CPTSD Makes Us Feel DIFFERENT... ARE WE?

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[stoneesoteric]

I can't even... my whole life I have been the odd guy out- never knowing why. I cannot believe how much this hits home. Thank you.

[KittyPepperPhd]

I was always just waiting for the mother ship to come and take me back to my home planet.

[GeorgianaOnline]

I have felt for a long time that relating to other people is like playing a game where everyone instinctively knows the rules but me.

[ChrisTian-rmzm]

The worst thing about dealing with CPTSD is that you get stigmatizied by other people for being the odd one out.

[earthlover]

I have said for years...YEARS that I've felt like an alien...that I didn't belong to this planet. Before I knew I had CPTSD I always rationalized it as I'm too sensitive for this tough world.

[intorpere]

Children aren't supposed to be depressed. They're resistant to it to some degree, but trauma can do it. Childhood depression changes the way their brains develop. A lot. We end up being different.

[jylmama]

I want you to know that the name you chose for this (Crappy Childhood Fairy) is the main reason I clicked. I love it. It is EXACTLY what I have been looking for, but didn't know how to find. After 15 years of back to back long-term relationships, I found myself pregnant, and suddenly all of the nonsense that I had put up with from men, the hurt, abuse, stealing, using, dehumanizing, etc., I no longer wanted to be in a relationship with someone who would intentionally make my life more difficult. It's like my fetus was a bouncer at a shmancy club kicking out all the riff raff. I spent the next 17 years celibate. I didn't want to bring the kind of men I seem to attract into my daughter's life. She turned 18 last month. It's been 4 years since she told me I needed to find friends and think about dating because she's going to be spending more and more time with her friends and boyfriends. So, after 2 years of searching high and low, I found the one I want, and for the past 2 years we've been fumbling through our fears and our trauma without professional help, and lately, it's been a super bumpy ride, we've nearly ended several times, but I BELIEVE we can work through our emotional dumpsters, and we will require the help of a magical crappy childhood fairy. I've hit SUBSCRIBE, and I've told my guy about it. I will be going over every video you post with a notepad, and he and I will use whatever advice, exercises, assignments, ideas, and we will (hopefully) figure ourselves out, and have a HEALTHY, LONG LASTING, HAPPY, NURTURING relationship. THANK YOU FOR YOUR WORK!

[stellabandante]

So true. I felt that I was hyper vigilant, watching other people to learn how to act. And it was indeed acting. What face, what laugh, what clothes, what jokes were acceptable? It was so scary and humiliating. The anxiety of this was constant. So glad to have learned this late in life to accept the good, the bad, the everything that is part of me.

[medialibrary]

I think we were traumatised with ridicule and criticism. That along with no "sit down and talk/discuss" and parental unavailability, make us like that. Our insides are so sore, that we become too sensitive to potential disapproval from just about anybody. And normal people notice that and treat us differently. Creates a cycle. WE WERE NOT TOLD WHO WE WERE BY OUR PRIMARY CAREGIVERS. Instead we were told that something is wrong with us. You may not know this, but a big part of our self image and ego forms from what our parents reflect to us. We know we are inherently precious when they non verbally tell us that. And vice versa.

[stilljustlily]

I tripped across this channel yesterday and I am to my core shook. I have never found something where, every single word resonates with me down to my bones. I always thought I was just bad and broken and different because of that. I never called it abuse until recently. Thank you for speaking and for making people know they aren't alone.

[elizabethscott]

The programming I received in my family WAS that I was different to them and everyone else, and that my difference also made me unapproachable, unlovable, and not able to be understood. They would laughingly tell people " she's not really from around here but we don't know which planet she's from"

[GenerallySmiling]

If I read through these comments here, I see myself in most every single one of them! We ALL understand each other! All these words from stangers that speak MY truth. As if *I* was saying it. I never knew there were so many of us!! I thought I was the only one. THANK GOD for Anna!!

[tinagrace]

Thank you so much! Im 48 and very self actualized, & versed in the psychology of self therapy... But, no one ever told me what you just did, I always felt like everyone else had an upper hand socially, like I was on the outside looking in... With no explanation or validation, often getting blamed for something I was or wasm't doing
Basically, everything, Everything you just said!
Also, you have a very compassionate, yet fiercely protective maternal vibe, which I feel is healing, in itself, to those of us with shitty mothers! Thank you, from the bottom of my heart💝

[Redridininyohood]

Severe childhood trauma is linked to autoimmune diseases. In turn causing Hashimotos or other debilitating issues doctors dont properly test for. This video is spot on with childhood learning and proper brain developement. Its amazing how childhood shapes us.

[amusicated]

I'd like to thank you for this video. I'm sitting here, crying my heart out, because I feel validated. I feel validated for all the years of bullying and harassment I experienced. It was incredibly difficult making friends, and especially maintaining them and it has taken me a lot of self-reflection to be able to recognize my pain as being valid and attributing it to my childhood experience.

[Laine]

I used to try to fit in. As I’ve aged I have grown to embrace it. I’ve taught my kids to accept this as well. You are different, own it! Be proud.

[itzelruiz]

I always felt like I was too “serious” because people would make jokes and I’d take them literal or in casual conversations I never know what to talk about unless there’s already a topic to discuss.

[alyssakbutler]

You literally spoke the thoughts from my mind when you said, "The people around us all seem to know something; how to act, what to say, how to be connected with each other, and that somehow we never got the memo." I never knew how to explain that feeling or if I was just crazy for feeling that way. You're videos are so helpful. Thank you for doing what you do!

[BerylWalubengoAnyitiNanyama]

Damn! It's true its like we never got the memo. 😆

[AdaraJashel]

I just explained this to my mom. I’m awful at reading people. I was at a social event and we were asked our greatest fear. I was asked to go first and a billion things came to mind but i said “being sold into sex trafficking” and everyone was awkward staring then the next person was like spiders and the next was heights and they were back to giggling and relating and i was so confused. Like, you said GREATEST fear was I supposed to choose something insignificant to me. I definitely feel like the odd one out.