Relationship Coach Matthew Hussey: 'There is no such thing as right person, wrong time!'

Today, let’s welcome back love and dating coach Matthew Hussey. His approach combines practical advice, motivational coaching, and psychology to help individuals understand what they want from a relationship and how to get it.

Matthew's expertise provides a comprehensive guide on navigating the challenges of modern dating, building meaningful relationships, and cultivating self-awareness.

In this interview, we’ll discuss:
00:00 Intro
01:14 Where Does Your Idea of Love Come From?
07:54 Is Your Relationship Boring?
16:20 What Are Your Relationship Must-Haves?
29:06 Dating Tactics vs. Dating Standards
35:23 What Are "Healthy" Dating Standards?
47:15 You NEED To Have The Difficult Conversations
01:07:39 Is Your Partner the Right One for You?
01:12:25 Dealing with Heartbreak

Episode Resources:

[JayShettyPodcast.]

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[thematthewhussey]

Loved this conversation man, thank you for having me! And thank you to everyone for watching and commenting. I really appreciate the kind words ❤🙏

[Ceejay-yovi]

"We are damaged vessels that somehow still work. And thats beautiful."

WOW

[brimckay]

When you slammed the popular notion that everyone has to heal before they find a relationship…THANK YOU!! I couldn’t agree more because I believe healing is a lifelong journey.
The raw honesty of Matthew’s experiences and struggles in his love life while being a coach on love life is nothing short of admirable and respected. Great episode!!

[InfinityHealthPilates]

As a mom of two adult children. I feel like you should start a dating platform for people who are into self discovery and are working on being emotionally mature in a relationship. Maybe would weed out the people that are not “builders”

[Rambowski]

Jay you saved my life. I can’t thank you enough. I struggled for 20 years to find peace. I started my journey with your words. I now go to church and pray. But listening to you speak helped me get there. Thank you!

[charorencebrown]

This episode is sooo light yet profound. He speaks from experience and you can tell how much he has grown and molded his mindset and approach to relationship! In awe!

[arjungupta]

I'm telling you guys, the one does exist. Never give up. Chances are you will find your person spontaneously. Strive to emulate the qualities you want in a partner!

[justme.]

First, people need to know what matters in a relationship: connection, actual intimacy (feeling safe to be vulnerable and let someone in while knowing you will be heard and not judged), trust, compatibility, willingness to work and grow together, empathy for yourself and the other, reliability, consistent loving behavior, etc.

A lot of people get into relationships looking for someone who looks good with them/to them and to have a source for sex. Some get into relationships to validate that they're wanted. Some are hiring applicants for the job of their partner, meaning they're looking for what employers are with education and accomplishments, which validates their own pursuit of those things.

These are all versions of getting another person so that People might not be aware of their own motives so starting there might be a thing.

My experience has definitely taught me what a relationship isn't. I have had to create standards so I'm clear on what I will not tolerate. I also had to figure out why I kept entertaining similar people.

I'm figuring it out still but I definitely waste less time when I find out this isn't it.

[RaveDaddy]

Break up/heartbreak section was so real. 1:14:15 it is a horrible place to be. Compassion for ourselves is crucial. He’s so right we choose pain, and the pains we didn’t choose can provide real benefits

[OhGodGirl]

Thank you both for this. What struck a necessary chord with me was Matthew's comment on being on a growth journey and rejecting anyone who is perceived as not being on the same journey as yours. Just because their journey doesn't look like mine doesn't mean that they also aren't doing something wonderful and enhancing for themselves that can also benefit me and the world. Needed that.

[shanaimuthoni]

I’m in a breakup phase questioning my existence and i have a newborn baby, alone and drenched in tears, i just take one day at a time . Time is a healer and thank you for this interview. Definitely buying this book 📕

[WhaleyBrian]

The heartbreak portion was great. Found myself yesterday missing my ex that I ended things with 3 years ago. We talked briefly after and I tried to repair but she decided to move on and I’ve blamed myself for a long time. I find it helpful the part about them being here and choosing not to be with me. Also neither of us are who we were 3 years ago so the person I miss doesn’t exist. I haven’t struggled for close to a year, but yesterday couldn’t get her off of my mind and this helped. Thanks for posting!

[lissiamontrealer]

So much growth Matthew!! I started listening to Matthew's content many years ago when I was going through a big heart break and when you mentioned about being at peace in a relationship came later and should have come earlier...ouhh lala!! It got to me now that I am in peaceful relationship and do not want to go back in the drama past. It feels like suddenly getting out the ''Matrix'' and you see everything.

[haleyscomet]

You can’t optimize people. I’ll carry this amazing line with me from this conversation. Love the idea of finding an appropriate builder, too! Thanks so much for this beautiful, inspiring, and spirit-reassuring conversation!! It really helps me to maintain the self-compassion that is vital in life.

[before_ft]

I do love these brilliant perspectives, no right person, no right time, and no right place. Hands need to be held into finding the co-happiness, not seeking a person meeting all your standards.

[Annettely]

Matthew Hussey is really sharing wisdom about life and not just romantic relationships. There are so much you can learn from this video

[Chacin]

Lessons from pain I didn’t choose, wow that really spoke to me. After cancer I wrote a note to myself called Cancer bliss containing all the beautiful and valuable things that it brought to me and I listen to that note daily as my affirmations routine.

[rayanshah-cj]

Watching this podcast and reassuring myself that being single is The most great place to be in, I think now if someone will tell me why I am single, I will be tagging them this episode 😂

[Glen.Murphy]

Great video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her