Will Your Long-Distance Relationship Work? Ask These 4 Questions (Matthew Hussey)

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If you find yourself currently in a long-distance relationship – or “situationship” – then I made this video for you, my loyal friend.

In it, I give you the 4 questions you should ask to figure out if it’s all worth it. Because let’s face it, long-distance relationships are HARD. WORK.

They require dedication, commitment, loyalty, and a real vision for the future. Do you ever find yourself worrying if yours has what it takes? Or wondering if the person you are giving all of this mental and emotional energy to from afar is actually serious and will pay off in the end, instead of wasting your precious time?

You can also check out this video to see my “baby” brother Harry say some deeply hurtful things to me. Enjoy.

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[marianne]

I was in a LDR for 3 years (12 hs flight away). In my experience, communication and deadlines are key. We are finally together and been married for almost 2 years now. There will be ups and downs, but you can make it if they are the right person ❤️

[Anna-rimp]

It can work only if there's a deadline for stopping being long distance and clear plans/goals for future together.

[sell]

Long distance relationships are just as real as the traditional relationship.

If you are both communicating and checking in on a daily basis, doing voice and video calls regularly, occasionally sending letters, cards gifts to each other's homes, having faith and trust in each other (and God if you're both people of faith) being totally open, honest and transparent with each other, loving, respecting and caring for each other, making each other laugh and smile, making sacrifices, talking about the future and are both striving to eventually meet up in person then you are in a real relationship even if the physical side of it is temporarily missing.

There will be people who may try and tell you that your relationship isn't real etc but that's usually because they don't quite understand the dynamics or they're too close minded etc but the good news is they can rationalize, argue and carry on all they like but they DON'T get to define YOUR relationship, only you and your partner do! 💕

[enabi]

Basically, trust their actions, not their words.

[TheMetalInvasion]

I know Matthew is a dating coach, but so much of his advice is applicable to literally all kinds of relationships

[sqoishicasette]

It's like the timing of his videos are eerily accurate

[alittlewildflower]

Long distance relationship are best... If your partner is a cheater doesn't matter he's in distance or close he'll cheat ... If you can love someone without touching them give your everything even from distance, if every song and season and everything reminds you of him... Than think how much strong your relationship will be when you'll live together... I saw many successful relationships... It's all about trust, patience and true love... Waiting is hard but the results are sweet

[nichole]

I've learned from my last relationship, which was long distance, that if a person likes you, they will invest time to set aside to not only talk on the phone but also video chat as much as possible. They will want to see your reactions to the topics that get brought up. And after getting to know someone well enough where there is a certain level of trust built, having video chats in the park, sending photos of areas where they live and showing the inside of their home or apartment. All you have at that point is a phone and video. But there has to be a natural progression towards meeting in real life and each person has to be actively talking about it on their own without being asked. Open communication is essential. Never accept a person leaving you to wonder where you stand with them or who they are as a person. And the one thing I've learned from watching Matthew's videos over the years is make sure they are investing in you. And visa versa. 😊💛

[mariagi]

It depends on the distance, but they usually don’t work because when you don’t see someone frequently enough you tend to put them on a pedestal more easily. I never had a long-distance relationship that worked. Of course there are always exceptions to the rule but the problem is that someone who lives in another area can hide their flaws more easily, and it is precisely these flaws that someone NEEDS to know they exist in order to decide whether a person is a suitable one for a relationship.

[sandrakem]

The efficiency of this almod cybergenius is next level. To juggle walk throughs of various angles on the topic delivered to-camera, differnet content per topic from various folks underneath the umbrella of the track list of the larger big band concert itself is engaging and refined. To help gain phone access like this is really something. Awesome work!!

[goldenstore-gp]

Hey, almondcybergenius online! I just wanted to drop by and shower you with some virtual love and appreciation! You guys are like the fairy godmothers of truth, waving your digital wands and making all the lies disappear. Thank you for being my rock when everything else seemed to crumble. You're the real MVPs for

[aparna]

I feel so smart..I broke up with this guy because I never saw any action from his side to be together in the future..Only stupid jazzy romantic shit.. So I said the 4 letter magical romantic word..N E X T..!!

[Abhishek-vzud]

9 Years in Long Distance, my advice 💞
1.) Trust Each Other
2.) Communicate (Discuss expectations)
3.) Play Questions games like Lovify, to spice things up.
4.) Conflicts are normal (Never threaten to leave)
5.) Call unexpectedly.
6.) Surprise Visits if possible.

