AVOIDANT WOMEN and ANXIOUS MEN - The risks this pairing brings, and how to make your romance work❤️

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[alicentmarveltrra]

The difference is that a secure man is a breath of fresh air, an anxious one sucks all the oxygen out of the room.

[Arquebusier]

I finally understand parasympathetic system, sympathetic system, how it links to the anxious-avoidant dynamics, nice guy concepts. Never been clear till now. Everything starts to click.

[shindoggy]

thank you Adam for your service and support for all of us

[MystoRobot]

*I now have a battle plan to help her!*
Thank you so much! Also, thank you for providing a POSITIVE and HOPEFUL (and above all, WORKING) path for couples to work it all out. Too many people just give up without considering that there may very well be children in these families, and they need to see their parents heal together in order to develop in the best possible way.

[LindaMendl-Kalb]

This hit the nail on the head for me. I actually felt anxiety and then overwhelming sadness watching this.

[powderpuff]

I love that you are doing this combo. Thank you!!!!

[KennethGreen-hkhb]

Met an avoidant women..ive always been relatively secure..after a yr with her i was becoming anxious. I do love her did all the wrong things lol. Everything was opposite of anyone ive ever dated

[BeckyJB]

Avoidant women video! Wow what a treat 💙

[newfreedom]

I didn't know about the avoidant woman, I was secure and was transfered into a anxious, then into a nut case, and back to secure, now no contact her choice, it is so soul crushing, but I leave a light on, hoping that she can explore what attachment theory is.

[linychan]

Although a good try, this one should really stick to the male avoidant part.
There are many really good Women psychologists, who explain how some women tend and/or become avoidant Listen to them, they will explain it better, because they actually understand or have done the work to heal from it.
And no, avoidant women don't like barbed wire or whatever. They do like flowers and chocolates. Being hyper independent, they'll just get it themselves and not wait on a guy, who gets it for Valentine's day.

[QuantumHealingLounge]

This was the situation I was in with my last 2 serious relationships, the last one where I called off an engagement. Overall I didn't have any skills or empathy for a male with anxiety. I couldn't understand how they could shut down under stress vs suck it up and get the job done. I didn't want to be the man in the relationship. I wanted to be able to unfold and be soft because I so rarely get to express my feminine side bc I am wearing all the hats. I also have a strong libido, but became disgusted by the emotional neediness and coddling to manage someone elses' panic attacks, etc.

[CryptoTaurusMoon]

It is very easy to go from secure to anxious over time as the avoidant behavior increases, especially not knowing what the hell is happening. Avoidant women can feel controlled by the smallest things and when you communicate issues they just get defensive and entrenched even more in their avoidance. If the avoidant woman does not want to recognize their avoidant behavior.. Good luck

[slidewayzevoix]

I'm dealing with a dismissive avoidant woman, mother of two and our relationship is going into 5mo next month. We were friends at first and then started dating. She recently communicated me that she's in fight or flight mode but that's it... Nothing about when we'll be able to re connect or anything. It's been a whole week now and haven't heard anything from her. I think I will keep an open mind considering she has a lot on her plate dealing with her kids and all. But she does know my birthday is coming up on Nov 9th. So I feel if she doesnt reach out for my bday then thats ok, I will keep my line of communications open but if she doesn't resch out by then I will move on, relationship wise and go from there. I care a lot about her and Adam, your videos came in handy through the past months dealing with her. The dismissive avoidant woman is really tough though!

[mikek]

36:20 very interesting about oxytocin phobic response. I think my avoidant gf has this :(

[MarcelleR.Shrake]

Have avoidant women been emotionally negelected as a child?

[Huntyvr]

My man is not effeminate at all. He is a good provider and works hard. Very manly and strong. But he desires the emotional intimacy whereas I am avoidant because I don’t feel safe. He thinks I’m cold and distant. We haven’t had sex or any kind of physical intimacy for like 7 years! Because he wants the emotional first before the physical. I don’t know how to be emotionally intimate when we’re so physically separate. It’s been so long, I’m not even talking about touching! I just want us to sit close and open up a safe environment for talking and connecting. It feels like we’re always in separate rooms or talking from 10 feet away. I don’t feel safe to open up. We sleep in separate rooms. We sit in separate rooms. I don’t know how to fix this.

[Hesperell]

Perception of anxious woman: typical, has needs, is valid, heals through growing in self-love and self-respect
Perception of avoidant man: typical, emotionally stunted, stoic man, frustrating but highly desirable, and fixable
Perception of avoidant woman: unusually strong and independent, powerful, capable, cool, badass, highly desirable, doesn't need to change
Perception of anxious man: not a man, unworthy, invalid, heals by pulling himself up by his own bootstraps, but probably won't, so should disappear

[RockingRebelYell]

I have a weakness for avoidant women with my Disorginized attachment style.

[kashmirirose]

I suspect that my ex is avoidant, while I'm anxious. Since she reached out to me, I've changed my approach by not being there for her until she "cries uncle" and contacts me...I now suspect that when she contacts me is when she wants some. Kind of like a man who contacts a woman when he wants some. God, that was difficult to write. The only thing is that she revealed to me that it's difficult to survive without me being there. I don't think she's saying that she can't make it; she's just saying that the load is too heavy for her.

[Arquebusier]

Both need each other and hate each other, been reading about the power struggle phase of relationship. The things that you need or desire in life, is actually coming back and testing you in the phase

I know there are avoidant women who are just the invisible office lady. What a shame and waste. Could have used her avoidant traits and become the next female boss, but she is just too avoidant to do it. Oh, and all the ladies on dating sites who just want to talk and never want to meet

Thank you for this video