How to Deal with Toxic Positivity

Toxic positivity happens when someone refuses to acknowledge that it’s okay to not be okay. You may be guilty of this if you are someone who always puts a positive spin on things. Psychiatrist Dr. Ish Major shares the person who is not feeling okay can feel like they are not being heard and that their feelings do not matter.

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[lisabrown]

Thank you!! I’ve been accused of being negative by toxically positive people. I am a realist, not a Pollyanna.

[DLFfitness]

Self delusion is real. People practice it on themselves, and others. There is no need to excuse the behavior, just know that you are dealing with someone who is trying to silence you.

[Lululila]

I think its called redirection when someone is being negative or has an issue we dont know how to address or deal with. It is a child psychology tool. Its good to feel empathy towards others, BUT with boundaries to those people who always have problems all the time and are not looking to fix their problems but looking to create more, then dump on others. Empathy is a double edged sword. We must try and show compassion, but with boundaries.

[NatRicci]

I am chronically ill, everyday, for the last 18 years with Cushings Disease due to pituitary tumors. I wasn’t diagnosed properly until 2021, but got sick in 2003-2004. Hate when people are “you’re so strong! Keep your chin up!” It completely invalidates my day to day lived experience. It’s insensitive and people just do NOT understand what chronically ill means.

[JenSAN]

Anyone who has experienced clinical depression understands this. My stepdad looked at me one day and said, "you can't just think your way out of it?" And I said, "no. If the chemicals are firing in my brain, I'm going to feel it whether it's logical or not." Telling me that it would eventually be ok made no difference. It made me feel like they didn't want to try to understand me or help me. Like I was a nuisance. And when you're in the mindset of depression, that's one of the worst feelings. Because you don't want to drag everyone down with you. Understanding is a lot better than searching for solutions.

[goodmorningsundaymorning]

These are the worst kind of friends to have. They are so beyond weak and scared of reality and live in Disneyland 24/7.

[moosemussolini]

Toxic positivity is taught and learned and publicized on the news Chanel what the people on the news are going to try to tell us how to deal with what they created and still continue to do to this day😂😂😂

[callidus]

Anyone here searched Google or youtube because some tried tell you be positive about something that was was morbid, dark humor or and it kind ticked up off.

[ChildofGod]

Good morning I’m so blessed for waking up this morning even though I was fired from my job for not getting the vaccine. I’m a single mother with two boys. We have no food. I’ve been out of work for over a month. I have no family nor friends. But I KNOW GOD WILL PROVIDE! Thank you Jesus! ❤️❤️

[JDMcHenry]

Everything is wonderful! Everything is awesome!! Jesus Christ!!! Today is going to be a great day!! Heehee haha hoho…