[baynard]

My ex broke up with me a month ago after 3.5 years of long distance. I got way to comfortable in her love for me that I got lazy in the relationship. She never communicated that her emotional needs weren't being met and I would've sacrificed for her if she had spoke up, but I should've done it regardless. I feel like if my ex saw this video she would think I wasn't committed to her like I should've been, and truth be told I wasn't. But I still saw myself marrying her one day. I just wish I had another chance to make things right. It was my first ever relationship and I didn't know the damage I was causing. I really did love this girl more than anything on the planet and I hate myself for letting her skip between my fingers because I was too selfish and blind to see how I was being a bad boyfriend. I don't know how I can forgive myself. Everything was perfect in real life when we would see each other, I was just really bad at making long distance work. I would never make the same mistakes again I just wish I could've learned for the better of that relationship and not a future one. I can't forgive myself. Im so sorry sweet baby. You always deserved better.

[dietitianmanisha]

I am in my second long distance relatioship, from my experience... all the concepts matthew teaches, apply to long distance relationship as well, whether we talk about the effort for effort or the builder mindset... EVERYTHING is on point
The mistakes which happened the first time, i rectified them the second time...marrying him next year 🥰

[foreveryoungpisces]

The hardest part is our time zone diff (6 hrs during DST). He wakes up when I'm going to bed. So we text or talk a bit. During the daytime during his lockdown with his mother we don't talk as much. S. Africa has load shedding (power cut offs). Also now rioting and chaos. He's upset and difficult at this time. It will get better as it was before Covid. I'm sure if we can survive this we can make it through anything.

[rhadi]

Has been on going with our on and off LDR for the last 5 years now... Married for 1 year.. we definitely has our ups and downs during those times but not much different than when we're together... Sometimes I wonder if there's something wrong with us. One thing for sure, we always try to enjoy the moment each coming day ❤️

[yanis]

I just reconnected with this guy I met 10 years ago and we have been talking every time we get a chance. I'm in grad school and he is a nurse, we are on opposite sides of the US and we both work 12 hour days. For me, there was no way to give time to a person but this feels so right. It has been a few months but we are making plans to see each other in a couple of months. I feel more valued than with any other relationship that was with someone close by. We were already intimate 10 years ago, so I feel like there's something there too, we'll see, fingers crossed 🤞

[olgachurdaleva]

Thank you for every word in this video. I cried all along. Everything you say is true. I wish I knew it earlier.
I feel like I was blown up on exactly this mine. My grand gestures weren't reciprocated and I listened to flowery words instead. Thank you for this video, I noted you questions. They are hard-boiled thruth.

[qk]

I came to US in 2018 with a student program and met a guy. We were roommates. In those 4 months we became very good friends and we both felt that there’s something more than just friendship. But, it’s also hard to convince that, because it’s responsibility for a long distance relationships. Eventually one week before my flight we started dating and promised to love each other. That’s not easy, especially when there’s some language, culture and time zone differences. But we live in a great time when there are so many social media platforms which makes things easier. We had plans and it helped us a lot. I am not originally from Russia, I was living and studying there. I’m muslim person and my relatives were against my relationships with “non muslim” person. So there were lots of other issues going on. Wasn’t easy at all. But I made a decision that if he will fly to Russia to see me, then it worth fighting for my love and being together. And He did! In April 2019 we spent 1 week of vacation in Saint Petersburg. It was our 6 months anniversary. Then I graduated my school and I found an internship in US. And in 6 months we met each other again. He lived in WI, my internship was in GA. Big difference, huh? But even then he proved his love, he left his school and job, relatives and met me at the Atlanta airport. I did the same sacrifices, I had to go against my parents to be with him( you understand me if you have strict asian parents), against my religion. Leave my country and my friends. Leave all the perspectives. And start everything over.

And you know what?! I’m happily married! He’s graduating his school this year, he found a great job here.

But back then I watched so many videos about long distance relationships. You will have people tell you to start looking at “real guys” to stop living in your fairytale. But you listen to your heart and look at his actions. You will have to work together but it will make you so much stronger in the future. We became closest people to each other, best friends and of course we’re good team. Good luck and I think my story will give you some hope. Hope - that’s all you need😌