WORKPLACE TOXICITY: How to Deal with Toxic Coworkers

Every workplace has them… the negative, jealous, mean-spirited, gossipy or super-competitive people who make your work life incredibly unpleasant in the office. The “toxic" ones, and sometimes it can even feel like they’re working against you behind your back.

In this video I share 6 actionable tactics to (professionally) deal with toxic people at work so you protect your energy and maintain your confidence. 💪

TIMESTAMPS
0:00 - Intro
1:07 - The problem
1:50 - Realise that maybe it could be all in your head
2:39 - Set limits and establish boundaries
3:45 - Rise above the toxicity
4:23 - Manage your emotions
5:31 - Know your worth
6:10 - Be assertive and speak up
6:37 - Closing thought - why you might be targeted
7:10 - You might be attracting toxicity

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[lifeandmorechannel]

Bullying and toxic co workers are not in our head. It happens. There are people who are naturally bad and hate you for no reason at all. It is reality.

[eml]

You're describing a coworker I have perfectly like she just walks around with negativity and is always looking for a target to unload onto

[akashpuri]

There are people who are naturally bad, hateful and jealous for no reason and unfortunately this is very common. And there is no clear solution to this actually

[Autonomous]

I have just retired and I have worked in lots of places.
I will tell you this. Be very careful in the workplace. Toxic people aren't always obvious and the ones trying to befriend you and are trying to get you to talk about the workplace and your private life are usually up to something.
Just do this. Don't trust anyone. Keep your thoughts to yourself. Keep work and your private life apart.
If the actual job is rubbish. keep it to yourself, look for another job, and then leave. Don't give people ammunition to go and tell management what you think of the company.
I retired at 54 which was as soon as I could to get out of working due to all the toxicity I had encountered.

[kimberlybriggs]

This was a great video. My daughter called me crying at work yesterday because a lady who was on leave came back and is upset because my daughter has been praised for her high quality work. My daughter has been given more hours and discussed possible promotions with her boss. The toxic person came to her and challenged her as to why she is getting the things she (the toxic one) had asked for. My daughter just got transferred to that branch from another location so she is still building relationships. My daughter is young 20s and very kind and I know she felt personally attacked and she has nothing to do with the decision. I will forward this video to her. It says everything I told her plus more ways to take control of the situation. Thank you! ❤

[flowerchild]

Toxicity in the workplace is consistent for me. It's not just a one time event, it's every day.

[clementine]

So true. Set clear and healthy boundaries. Also, stick to your principles. Refuse to part take to anything that is toxic, not your part, or you do not really know about.
Stick to good values and principles whatever happens.
Shade is so good at addressing all that in such a truthful and positive way. Let's learn from that great coach. ❤🎉😂

[AG-njky]

The challenging part is that often the entire workplace is toxic and not just one person. Moreover, its enacted by the management which have authority over you. Thus setting boundaries and creating distance is very hard to do. Typically, this leads to becoming passive and submissive which is their exact intention. Yet another challenge is that such workplaces are associated with high workload, unclear roles & responsibilities, lack of support, continuous yet cunning ad subtle gaslighting etc. which will drain you over time both physically and emotionally. Upon reaching this point you are basically burnt down, developed PTSS or other mental issues which pretty much makes it impossible to remain emotionally unreactive in toxic encounters.

[ShalomShock]

Thank You! I had to do this last month. I had a Lead that was bullying, Gaslighting, etc. I had told her that we could speak respectfully to one another, and I had asked if I had done anything to her and apologized just in case. She was also raging and doing a problem dump. I told her that we all have problems and that we can be empowered to find solutions. She got angrier, so I gave her space. She was looking for a fight. I continued to do my job. She kept trying to trigger me. I finally told her that the behavior was toxic and that it would be my last night working there. I saw her smack a resident on the hand a couple of times, I have no proof, BUT she was trying to set me up to lose my job. It was a toxic work environment with high turnover. The red flags were there at day 1. I made sure that all of the work was completed. One of the nurses told me that there were a couple of complaints about her and that I should report them. I did, but did not return and I do not regret leaving, it would have only gotten much worse with time. They can deal with their Lead hire.

[chandnee]

Some co workers are so toxic no matter what you do the result is still zero! But great video, thanks!

[sherpaderpdingo]

I have one that yells and scolds me over the tiniest of mistakes that are easily fixable in minutes. He's been reported many times by various people and they don't do anything about it. He scold people like an abusive dad to kids or something. He's not a manager or anything he's just a worker

[rahulchauhan]

yeah, I had this in mind since many days. Now, from hearing from you, it is confirmed that only I can eliminate toxic environment away from me by working on myself, creating boundaries becoming assertive and rising above it. Thank you so much, a

[linhlecute]

1. It could be on your head.
(Recognizing your power is the best place to start.)
2. Set limits and establish boundaries.
3. Rise above the Toxicity.
4. Manage your Emotions.
5. Know your Worth.
(Be Assertive and Speak Up)

[manjucs]

Excellent message. Toxic people are real hazard and should be away from them.

[GhstGaminginc]

I've posed this question before "how can we make this a more positive environment?" And everyone acted like they had no idea what I was talking about. Then I became the target after that.

[juliusl]

I can’t thank you enough Shadeya. I work as a healthcare worker and deal with many people daily who are stressed out. Your videos have been helpful for me to feel heard and empowered to respond in a classy way. ❤

[synix]

My coworkers on construction always mock me. Yes I’m not really fast at thinking but every time I try to get better at my job they always keep their first impressions. It’s so frustrating.
There are so many narcissistic people in the company

[moving.quotes]

The last part where she mentions that you might be attracting toxicity is very true. If you don't respect yourself, you end up attracting people who would not respect you. If you don't love yourself, you attract people who won't love you.

[sunriselotus]

People who seem to derive satisfaction from undermining and hurting others: sadist.

[jinnrose]

Bullying is sucks. Its happening also in health care industry. They are nurses and health personer bullying other at work.