CPTSD & PROCRASTINATION: How to Heal Feelings of PARALYSIS (Resilience Series #3)

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[ASMRCHARLIE]

Omg now I understand why I never did anything and even cleaning the kitchen was too much for me 😱 (nobody understands why, they think I'm lazy or mental not okay) thanks for this!!! Now I know what to do. I have cptsd and I gonna do action now!
It is time to live the life I finally deserve and want! I promised myself when I was 6, I gonna be happy and I will be!!!

[NewWorldAstro]

Don’t mistake paralysis for self-care. Great message. Thank you.

[kemaberry]

Wow, she said my thoughts, "people without CPTSD don't know how hard we work at just being normal." I've often felt as though I work harder than most just functioning. It's a relief to hear it's not a mental illness, but sad too

[southerndigest]

I’ve been excusing my paralysis for so many years. I couldn’t understand why everything felt so monumental for me when I could see others around me doing things like it was no big deal. The less I do, the more ashamed I feel; the more ashamed I feel, the harder it is to do things. Thank you, Anna, for telling the truth without condemnation. Watching videos like this one encourages me to keep trying and not be ashamed of small beginnings and slow progress.

[kikilynn]

"Your strength is taking action." So true! When there's something I want to do, but I feel too scared to do it, I pretend I have a loving, wise mother who wraps her arms around me and encourages me. She tells me that I am safe, I am good, I can do anything one small step at a time. It really helps. Let's face it, the reason most of us procrastinate is b/c we have a voice in our head telling us that we're bad, we're f-ups, we can't do anything right. Confession: my loving, pretend wise mother looks a lot like Anna Runkle. Thank you, Anna, for all your videos. You have helped me tremendously.

[erasetheyears]

I have recently come to realize that not taking the actions towards things that will ultimately make me happier, for example exercise, is actually a form of self neglect. Knowing this makes me feel more motivated to take care of that part of me that was neglected all those years. Hope it helps someone else out there too. All the best on your healing journey!

[SaharaAP]

I needed this cause I couldn’t do a simple thing like returning an item to the store. I saw this video and returned and I feel accomplished even though it’s the simplest thing.

[claired]

It's ironic that when we shrink our world to a safe, predictable, small size in order to protect ourselves from overwhelm, our tolerance for stress shrinks with it - the opposite of what we are hoping for. I have to remind myself of this and keep trying things that are even just a tiny bit outside my comfort zone. I have to remember that the growth zone is right outside the comfort zone, but before the overwhelm zone- a tricky place to find sometimes!

[hopefulspectator]

I want to acknowledge that I hear your message - about not identifying with the procrastination as self care and about taking action within your capacity. I understand more clearly because of you that my power lines in my ability to take action.

I also want to acknowledge how deeply scary this is for me. To move through discomfort. To risk being seen - for better or worse. To feel present with the discomfort and pain and not to nurse it with inaction. To accept humility and to be honest with myself and the world with where I am.

I wish I had more support around my CPTSD recovery within my life.

[travelbug]

l have been thinking about this a lot recently. It's a major issue and l feel sick to my stomach before starting most projects. Wasting time and then feeling more stressed. Great to talk about it.

[tyana_allday]

Currently procrastinating while watching this video 😢 The positive is this was my first video and I’m now redirecting my energy back to soap making in order to growing my business! This was extremely beneficial. Thank you!

[joshuataylor]

Wonderful. I could never explain this crippling paralysis but knew it was not normal. Makes perfect sense with the CPTSD.

[StewartCoad]

What works for me is to think, "What is the smallest thing I can do towards whatever it is that I want to achieve" For example if I have planned on a previous day to go out for a walk for exercise, but don't want to do it on the day, I think, what is the smallest thing I could do and it might be to get out of bed, so I do that. Then what is the next smallest next thing I could decide to do and it might be have a shower, I keep making these small decisions and before I know it, getting it done takes over and I suddenly find myself half way through my walk. I sometimes think to myself "How did I gat here" and before I know it I've finished my 4 mile walk and I'm back home. Give it a go, it might work for you.

[extrasmalldoll]

I literally thought I was the only one "unable" to do something or anything. Wow, thank you for this video!

[Feirin]

You really are a fairy godmother, Anna. You seem to say the things I need to hear just when I really need to hear them. Thank you for having taken action despite how difficult it is.

[mandyg]

Thank you. Thank you .THANK YOU!!!! Just what I needed to hear today. After 10 years with a sash window that won't open and a landlord that wants to use non qualified odd job I rang an expert and it won't cost that much to fix!!! Getting sorted with new storage heaters and insulation too. Am getting better but all the phone calls take hours and a lot of energy. But I will keep at it until improvements are made! Thank you for all your hard work making videos! It's really appreciated especially the one on healing CPTSD! So many helpful comments too!

[negakirine]

Growing up I was always being called „lazy“. But what I was actually feeling was this „paralysis“ you‘re talking about. Even as an adult, I struggle to get out of it, and I do it one little step at a time. And, boy, are you right! Binging series on Netflix Does feel so good, hehe.

[BerylWalubengoAnyitiNanyama]

Aren't you amazing. We need you. Don't identify with the trauma.

[mousepudding]

Totally relate to this, Anna. When I was an undergrad and had to write a big paper, suddenly cleaning the bathroom became really urgent, and I hate cleaning the bathroom. Funny thing was, when I would actually submit the paper after weeks of suffering and procrastination, my professors would always tell me what a good writer I was.

[seekonlytruth]

My list for today😁

Make bread
Make lemon cake
Prepare a room for painting
Clean bathroom
Listen to music while working