How to Deal with Toxic Family Member?? #dilsetalk

[ananyasingh_]

I don't even know how the youtube algorithm worked to pop-up your video in my recommendations. But I am grateful that it happened. The kind of positive and inspirational vibes you have is very soothing and motivating.
P.S- I am preparing for law not CA but still I find her advise very helpful.
Thankyou so much Neha Dii😌🎆

[sakshiraj]

It hurts that my family is toxic and psycho but it hurts more when u realize that they never gonna realize what they are... i wish i become self independent woman soon...

[trisha]

After every horrible fight in front of me in my family.. I am here.. to calm myself down.. to breathe...

[kirtibhatt]

Kuch log itne toxic hote hain ki unke liye blessing bhi nahi nikalti😒😒😭😭

[tamannasingh]

Sometimes life experiences makes us the person we're not supposed to be 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭

[shrutiverma]

My whole family is toxic including my parents 😢

[bhuvi]

Why it is always like.. jab koi dost ya kisi ka partner toxic ho toh hume direct bol diya jata h ki dur ho jao unse, distance bana lo, block krdo, etc. But no-one say's ki unhe samjho. In the exact same way zaroori ni h ki maa-baap humesha hi sabke ache ho, ya sabke maa-baap frustrated Kuch maa-baap ACTUALLY TOXIC hote h and people like me are dealing with this everyday! But nobody talks about it.

[gunjankargwal]

As a toxic family member i confirm she is telling 100% true💀

[vaideswarana]

I permanent stopped talking to my family members who were toxic. I only talk to my mom and dad, that's it. It really dosen't matter if a toxic person is your family members, you must get rid of them if you want to be mentally healthy. It took me years to learn this but the truth is in life, you must always put yourself first before others otherwise people will always keep taking advantage of you. Putting yourself first will elevate your self esteem and also protect you from getting hurt.

[nargisfirdous]

It is too horrible to face this person daily in your home.They torture u physically and mentally, and pretend that they are making u displined and well mannerd.You fell suffocated to be with them.Everyone please please pray for me to go away from their life as i am in depression due to them.Life is like burden to me...😭😭😭😭😭

[saniyasoge]

I just had argument with my so called toxic mother ...i was so tired as i have to handle household work as well as my enterace exam ... which i have failed 3 times cause iam mentally frustrated with my toxic family members ...and iam unable to study ..what my does she curse abuse verbally and physically and iam actually tired of her so much that i dont belive in mother and daughter bond ...i was a dropper and i have to stay home all the night to study but as iam 20 i have to do household but my complains about my work all the time and i guess she is the worse mother ever i hate her i hate her ....i was such a confident and shining person now my whole life seems to be dark night without moon light ....i hate her i hate her..and dont believe in mothers and daughter bond...mothers only love their sons and not daughters ...mothers are witches ..

[manwi]

Maine to apne family members ko bhi block kr rakha hai 🤣 infact I ignore my father also main kise se baat he nhi krte by the way I am neet aspirant pray for me guys 🥺💞

[ahanasharma]

Didi chup rehne se bhi koi fayda ni hota vo apne frustration humpe nikl dete h meri mummy mere papa ye dono apne life k tension frustration ko mujhpe niklti h specially meri mummy subha se lekr rat tk galiya dena marna choti choti bat pe jghre lgana krti h..mujhe bht marte pitte hai santi se reh bhi ni pati ghrpe 2 mint bhi 😭😭8 sal se continue face krrhi hu yesb or meri confidence bhi low krdete h kehte h tum kbhi kuch ni krskti apne life m tum bekar ho isliye ab m situation se nikl bhi ni parhi roz ladai jghre marpit sehna pdhta h is chiz se niklne ka koi rasta ni milrha 😭

[prongs]

Very good advice.
I would like to add some points. Add. Not negate. So take it along with what she has already said.
1. You can, infact, go no contact with or minismise contact with family. You can also real life block ppl when they're behaving unreasonably(act as if you can't see or hear them, greet everyone elss but not them, ignore them, act as if they are air, they will ultimately give up after a tantrum, if they care about what other ppl think, they won't even throw a tantrum). This is usually used for others not family members, and it is not very mature but its not malicious either. Don't use it to aggravate or provoke people, its not even very effective that way. Use it for people with whom communication is useless. To protect your inner peace. Its passive resistance. Just total non reaction to whatever they do. Good or bad.
2. I'm a firm believer AGAINST that stupid notion in our society that "no matter what you can't turn your back on family". Loyalty is a two way street. Not blood ties, not age, nothing is a valid reason for you to tolerate disrespect and respect those who don't act in a way to earn respect. No need to listen to such nonsense and abase yourself. Maintain distance and dignity. If you want to turn your back on toxic people, do it. Its good and healthy. Blood relatives don't get a free pass. You can say if they get therapy n improve themselves your door will reopen for them if anyone criticises you using idiotic cultural norms(aka peer pressure from dead ppl).
3. Just because you understand and sympathise with the reason behind ppl's unreasonable unfair behaviour does not mean you have to tolerate it. Don't take this and run with it and go around invalidating OTHER people who have been wronged by toxic ppl and try to explain n defend the toxic person and tell the victim to be understanding and the bigger person. Don't ask that from yourself if the victim of their antics is you. Understanding the reason behind their toxic behaviour is for you to feel liberated. Not to excuse them. Bad experiences are no excuse to turn into a bitter horrible person. Lots of people go thru horrible things and remain kind. That is what an adult is supposed to do. Letting bad experiences n frustration twist your personality is no excuse to go around mistreating ppl. You are not obligated to tolerate it n be kind to toxic ppl. Maintain distance n protect your peace n just feel free because it has nothing to do with you. People are responsible for their own lives. They themselves should realise n fix it and if they don't its because they don't want to. Life is supposed to be about constant self improvement.
#ProtectYourPeace

[MsMKA]

Kisi ki maa hi aisi ho, bad Duaen galiyan dena, character assassination ..
Even chilla chilla k rasty me bh yhi sb..
I totally understand you and thank you for this I'm just sharing my feeling ... Kahen or bol nahi sakti na

[finuture]

Excellent message!!

No words to admire, the way reality has been articulated!

[eblvofq]

I'm preparing for competitive exam... Im at home all day in my room... I hateee my toxic parents. Need to remove them in my life 🥺

[Priyanka__nahar]

My own brother is very toxic nd abused me daily nd it's increasing day by day he is so negative nd every single times he curse everyone around him i pray he get mental peace nd hope he get some mental peace ✌️ hope universe help me 🥲

[fizaansari]

You are so calm . That's how I am following you. 💯

[CA_Divya]

What if they are your own parents? It really hurt and painful we can't say that moment bless them coz when they keep cursing u.. Using slang language for u like we can't explain...
I don't understand why people choose to be parent and ruin their child life... I have final exam in next month nobody really give shit I am hell trying to ignore but there are some people who remain same every day I felt so bad to be part of them