Do People TRIGGER You? CPTSD and Why We ISOLATE

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People who grew up with trauma in childhood often have a strong tendency to ISOLATE. One major reason is that interactions with people are TRIGGERING. Here are some of the common reasons people trigger us, with tips on how to CALM triggers and build more CONNECTION and social freedom.
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[sarag]

You're putting words to everything I've been dealing with my entire life. I've only really been conscious of this for the past couple of years. I cannot begin to thank you for creating these videos for people like me. I think I commented on another video about how I seem really normal on the outside but in actuality I am everything that you were describing in this video particularly.

[keepmoving]

It’s easier to be alone than to be betrayed by humans over and over again.

[silentrain]

People with cptsd have a hard time dealing with fake people, gossip and bullies.

[racheln]

I’ve often said that I care more for animals than I do most people. Pets don’t insult you, gossip about you or judge you.

[j.a.]

I’m 60 years old and I’m done. I’ll take my animals any day over humans.

[sandragnnll]

I feel safe when I’m alone. Always have. I don’t have to ‘put on’ a smile/happy face, have shallow conversations, and I don’t get judged or feel like I’m boring someone with my company. Overly friendly people make me suspicious about their intentions.

[reyad]

When we were banished to lockdown because of the horrid Covid, I was ready for the peace and quiet. I felt calm and so relieved I didn't have to deal with people at work. I felt smug about it. Being home alone, away from everyone was a dream come true. I kept my joy to myself because that news would trigger some against me. We'll be back to 'normal' at some point and I'll have to build up resistance again, against the ones who trigger me. Wishing everyone a calm end to 2020.

[Xwaterwicca]

I don’t want to isolate myself but it’s my only way to not get hurt

[bcazz]

Parents actually teach their kids social skills? Who knew??

[yourenough]

I've literally isolated since 2001
No friends nobody. The weird thing is I'm ok with it.

[Apricot]

Sartre knew, "Hell is other people"

[acertree]

This isolation thing is HUGE for me. I literally feel like I have no one in my corner. I don't really have friends and I literally feel pain from this.
If I do start to trust someone they turn out to be narcasists or flakey. Feels like I've been alone all my life and I really don't know how to change this.

[infinityreaper]

isolation helps a lot. i naturally seek out ways to live life in isolation.

[Krypton]

If you have CPTSD, one of the best things you can do for yourself is maybe try martial arts. It gave me a sense of security and safety from other people, allowed me to build some confidence, and releases emotions. I promise that it'll have an impact on how you approach certain types of threatening or triggering people.

[brunoboaz]

I used to have a tee shirt that said "The more time I spend with people, the more I appreciate my dog." I wore that shirt so much that I wore it out in less than a year.

[dRumpfsadouchebag]

It's a curse.. and most people make fun of or have a good time when we get triggered..
54 years and still..
Total lack of relationships due to serious trust issues..

[imtheeternalscholar]

I’ve isolated myself my entire life. I’m 51. I still can’t do it. I shop rarely, and if I do, it’s in and out!

[annetteslife]

As a person who is a survivor of bullying people do trigger me

[karenpeterman]

At 63 I can't take it anymore. Just me my dogs and cats. Years of therapy and not much has changed.

[CatEyedGoddess]

I’ve been isolated since I was a kid. I’m the only kid of a Narc mother. My mother hated being a parent, so she would live her life while I was home alone. When she was home and abusive I naturally avoided her by staying in my room all day sometimes. My room was my solace. I hardly was able to play with other kids, I could never have sleepovers or go on them, play sports, go to camp etc. I always had to be home alone in my room. My mother wanted to pretend like I didn’t exist. Once in high school and forced to be around ppl and socialize. I felt very anxious, self conscious and didn’t know I was an actual person. Every time I would go out, I just wanted to be home. Truth is I never really learned how to just been, to socialize, have my own sense of self, isolation is a way to cope and soothe myself. It’s apart of who I am now. Like I said, been doing it since I was a kid.