How To Deal With a Toxic Family

Do you suspect that you might have toxic family members? Whether it's your parents, your siblings, or your cousins, toxic family members can be anyone in close proximity who has an influence over your physical and emotional space. In this video, we discuss strategies to deal with toxic family members so that you can lead a mentally more stable life.

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Writer: Daila Ayala
Script Editor: Denise Ding
Script Manager: Kelly Soong
Animator: Daniela Herrera
YouTube Manager: Cindy Cheong

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[Psychgo]

Many of you in our community section requested "HOW TO" videos. This is one of our first to help you overcome problems you may be dealing with. Even though our aim is not to help you solve the problem, but hopefully, these tips can do some good.

[aimsoemay]

When I grow up, I will run away from my toxic family and make my dreams come true,

[littlesage.]

“family is supposed to be defined by love and support”

that broke me 💔

[honeybun]

I can’t wait to be able to financially support myself omg and leave

[FM-mzim]

Here are my tips that works for me
1_just stay away from them and don't be around them and focus on yourself.I promise you will be happier than ever. surround yourself with people you love and they actually care about you.
2_NEVER EVER share your feelings, failures or goals with them.They're gonna use it against you later, shaming you and making fun of you and telling you that you can't achieve those goals so you'll give up.Remember they don't want you to grow and do better than them.
3_If they constantly criticize everything about you don't listen and don't believe them.I swear 100% of what they say is not true at all.They just say those things to make you feel bad and lower your self esteem and confidence so they'll feel better about themselves.

[ray-shellaus]

My parents are VERY good at gas lighting and guilt tripping. My biological mother especially is a professional at manipulation. To the point I had to cut her from my life for the sake of my mental health. My therapist assured me I made the right choice. That my parents behaviour towards me isn't my fault.

[pierre]

My dad passed away last May. We didn't have the typical father son relationship but I took care of him. I felt bad but losing him didn't hurt me as much as I thought it would. I just lived through the toxicity.

[nadillasakinah]

“D-o-l-l-h-o-u-s-e
I see things that nobody can’t see”

When other people say that your family is nice when behind closed curtains, they show their true colours

[Bumtumnumb]

Having a toxic father has made me toxic myself without realizing.

[GetYourLifeBetter]

We have every right to protect ourselves from those who manipulate and emotionally abuse us. At one point we loved our toxic family members and wanted them in our lives more than anything else. Yet at too many points in time, we sacrificed our happiness to serve theirs, shut our mouths when we desperately wanted to speak up, and did what they wanted because doing that was easier than dealing with their drama. We must understand that our toxic family members have simply walked us to the door we're now choosing to shut.

[bigscrewg]

My best advice is, if the toxicity is bad enough (maybe even illegal), it's better to shed tears from walking away than it is to bear scars from sticking around. And that comes from personal experience

[hectorsumaoang]

the sad thing is i keep arguing and justifying myself in the hopes of them realizing the error of their ways. it sucks because i should know the consequences of my choices given i graduated in psychology and should be able to predict what they'll do. it's funny because i always get gaslit in return. the inner child in me keeps wanting to go to them hoping for change but recently i've been starting to understand and that the better choice is to set my boundaries and leave.

[littlesage.]

i regret ever telling my mother about feeling anxious and depressed. we have been have a toxic relationship for years and it’s lead up to a point where I’ve never felt so fragile and vulnerable. every time there’s a problem, i shake anxiously and cry, not from anger but from the immense stress and energy being sucked away from me. after watching this, i think it will help me. I’ve been too busy trying to defend myself and wasting every bit of energy because of the arguments. I’ve even lost so much energy from trying to defend myself that I’ve had to cancel many of my plans in order to just take a breather. i hope this helps and if anyone else is reading this and is going through a toxic relationship, i wish u the best on your journey. 💟

[mymoodsinmyprofilpicture]

The saddest thing is you can't escape, if you are lucky you can move out early. There is no other seloution. Stay strong

[taqiullahrafeeqs]

My toxic mother couldn't provide me motherly love but your voice has given me the motherly love I was missing

[psychgomandarin]

0:00 intro
0:36 1、make clear boundaries for yourself
2:00 2、distance
3:45 3、don't argue or justify
4:53 4、hold strong to yourself
6:14 5、find support
6:52 ending

[xx_dinnuggies_xx]

My mom is a huge narcissist and a bully and she attacks all of my methods of calming myself. I don't hang around her because even spending an hour with her is enough to break me down. But I try to keep set boundaries, especially about physical contact.

[princekyle]

My dad lost his shit at me over something nobody told me was happening, and my sister actually said, deadpan, to my face, “If yelling at you is what it takes you to do things, maybe we should do it more often.” I can’t believe it’s taken me this long to see how toxic my family is. They are not capable of basic human empathy and they will never change. The best thing I can do is go to my job and make enough money to move out and cut off all contact with them forever.

[jaycleoo]

I have a very toxic mom and a passive dad and I can't wait for the time that I'll move out of this place. I got screamed at by my mom few hours ago at a public place and it was so humiliating. I'm used to it but it still hurts... she wonders why I'm not close to her when she's the problem all along. she keeps on gaslighting me that I'm a bad child when she's the one who has a very foul mouth. Even people say that she has a very bad way of saying things and the hard part: she always thinks she's right, and everyone around her is wrong. I used to fight back but right now, I just keep quiet whenever we argue and sometimes leave her. It's the best way not to escalate fights.

I hope and pray that I get to move out of this depressing family and fulfill the life that I want to live, without them (especially my mom)

[IzzyHaletheFrenchton]

My mother is a gaslighter and I believe a narcissist. She was never encouraging, she always said how I needed to improve even if I won! She still says I never appreciated anything she did for me as a child, and I’m 40yrs old! I’ve chosen to stay away, although I can’t say it’s changed my life dramatically because she is my only immediate family I have left. My brother committed suicide and my father died 5 months later and over a year ago I got a divorce after 18yrs, so needless to say I’m working on a lot. Thanks for the videos.