CPTSD: Can Other People Sense It?

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People with CPTSD from childhood trauma often suspect everyone can tell they have problems. What causes that? Is it even true? In this video I talk about the non-verbal cues we send out that can tip people off that we're wounded inside.
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[clairemagnifico]

Yes, it's one thing to have been through emotional abuse and neglect as a child in the first place, only to discover, decades later, that you've been wearing a sign around your neck the whole time that says "Abuse me again".

[septimus]

It is a bully magnet. They can smell you.

[danielc]

People do sense it, and they'll judge you because of it as well.

[pearljamin]

My dog was. I believe our beginnings were very similar. She’s the first dog I’ve ever had, and the rescue was going to put her down. She’s a mutt with no therapy training. Often she realizes when I’m triggered before I do. She will literally stop me and get my focus on her, then she loves me and helps me through it. She will even essentially hug and hold me and stare into my eyes. Someday I will have as much compassion for myself as she does for me and I will be at peace 💚

[yourpetyourway]

The best way to start this kind of journey is to begin by not apologizing all of the time. Replace "I'm sorry" with "Excuse me" ... unless of course you actually do need to apologize. Controlling my verbal go-to responses really helped me begin self-control.

[flipful]

I thought people were seeing through me or I had a sign over my head that said ‘kick me again!’

[beckiskiss]

I had someone say to me once. "Someone really messed you up" woke me up.

[billbirkett]

This is just a reminder of how fucked up I really am. It feels like such an insurmountable mountain climb to change these patterns. I've always described it as avoidant personality disorder. I am completely terrified of 92% of people, it is so hard to function normally, some days it just feels impossible.

[PoliticalDysphoria]

It's taken me years to realize I was attracting all that trouble myself with my own victim mentality and lack of self worth. Just realizing this is key. Then, the act of observing oneself, one's patterns, one's thoughts, and while in the throes of a trigger, we can make a choice right in that moment...and there's the change. Moment by moment.

[caligrl]

Your channel name is hilarious 😂.. a little comic relief for the heavy topic.

[zzulm]

Even at churches or hospitals. People are judgemental and probably it is poor emocional intelligence. I try to stay present with people that I feel are hurt.

[Paarthurnaxdova]

My mother got enjoyment out of breaking my spirit and watching me scream with her daily beatings until I was 14 and started fighting back. Battled serious internal rage my whole life. I wonder what type of person I was actually born as and not this broken woman I see in the mirror

[JayMakepeaceAllan]

Absolutely people can sense it and it doesn't just mean in adulthood. And in childhood, not only does it not push people away, it attracts bullies who sense the weakness that you're home life is creating. In both childhood and adulthood, the cptsd within us says to others "this is a weak person who is willing to be your punching bag."

[juli]

I've always felt that I could pick up on someone with abuse in their past, and that predators can pick up on it too.

[christineconklin]

You were able to articulate deep feelings I’ve had for years but never had these words. I fear I am one of the” permanently damaged”. At 57 it’s been worse than ever. All the therapy, self help books and groups, medication, success, retreats, spiritual quests, education, actually becoming a counselor... and still, I get so dark at times. Thank you for this video. It was validating and contained useful suggestions for anyone who wants it. And I do, so thank you.

[excalibirb]

I've been condescended for being boring and naive. No one taught me anything about life and how to deal with people. And now I'm struggling in college. Help

[petuniab.]

Can you do something about feeling worthless? I had a very violent drunk stepfather yell this into my face many times. Now I'm 53 and so convinced that I'm actually worthless.

[izzyuchiha]

My friend is pretty observant in detecting people who have trauma.

She deduced that I have trauma when she noticed that I would smile/laugh most of the time- I would smile when there was nothing to smile about.

She also saw that our roommate had trauma because our roommate would say “Awww” a lot- even at things that didn’t really warrant that reaction.

She picked up other small details as well. I’m always impressed by how observant she is.

[jaybailey]

i have cptsd amongst other things and im so open and transparent. people see into me and through me. they see my inner wounds scars and weaknesses.
i attract the same reoccuring situations with older women trying to bring me down. i wish it would stop.
people hurt and trigger me so easily .
im fed up of the power struggles and ego battles people do with me all the time.
i just end up isolating and avoiding all people allltogether because i cant cope with them all anymore. its too much and overwhelming.
most people are not nice.

[MakerTom]

"Hurt people hurt people." I think we may give off some kind of pheromones that people pick up, detecting pain. Thank you!