How to Deal with Toxic, Jealous, Insecure Coworkers

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One of the most common questions I get asked about is how to deal with toxic coworkers who are insecure and love to gossip about you in the workplace. In today’s video, I want to share with you some insights on WHY exactly this may be happening to you and as I always am, I’ll be fully transparent about this and it is likely advice that you haven’t heard anywhere else. If you've been asking "how to deal with toxic coworkers", "how to handle difficult employees", "how to deal with jealous people", then this video is for you!
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[shebakali]

Management usually supports the narcissists and toxic people. Never tell management about what is happening, just smile, sharpen your resume and look for another job.

[mariposamoreno]

insecurity is loud, confidence is quiet

[HiddenWen]

My observation at work is that insecure or toxic workers who have things to say about others tend to group together. This doesn't surprise me at all, as they would not have the confidence to do it alone.

[Lisa-mysy]

You always hear how people leave jobs because of managers, but I think it’s mostly due to horrible coworkers

[selenem]

being silent when a fool tries to mess with you is a golden rule

[divinequeen]

This is happening to my best friend she’s a very smart woman and very attractive and I see how jealous her co workers are and it’s all women most. I don’t understand why women can’t stick together and work together.

[annemariecoen]

That whole "you get what you give" notion is half true. I am nothing but nice to coworkers and they are still nasty, passive aggressive and immature. Yes, it's s reflection on them and not me, but it sure is exhausting I stay in my office for the most part. Do they see that as aloof? Stuck up? Icy? Doesn't matter. They treat me horribly no matter what I do. Go in. Be professional. Do your job. Call it a day.

[BR-wl]

There's always someone who wants to blow out your candle to make theirs shine brighter.

[twixie__]

I am a confident person. I know my weaknesses and strengths. I like to uplift others. I do not waste time on gossiping so I usually get attacked by envious people and gossipers. I became hateful of socializing. I don’t want to hangout with others. I feel like they will be two faced too and they tend to be jealous, i am so exhausted of people who are envious. I get drained,

EDIT: I was born into an upper middle class family and people usually assume when you are born privileged is that you will never experience bullying or hardships. --that is not true. I am an introvert and I just like to do what I think will inspire, motivate me. I have many hobbies. I spend my time honing my skills and what interests me. But I usually attract 2faced people, envious people. I also get noticed easily because I am tall like a model as what others say. The thing is parents should always guide their kids so they can grow up as mature, loving adults not hateful and envious. Many parents are also responsible for the growth mindset of their kids because tbh usually the adults that we know that are envious and hateful are those that were not guided well by their parents. They were not taught that the world is not fair but that doesn't mean they have to be unfair to everyone they meet especially to people who they feel that are ahead of them in life. They should work hard and be patient.

I wish I can conquer my fear of making friends again. For now, all of my friendships are surface level. I am afraid to be close to people because I really had many bad experiences with people pretending to be my friends. :< many people are so insecure that they deflect it on other people. They should do shadow work

[LaurenRuyter-qtgo]

Remember that you DESERVE to be there. Stand up for yourself professionally. But also keep in mind that if it has nothing to do with you, to keep moving.

[mikethemechanic]

I had a job once where I was the only single employee. I worked with a lot of older divorced or bitter people. I was getting promoted fast and purchased my first new car and other things. It caused nothing but jealous coworkers. They were out to get me. If I took a vacation. They would say. Vacation again? Must be nice. My coworkers treated me like I did not deserve it. It eventually got me fired. I was at my job for 7 years. I had an employee of 1 year get me terminated. My company believed him over me. My current job I don’t ever talk about anything I own or have.

[hikmah]

I stay in my own lane and keep it professional. That alone speaks for itself and shuts down that toxic, immature behavior.

[HealingThroughInspiration]

False when your positive they will try you more.

[Lola-cdg]

It appears a high level of toxicity is becoming the norm in the workplace. It's unfortunate because it takes a toll on an employee's well being. It's even more of a shame when this toxic work environment is enabled by management. So many organizations preach about mental health they should practice what they preach, especially when it comes to harassment. True one must take care of their own well being and heal from any past pains, however, there is a point no matter how confident or not the individual is that they have to remove themselves from "emotional vampires."

[eekeey]

I know in my heart of hearts that my coworker is jealous, but that still doesn't stop me feeling hurt by her behavior.

[divinejustice]

I’m glad I don’t have to deal with this anymore because I’m a secret lottery winner.

[anapinky]

Great video, however, the real challenge here is keeping your positivity while surrounded by a lot of negativity. I can tell you from experience that whenever I was the new girl on a job, I would come in with great attitude, willingness to cooperate, contribute to company’s values, etc. And, believe it or not, having a great attitude can also trigger toxic people to a very dangerous level. So dangerous, that in my very first experience as a full time employee, coworkers did not stop the gossiping with our boss until they were the heroes of the story and I was the villain who did everything wrong. Needless to say I got fired, later on, my former boss was too proud to call me herself so she sent one of the hypocrites to contact me and tell me if I wanted to come back. I did need the job but I politely answered that I think she has an extremely talented team and competent, why would she want me back? She never apologized nor did she ever admit to making a mistake in letting me go. Took me many months to find a new job, but would not go back there even if doubled the salary.

[nicotinedietcoke]

this is tooo prevalent in nursing. it’s awful. come to work with a stitch of makeup on your face or get your lashes done or whatever - girls hate you. you can’t be pretty and smart at the same time.

[sanjanabhatia]

Sorry but I don’t agree with the second part. We all have insecurities but when we act positive and do what’s best for the company, toxic people still attack. I agree it’s not personal though.

[VaultBoi]

I suffer from crippling anxiety and depression as well as a learning disability. I recently got backstabbed by a coworker who was training me under a new job position. Whenever I mess up, she gets pissed. I noticed that when she was training me she was very nice but talked about coworkers behind their backs. Now she hangs out with those same coworkers like their bffs and she talks behind my back, getting unreasonably angry when I mess up (only been doing this job for maybe 2 1/2 weeks like wtf) it made me cry because I kept making mistakes and she kept yelling at me and it really hurt. It's not as easy as you think to keep a positive attitude around toxic people....