What is Codependency and How to Overcome It?

Melody Beattie, author of "Codependent No More," shares strategies use in dealing with codependency in your own life.

[vnedecim]

1. detachment from the person to ease us into being comfortable with reality.
2. have goals and move forward or backwards (which way we want to go).

I wish you well, co-dependents! You can do it and recover :)

[cathyellis]

Her book of daily devotions- THE LANGUAGE OF LETTING GO never gets old! ❤ Al-Anon is the gift I gave myself. 🙏🏼 Let go and Let God!!

[caryzigrossi]

I am an adult child of alcoholics, a nurse and a mother of three. I’m concerned that there is little discussion of this topic compared to when I was a young person in the 1980s and 1990s. I too benefited greatly from Melody’s books and would love to help with reigniting the public interest in this topic!

[lab]

A pioneer in recovery. Melody Beattie helped me with addiction and codependency. The Language of Letting Go is my go-to daily read. I can’t think Melody enough. She made it through losing her son, and still gave to the recovery communities. Love her. Thanks for having this great teacher on your program Katie. 💯♥️

[Mezzie]

Melody Beattie has really opened my eyes and my heart… I relate so much to her story and the evolution of codependency, and what it is, and it’s simplest terms… Loving somebody more than we love ourselves. Learning to set boundaries.

[dianayows]

Melody, your words hit such truth within. I have worked through many forms of addiction... this last addiction took form in just the manner of which you speak. Loving someone else more than myself.... essentially looking for my self validation from that person I loved so deeply. On the other foot, I am very independent, to which I am blessed as I never tolerated for long someone or something to undervalue me before total self devastation and destruction. Now, finally, I recognized this behavior, and realized that I ultimately undervalued myself and others were just mirroring my thoughts about myself. I love your words... may all who listen to your words be blessed to find the strength within to heal their traumas no matter how subtle and subliminal their traumas may appear. There is nothing greater than self love to put oneself on a most loving path forward. Bless you and your work to heal other humans and hand back to them their own loving hearts to cherish forever. 😍 ❤

[CeciliaYaman]

Dear Melody, Thank you from the bottom of my heart. Forever grateful. Much love to you always.

[yellowgirl]

I’m reading her new revised version now and stumbled across this video. This was great. I feel encouraged to dive further into her books

[phemery]

❤u and am so grateful, Melody---you saved my life literally and spiritually several times. I go back to your books quite often when I need a reminder. Your books were so special, unique, helpful, etc., back in the day when 1st published and still now. Thank you really

[WTZ]

I remember back in 1989, I found Codependent No More when I was in a relationship with an abusive alcoholic. Thank you, Melody. This book gave me hope and a way out of being codependent. ❤

[johngreen]

I am so great full for Melody’s work in codependence. I have been reading her work for years and I am making slow process. When I saw that she revised Codependent no more, I instantly bought it. God bless you Melody and thank you for the help you have been in my life!

[carmenl]

I'm currently doing IFS therapy, and for the first time in my (58-year-old) life, I can feel this little child inside myself yearning for love, recognition, care and safety—all the things I didn't get in my childhood and was desperately hoping to get from another person.
Thinking rationally has no value because it doesn't stick. But Katie is right about getting still and nurturing yourself. Unfortunately, that means detachment from all those toxic influences in your life. It's a difficult process, but it's so worth it!
I wish everyone a safe home-bringing of that deeply hurt part inside you.

[Therika]

“I’m gonna be dealing with a group of my mom.” Lol! I so relate, and I’m so glad I joined an Al Anon group and read Melody’s books. Thank you!

[cathyellis]

Rreading your CODEPENDENTS GUIDE TO THE 12 STEPS now. It's fantastic, just like THE LANGUAGE OF LETTING GO.

[MelissaP]

So grateful for your words, resonated so deeply for me. I recently figured out my codependent nature, struggling so this is what I needed right now. Buying the book now! Thank you so very much! ❤❤

[nyhusglen]

Melody you changed my life, your book is well used. ❤❤❤❤❤

[JohnOakes-mwls]

Thank you so much for this video! You have explained so eloquently and wisely, with such compassion what codependency is! I am really grateful. 🙏🙏🙏

[anna-mariamargariti]

Wow Melanie you look gorgeous! Thank you for your work❤❤

[mjm]

Thank you for sharing your wisdom, experience, and expertise!

✌❤🌎

[cstephenfoster]

wow, I love this! so helpful. detachment. I am thinking of all the coda stuff I've suffered in acting & writing.