10 Ways to Deal With a Toxic Sibling

Toxic siblings can put a damper on a lot of things. Depending upon the level of toxicity it can be hard to engage with the rest of your family, or even friends that have been there for some time. It can also put stress on you while you try to suppress your feelings for the sake of keeping things civil between the two of you. There is a myriad of reasons why we keep toxic siblings at arms length, but what can we do once we’ve identified the issue?

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Intro: Surey Camacho
Research & Written by: Lyvonne Holden
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[yeeetcooll]

Am I the only one who feels like they don't have a sibling anymore?
edit: ok wow didnt expect to get this many likes thanks guys!

[jasminzamora]

It’s come to the point where home feels like hell with them around. He makes me hate every part of life when at home. I’m so exhausted

[yuna_jeong]

I hate hearing other people saying that I'm lucky to have a sibling because I won't be lonely. I'll rather be lonely that being hurt emotionally and physically by my own brother.

[yzuoqgb]

No one hurts more than a toxic sibling.

[krameel]

who else is watching this after a argument with your sibling

[charlie]

the hardest thing about having a sibling like this is that you can’t get away

[judgmentalsmile]

It’s always annoying when you know you’re right in the argument and they suddenly act sensitive towards it. Like all the things they’ve said to you, weren’t hurtful as well. Whereas I’m trying to defend myself calmly and not call them names, but they can’t except I’m right and continuously yell.
I’m so done.

[PaulaLJones]

Its very difficult. When you speak up to defend yourself, they resort to name-calling and trying to embarrass you in front of others. They also try to project their own insecure/hurtful feelings onto you. It seems like the best option is to distance from them... at least in some cases

[Pure_Star]

Family is all we have?
Nah fam I’m all I have

Edited:
Stay positive guys and strive for no one but your self, appreciate the likes

[iridescentaurora]

My heart goes out to all the people with toxic siblings, stay strong y’all.

[dynamicforce]

Narcissists NEVER CHANGE! They only get worse with age! Life sucks

[leanoura]

My brother is not only toxic but abusive, verbally and physically. I have tried every single one of these methods and nothing works. And the worst part is that my parents know how he treats me, but all they do is tell me "just ignore him" "it's fine he's younger than you" "stop acting like a baby". It's the worst.

[k.g.donathan]

I've done all of these things with my sibling and none of them work. My parenty won't let me cut all contact with them either because, "They're family. Family's all you have in this world."

[cosmic-cookies]

My older brother: Been teasing me, lying to me, saying no one loves you, bugging me nonstop, mocking me, even calling me names
Parents: Do nothing.
Me: Tries to defend myself.
Parents: DONT SAY ANYTHING!1!

[mirjamenny]

For all the teenagers reading this: I was in your situation 30 years ago, living at home with an abusive father and sister, and a codependent mom who wouldn't/couldn't defend me from the abuse. The best thing I ever did for myself was withdraw, minimize how much time I spent with them alone to avoid putting myself in abusive situations (they're much better in larger group situations when possible - this still applies), developed close bonds with my "safe" aunts for emotional support, and moved away as soon as I was accepted to a school that was in a different city 4 hours away.



You can't heal in the same environment that made you sick especially if you are being gaslit into thinking you are the problem by your abusers. Protect yourself, find your tribe, and make plans to get out as soon as you can so you can start healing. It's a lot of work to discover your sense of self when it's been destroyed in childhood, but if you remain mindful and prioritize your well-being, you will heal, you will be happy, you will find love.



Anyone who says that being young is the best time in your life is LYING; it's tough and lonely and uncertain. But surviving and growing old is an accomplishment, so don't give up on your bright future. I'm living proof that life gets better with age as long as you commit to loving yourself.

[michaelbonhomme]

My sister simply became a passive aggressive weirdo.

She goes out of her way to make a public display of trying to ignore me, disrespect me, or disregard what I say.

It’s the weirdest thing because as the eldest brother who towers over her, it’s just weird to bring that weird energy to the room, and stranger that our parents either ignore or adopt a laissez -faire approach to it.

It’s pushed me to contemplate disconnecting from entire family rather than accepting a sibling’s negativity/ the parents weakness in addressing the elephant in the room as leaders, not enablers 🤦🏾‍♂️

[LittleLulubee]

My sibling is an arrogant, angry, violent bully. He abused me throughout my life until I was old enough to move far, far away. I will never speak to him again.

[RoseSlothYT]

EVEN IF I DO ALL THIS, I WILL NEVER BE FREE FROM MY TOXIC SISTER, SHE BROKE MY LEG ONCE AND SPRAINT MY ARM AND IS ABUSIVE, she even GETS FAVOUTITISM!

[strawberrylove]

I was trying to fall asleep but found myself thinking about my sister’s lies and couldn’t fall asleep uncomfortable like that! I then looked up, “how to deal with an older sibling that always lies”. As you may have guessed, I found this video. After watching the video and reading the comments, I feel better now, knowing other people are on my side. :)

[frankenspine]

My brother knows he is hurting me. He just doesn’t give a damn