How evil enters and spreads in narcissistic relationships

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[Flyingrabbit]

I firmly believe that narcissists, like my late mother, have a literal energy field around them that is disturbing. Even if she wasn't doing anything disruptive I found it hard to think clearly when I was within 6 feet of her.

[danieb]

🙏🏻 praying for all of us who have had everything stolen from us under the guise of love.
That is the true evil

[NarcSurvivor]

Evil will always spread through those who have a lack of empathy.

[janetquinn]

It is a spiritual war. Stay in the light and reject the darkness of narckness

[StillAwakeAwareDiscerning]

"Lather, Rinse, Repeat". That is exactly how it is until you choose to get out of the narcissistic shower.

[lindahilliker]

I’m actively grieving all of the losses I’ve experienced due to narcissistic relationships. 😢

[Jelbel]

This is the best description of a narcissistic relationship that I've ever heard. The evil takes root before you even realize.

[QuinnPrice]

While in a narcissistic relationship, I considered taking my life. Once I left, the onslaught of flying monkey attacks, coupled with her legal aggressiveness, didn't leave much of me left, physically, emotionally, financially, and spiritually. It takes years to recover from high-control relationships.

[GT]

Remember, you ARE stronger than they are.

[benwilliams]

Learned a new word today. Dysflexion. Also saw for the first time just how damaged and enslaved narcissists and their cohort of enablers are. They're like the walking dead. Like zombies bound in chains, desperately and uncontrollably trying to infect the living and drag them into their funnel of death. You could no more expect a narcissist to do good than you could a corpse, especially a reanimated one. What a profound insight. I choose life. Sweet, sweet freedom.

[rubycute]

The narc in my home asked me: What would you do if I left? (I wasn't sufficiently cooperative when I found out he was cheating on a marriage). Says I, without skipping a beat, " Hire a lawn service. Yep. That should cover it." He was speechless.

[carolynjaynes]

My puppy played with a moth. To him it was just a curious play thing. But the moth was being destroyed and finally left for dead as the dog moved on to the next fascination. Reminded me of how narcissists treat people. Thank you, Dr. Ramani for sharing your wisdom. I’m doing well with no contact and feel safe again.

[l.]

When I moved out at age 27, my mother called me selfish. I knew my worth, which caused my mother to further hate me, but in the workplace I encountered narcissistic bosses that reinforced my mothers abuse and I came very close to physical and mental collapse. Everyone needs a supportive person in their life, no matter how 'strong' they might see themselves. Those supportive people are now very scarce (and I'm NOT referring to enablers!)

[Aanframe]

Sometimes, we even say to ouselves: "What could have I been, said, done in order to avoid all that mess?". The work of acceptance implies acceptance of ourselves while living the situations with those people, and afterwards. Not knowing what was going on, not knowing what to do, reacting to the abuse don't define us, our value. It reveals our humanity, and how we were at different stages of our lifes, our evolution. That's very important to accept that in order to heal.

[costelloandlizzievolk]

Yep this is me with my life, wondering what the heck happened as my life is so blown up in many ways. Super aware of everything now, being discerning, going deep, keeping boundaries, doing self care and figuring out what to do next. Thank you 😊

[GrandmaEllen]

I saw my adoptive father in the M. Scott Peck book, People of the Lie. In this book, he talked about evil being on a continuum and that the degree of evil directly corresponded with the person's ability to name and acknowledge truth in/ truth of their life. This motivated me to seek and commit to counseling and begin the healing journey, post divorce period, which had also been a narcissistic relationship with a pathological liar.

[istateyourname]

I was in a 2 decade marriage to a malignant Narc when we moved out of state. It was a brand new neighborhood, everyone was on their best behavior and figuring out their clusters (cliques), which I hate! I am an empath, and throughout the years encountered many women who I now know were toxic. At the time, I just knew I felt cringy around them. Partly, because I was already spreading myself too thin within my own marriage to a Narc. Exhaustion is accurate!!! These women operated @ differing levels of Narcissism~but, all were about THEIR needs. When I would express my own, or even expect to be listened to...I would get bupkis! Slowly, I backed away from every one and of course they balked and wondered what my problem was. :/ I see that through my easy going nature, willingness to pitch in on things~that I was a Narc magnet. Never again.

[tcm]

Dr. Ramani, This proverb certainly stands true and I can’t think of a better place where than in a narcissistic relationship. I have lived it, as everyone else here has. Thank you for your wisdom, hard work, and generosity! 💖

[c-p]

I'm JUST NOW beginning to understand why my life has been lived in complete survival mode, not trusting people, and being afraid of so many things - especially love. OMG, I pray I can overcome this as I realize the devastating effects of growing up in a narcissistic family - not of my choosing; I was adopted into that horrible family that I no longer associate with. But WOW, the damage!

[predictivemaintenance]

Dr. Ramani, you truly understand narcissistic people. You described them accurately and even your selection of words were on point. Thanks for being the voice for the victims of narcissistic abuse. Victims are suppressed, robbed of their own identity and continuously struggling with finding the person who they truly are.