THIS is What Makes Someone Value You

What makes someone value us is when they realise that being with us is not a given, but something they have to show up to deserve ❤️ Do you agree? Tell me in the comments!

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[BagznBirdz]

Never ever be the only one giving! The right person will pour into your cup the same you do to theirs.

[deecook]

Two weeks into a relationship, we sat down and told each other what we wanted from a relationship, and what we don't want. We have both stuck to that, happily married 37 years.

[al]

When two “givers” meet it is bliss !
But only one person giving unconditionally is not fun !

[OyVeyLala]

It comes down to valuing yourself first and knowing your boundaries and standards

[WNHTCT]

If they don't value you when your are present, they're not going to value you when you're absent.

[nicolebolick]

Married 20 bad years. Changed myself in EVERY way to try and please him. Knew it was over when I told him I had just been diagnosed with a very large tumor and he said "Is that all that's wrong with you?"
I decided right then that I was going to get well, then I was going to get divorced. I sobbed for days after I left.
It was SOOO hard to accept that all that effort I gave him, to try and get him to love me the way I loved him, was wasted-
BEST THING THAT CAME FROM THAT MARRIAGE WAS MY KIDS.

[lkbyrne]

Yeah, that’s exactly the reason I just ended things with my ex. I kept treating him better and expecting some reciprocation at some point, but it didn’t come until I left. I don’t go into relationships thinking, “oh, if I treat him well he’ll treat me the same way”. I treat people the way I want to be treated, but I had enough of never being the priority.

[macm]

We should treat each other like this with ALL of our relationships. The Golden Rule! 🙏

[Hammondchris]

I wished I showed up for myself all these years. Trust me beautiful ladies he will first and foremost take care of himself (as he should) but, please do the same.

[Dragonmoon]

We readily show up for others. But often, forget to show up for ourselves. Assuming reciprocation.

But, unless those people value us, they're not going to step up. They'll just keep taking until we have nothing more to give.

Obviously, being kind shouldn't come with the expectation of getting something in return. But that doesn't mean we allow ourselves to become blind to the disingenuous nature of others.

[Spiritdeamother]

I learned that showing up and accepting that it’s our own choice because we care is not the problem, doing it for validation is, knowing that you do what you choose at that moment and with an open heart shows your true intentions. Learn boundaries so you don’t get taken advantage of and at the same time you protect yourself from feeling like you weren’t enough, we deal with a multitude of personalities on a daily learn to honor your own and respect that others aren’t like you but we all show up as we are, God bless you all 🙏🏽❤️

[theresalawrence]

Mathew gently explaining how not to enable bad behavior.

[ccc-qpel]

I wish somebody told me this as a child. My culture taught me the opposite and so did my religion. It took so much to stop shaming myself for what others did to me from that age.

[CHNL.s]

YOU HAVE TO VALUE YOURSELF. The reason you're so OK with and blind to being mistreated was because you didn't love yourself enough to leave

[janinalicyte]

True, except if person is narcissistic he will expect you to keep giving without him needing to show up in any way for you

[casperinsight]

If you value yourself you won't give yourself away ❣️

[wilsongrantfisk]

Pls more videos with U & Audrey, She's sweet & calm. You guys are great together❤

[jacintaikupu]

YES, you are so Right. Someone has to show up. We can't give all the time, and never been Appreciated for.

[Hammondchris]

It seems its "realized" when its much too late which makes me recognize how much they really never gave a darn

[Geewiz]

They must be present and be involved physically emotionally and financially.