If You Have Toxic Parents, Watch This

When you’re asked “What was it like growing up?” – is your immediate feeling one of warmth, support, or wholesomeness? …Or do you suddenly feel a little tense, remembering consistent criticism, feeling shame, or being a scapegoat for everything?

That parental relationship could be troubled and toxic, which would leave you, even now feeling confused, maybe anxious, or lost. Hopefully, this video helps will help you out there find some hope or at least a starting point to healing.

Writer: Syazwana Amirah
Script Editor: Denise Ding
Script Manager: Kelly Soong
Animator: Avneet Kaur
YouTube Manager: Cindy Cheong

[Psychgo]

Curious to know where everyone is from. Comment below. Let's connect with each other.

[baroness]

Every child deserves a loving parent, But not every parent deserves a child.

[lincty]

the worst thing about having toxic parents is living with toxic sending warm wishes to those who are currently healing on their own. you are so strong and capable of everything ❤

[escherichanja]

Growing up with toxic parents is like growing up with people who underestimate you and treat you, as if you are stupid and lack knowledge.

[Simon]

0:46 accept that they won't change
2:11 you are the master of your own happiness
2:45 acknowledge that you are not at fault
3:24 you're not irreparably broken
4:16 forgiving them is not required

Remember, you don't need to be parents' wished identity, you are the only one who can decide yourself ❤❤❤

[Ditto]

I have toxic parents. I stopped seeing them a few years ago and only then did life start to feel safe and positive. My relationship with my children is wonderful. I somehow found it within me to stop history repeating itself. This is the single greatest achievement in my life!

[mokgadi]

I actually cried while watching this video and I needed to hear what was being said...one of the hardest things about having toxic parents, is living with them.

[iiheartamber]

Hearing that all the abuse wasn't my fault made me start crying lmao 💀

[Agent.K.]

One thing that hurts me a lot is when everyone around (family and strangers) respects me and then one of my parents talks ill about me tries to ruin my image. It’s just sad. This ruined my confidence in teenage years even when everyone else was cheering for me I let the negative remarks weigh me down. You can’t have it all perfect in life I guess…

[cailinrugema]

i think the hardest thing about toxic parents, is realising they never change, when i heard the video say that i started crying.

[simranjeetkaur]

This is what i needed because i have a toxic mother, literally clicked the video faster than anything else♥️

[-pastaman-]

Some brief points for people that cannot watch the video:

1. Accept that they won't change
- You are not the problem
2. You are the master of your own happiness
3. Acknowledge that you are not at fault for your childhood pain
- It is or was *not* your fault.
4. You are not irreparably broken
- It's possible to heal up, but it's going to take up effort.
5. Forgiving them is not required for healing to begin
- Though, you need to acknowledge that it happened.

Have a good day!

[CammyTheSportsEntertainer]

Alot of parents have alot to answer for. Always thinking they "know best" for their kid is very dangerous sometimes. For example, they've killed a child's dream because they thought it was best they didn't do such an activity or they said to the kid they didn't have what it takes. Parents who insult their kids are the worst. Kids test your patience but you never insult them because it damages their self-esteem. Sometimes parents need to step back and allow their kid to follow a dream, and support them. Over-bearing parents can cause kids to lack self-confidence and the ability to develop relationships which is integral to a child's growth and development. I relate to this video.

Thank you again Psych2Go your content again helps so much.

[edyann]

Oh, I had horrible parents. Some people are just not born to be a mother or father.

[wyoqpiy]

This video came out at the right time, I've been struggling with a toxic racist mother who is overly dependent and controlling who wouldn't let me work or even go out with friends at the age of 23, and is already planning to reach out to my uncle for help this Monday, I've also contacted my father (they are separated) for help and he's helping me with getting me my own car to kickstart my independent journey into getting my own job and money, I'll be staying with my uncle or dad until I could find myself a job and collect enough money to get my own rent house.

[SLa-pbgg]

That last one! Also, don’t let them use religion to guilt you into forgiveness

[montannaswearingen]

I'm 23. My toxic parent continues to be as toxic as ever. What's worse is that not only does this affect me, but they are a grandparent and regularly tells me I should be parenting differently. More like them. As their child, I know for a fact that I am doing the right thing by breaking cycles.

[norjannahabto]

Needed this so bad. I have been sorrounded by red flags my whole life up until now. Wasted my teenage years listening to my manipulative parents. Havent had the time or day that I go home and they won't get mad. I'm already in my early 20's yet still treated as a grade schooler. Getting scolded and humiliated in public is something that I grew up with

[davidliu]

The hurtful thing is that half of the time they're still caring and providing, and you know that they want the best for you. It's painful to think that it's the same persons that threw things at you out of pure rage...something that they have never done to anyone else except to you. Makes me think, am I just a terrible child?

[amberpasta]

Prefect timing. Today I had a fight with my father. He has a habit of just blowing up at me over silly things. I can’t ask him to do anything cause it usually ends with him yelling at me and him saying “don’t tell me what to do!” About an hour later he came to me and tried to “apologize” but what he really did was just give me a life story on how his traumas have affected him and that it’s not his fault for how he reacted but that he’s sorry that he did. This is not an apology. I understand; I can empathize and sympathize that he has his traumas. But, if you’re truly sorry for your actions you wouldn’t not excuse yourself; you would try to do better and be better. I tried to explain to him that he’s in control of his actions and that it’s no one else’s fault for how he handles his emotions. He proceeded to try and gaslight me and tell me that it was my fault he yells at me. He explained that out of all of his kids I’m the only one that he yells at. So there for in his mind it’s something that I do that triggers him. In reality although my father may say he loves me I truly don’t believe it. He has done many things to spite me and hurt me. I know I’ll never have a loving father-daughter relationship with him and honestly I don’t want one. I’m happy and secure in who I am; I’m just tired of him trying to derail me in my efforts to find stability.