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Have you ever dated someone who’s so hard to stay away from EVEN THOUGH they’re not interested in a relationship and you know you should keep your distance? It’s like a drug . . . or the worst kind of junk food . . . even after you swear it off for good, your resolve crumbles the moment they reach out.

When you’re in this vulnerable position, the hope that they may change and that things could be different is what drags you back in. And before you know it, you go right back to feeling powerless—holding on to someone who’s not giving you what you need. So how can you break this cycle once and for all? Don’t miss today’s brand-new video!

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▼ Chapters ▼
0:00 – 0:29 – Free Confidence Challenge
0:29 – 2:12 – A Different Vision
2:12 – 3:12 – Anxiously Attached
3:12 – 4:55 – Trying to Achieve Security
4:55 – 6:15 – Your Basic Needs
6:15 – 8:33 – Grief and Safety vs. Hope and Anxiety
8:33 – 10:00 – “Enough Is Enough” Moments
10:00 – 13:24 – Reconnecting to the Truth
13:24 – 16:03 – Strengthening Your Confidence Muscle

[jojonavel]

Someone said:
“If you love someone set them free and if they come back, it means nobody liked them so set them free again” 💀

[deborahkeith]

If someone isn't ready for a relationship and you are, you should move on. Don't put yourself on hold for someone who may never commit to you

[kaicanyonellis]

7:54 "Grief and safety is better than hope and anxiety." That's fire right there.

[RP-nbxk]

This hit home for me. I am grieving so much of a relationship I had hoped for and the fantasy I built in my head. Safety + grief is better than hope and anxiety. I’m going to remember this each day as I heal ❤

[joshb]

I'm a man and this has happened to me. Ladies, it's not just you that go through this

[terra_t]

Relationships, potential partners are replaceable, but life is not. Your life is irreplaceable and it needs to be treated as such. AMEN!

[Sexytaco]

I'm a guy. When a guy says he doesn't want a relationship, that means with you. He's trying to keep you on hold to see if it works out with someone else, or find an upgrade. Plain and simple.

A guy will want a relationship with the person he wants.

[adisatyavachan]

The hope is false, the grieving is temporary ❤️

[BibaontheWay]

What an eye-opening video 🙏
"Grief and Safety are much better than Hope and Anxiety"
"Your life is irreplaceable..."

[janinaneuerberg]

When a man says 'I don't want a relationship' the ('with you') is silent. The person for you is out there and won't have to feel like you have to convince them to be with you x

[jerryh]

I'm a man and this happened to me. I had to walk away from her and deleted her from my contacts. Been over a month and still healing. Can't dedicate time and energy into something that's not going to flourish. Stay strong gents💪

[auralionasol]

STAY AWAY FROM AVOIDANT PEOPLE WHO ARE NOT DOING ANY WORK TO BE BETTER....you only live one time dont waste your life in the end they wont even miss that you are gone

[finegal.fineartist]

"Hope is false. You will stay anxious." This is right. I have to go through grief right now to feel secure about myself. 9 years of relationship but still he wasn't ready and doesn't see a future with me. Wow. Just wow.

[thechampuru]

Hear that ladies?? Works both ways! Do not chase! Whether you're a man or woman! If you have to work twice as hard for someone's attention and they can't make time for you? Move on to the next one! Plenty out there.

[eulennachathen]

I detached and distanced myself from this guy who is a great person but is in a messy and chaotic period of his life and is basically just surviving for now. Didn't kill my feelings though. Still have great affection for him. Just don't want to be strung along, cause I deserve better.

Sending him love and blessings everyday and including him in my prayers.

Maybe life will connect us again. Maybe not. It's up to God. I'm letting go.

[snapcracklepop]

I’m a man here and I was that brick wall. I dated a beautiful woman for almost two years. We had some really good times but I was too scared to move in with her because I thought I she wouldn’t like who I was on a day to day basis. We had a semi-long distance relationship and so we naturally progressed differently than other couples that see each other more often, but I used that as an excuse way too often. I would often avoid the conversation of moving in together and it took me way too long to realize why. I wasn’t happy with who I was. How can I truly love someone when I can’t even love myself. She saw obviously saw something in me, but I wouldn’t let myself believe I was worthy to be truly loved. I tried to be a little more open and honest with her about my struggles as time went on but in the end it was too late. She even called me a brick wall once and I couldn’t even appreciate where she was coming from because I was so locked in my own negative mindset. And so, to her and many others that have dealt with people like me, I’m sorry. I should not have entered her life when I wasn’t actually ready to be honest and love myself.

[lg]

I have found that “I don’t want to lose you” means “just in case what I want doesn’t want me, I want you to be there as a backup plan”. Moving up in someone’s ranking is indeed, an equation that can’t be solved

[kretivekels]

You give harsh truths but deliver them with such love, kindness and acceptance. I really love the work and words you share with the us all.

[Gio-m]

It’s been a year since I got the same “I’m not ready” speech. And this video popped up in my recommended today. All the advice you gave here mate is pristine. The most important thing said “Relationships are replaceable but your life isn’t”. It’s so true.

I did grieve for this full year, not going to lie, it still tinges every now and then. But I’m so glad I didn’t stay. Like you said grieving in a secure state of mind is much more beneficial than being led on anxiously hoping for someone to turn around.

Within the year, I’ve increased my income, saving towards a new home, made new friends (potential love interest too), and I’m looking into joining the Air Force. If I had stayed, I’d still be in the same job, same crappy area I didn’t like, and too focused on someone who most likely didn’t want me but just my company for their own healing.

Guys and girls, please save yourself the pain and use your time for something better too. They say pain is sometimes an artists best tool in creating masterpieces. Well use this as your tool to make your own life a masterpiece. Go get it 👊

[amandarowe]

Also a potential problem is that you are pursuing someone who says "I'm not ready" but continues to lead you on with affection, telling you they are attracted, that they can see a future with you, only afterwards to drop you into the hardest reality later by saying "I'm not ready. "