll be immediately gaslighted into thinking that in fact YOU are the manipulator. So another guilt trip.

[nelumbonucifera]

This explains why at the beginning of the relationship, they ask a lot of questions about us and they seem so attentive and caring. We misinterpret this as love/affection, when in actual fact they are collecting data for future use. Even during the devaluing stage, they dangle the carrot of hope using flattery to earn favours they don’t deserve and we cave in because we are craving for their withheld approval and affection and they know it. They are fully aware of all our weaknesses and strengths and they manipulate those accordingly for their personal benefit.

[leonellie]

they don't really ask for the ride. they talk around it until you offer. That way they "never asked for anything"

[ramaoanastacio]

You can never save a narcissist. But they can always drag you into their darkness.

[katarinatibai]

Narcissists dont have children.
They have long time hostages.

[mattsharkey]

Thank god for the word NO. Say No and you'll learn who the manipulators are quickly

[MrZapaaaa]

when you catch them in a lie or doing something they shouldn't be doing you can see the gaslighting and the manipulation start

[natwills]

Best strategy I found is playing dumb. Not reading between the lines for them. Forcing them to be explicit about what they are asking of you makes them back away in confusion .

[sophiasebring]

When they never take blame or apologize it manipulates ourselves to downplay what they did, or even worse causes us to blame ourselves for their mistakes.

[Jujubabas]

It just sucks that you can't talk to them :( there's no way to compromise or talk in a safe environment because they're always attacking you.

[steviecrow]

If it feels like they don’t respect you, they don’t. If you’re wondering if they are taking advantage of you, they are. Recognize your confusion and uncertainty... that’s how they keep you hooked.

[parislove]

Manipulated once,
Manipulated NEVER AGAIN
when you know better, you DO better!
Stay Strong!

[Hawelufamily]

A narc is always manipulating. From beginning to end in a relationship. It’s how they groom you for supply. They just don’t know anything else. Boundaries are indeed the only way to not be manipulated.

[brigettez]

My jaw has been on the floor for four days now while watching Doctor Ramani's videos. I am just now realizing I've been emotionally abused for 10+ by a narcissist. An "acquaintance." Someone I considered a close friend. Nearly everything Doctor Ramani explains about a narcissist and their behavior has been done to me. And he is breadcrumbing right now since I have been absent for the last four days. I have not told him I know that he is a narcissist. I'm numb. I'm educating myself. Working up the strength to cut him out of my life. I'm definitely recognizing I've been trauma bonded to him for years.

[jamieconway]

My ex literally said “I’m going to do whatever I want to do regardless of you” to my face. I didn’t realize in that moment that was the REAL HIM. He only cared about himself and that was the reality of the situation.

[noelahg]

Narcissists prey on the lonely. That's their primary target. Your loneliness is like a juicy red steak to them. And it's why you will stick around them even when they've shown you their monster face.

[julesfitminute]

My mother said to me once, “it’s too bad that you don’t know how to manipulate me.” I’m glad I never learned that. And I’m glad I got away.

[AngelKrystalStar]

Yes. We were raised to provide supply. If I disagreed with anything they wouldn't even believe it! Or I would get threatened out of thinking anything that differs from their ideas.

[TheViewfromMars]

My ex would always insist that I quit my job and stay home to work on my novel - I took it as him being extremely generous and encouraging because I did want to publish a book. But he never showed much interest in my writing at all. He never cared how far my book was coming, what my process was, etc. I realized later that he just wanted me home because me being at work was a threat to him - he couldn't control who I was with, who I talked to, etc. when I was at the office. And that's a nightmare for a narc. Luckily I didn't quit my job and cultivated supportive friendships there.